Hello my wonderful friends! You asked for it and here it is. This is how a girl
wants you to text her, specifically what to say. Not only does this come from my
insight as a woman and my training as a certified coach, but I have also
researched this extensively for you guys so that you can know how to text a girl
and how to get a girl to like you. A big part of knowing how to get a girlfriend
is knowing how to text her and how to interact with her. I have a bonus tip at
the end of this video that actually is highly effective when texting girls, but
a lot of people don't even think about it or know about it so be sure to watch
to the end. Before we get started be sure to subscribe and ring that notification
bell. My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men. I help you get
the girl of your dreams. I am also the creator of the online course How to Get
a Girlfriend. Be sure to check out the link in the
description below so you can learn how you can get your dream girl. I recently
made this video which is 5 Rules for Texting Girls, Knowing How to Attract and
Impress Them. And I did this video which is How to Flirt with Women Over Text. Now
we're going to be getting into what to say to a girl when you are texting her.
P.S. If you have not seen either of those two videos there are links in the
description below. They're really really helpful and when you use the tips of all
three of these videos together it's highly effective. So be sure to check
those out as well. So let's get started. This is how to text a girl, this is how a
girl wants you to text her. Number one is to break the ice. If you have seen this
video you know that usually the most effective pick-up lines and lines to
break the ice are the most simple lines. P.S. If you haven't seen that video there
is the link in the description below. But basically the more simple,
straightforward, and clearer you can be the better.
We tend to over complicate this in our mind. So something as simple as "Hey, how
are you?" is a good icebreaker text. It's even better if
you can include her name in that. Whenever you can use her name without
overdoing it it is very very impactful. So "Hey," whatever her name is "how are you
doing?" Or "Hey, I was just thinking about you. How are you doing?" That one totally
wins extra points because it lets her know you were thinking about her and
that's cute and a little bit flirtatious. Now if you just met her
maybe you just got her phone number, send her a text within 24 hours "Hi, this is"
whatever your name is "it was so fun to meet you." or "I'm so glad this person
introduced us." If you give her a reference of how you met or how you
got her number or whatever then it gives you more opportunity to create
conversation and expand upon the topic. Here's one of the biggest things you
need to know when knowing how to text a girl and throughout this whole video,
don't overthink it, okay? Just breathe. I know this can feel overwhelming and
scary, but the truth is you don't have to do this perfectly, there's no such thing
as doing it perfectly, and it's okay to feel a little bit awkward and a little
bit nervous. Huge news flash for you, guys, she does too, okay? As girls we
feel nervous and we feel awkward too. And that's totally okay. As a matter of fact
that can help bring you closer together when you mutually feel that way. You
both know that you are just talking to someone trying to break the ice, trying
to create conversation. So don't overthink it, you can't mess this up, this
is not about being perfect at it. It is literally about trying to break the ice
and trying to talk to her. That's it. She is aware of that, it is also her job to
help carry the conversation. And a good girl who's interested in you she's not
gonna try and test you and it's not pass or fail, she's just going to be excited
that you are talking. That is one of the reasons it is so important to make sure
you are only associating with nontoxic girls. So release the pressure right now
it's all good. You're just breaking the ice, keep it simple. Number two is just
make fun conversation. You can ask her how her day has
been, you can ask her how work went, you can ask her if she has done anything fun
recently. Basically just be interested in her, let her know you are interested in
what's going on in her life and how she's doing and that will come across as
very authentic, it will show her that you are pursuing her and it's going to make
her feel really good. It will also help things feel very very natural. So when
you are trying to come up with some conversation ideas and things you can
talk about it's a really good idea to find some common ground and build off of
that. Some really good ways to start a conversation are to find some common
ground. So how did you meet? Do you know some of the same people? Do you go to
some of the same locations? Do you work together? Finding the things you know you
have in common, that will help you a lot to be able to just start a conversation
off of that. I can't give you specific lines necessarily, I will be giving you
suggestions throughout this video. But guys the whole point is for her to get
to know you and if I give you a list of lines then you are going to have to
depend completely on the lines that I give you and I can't sit over your
shoulder and teach you what to text to this girl and that's not the point. tTe
point is for you to become a boss, to become confident and independent of my
guidance. So that's why I'm not going to be giving you specific lines, because the
truth is there is no right or wrong as long as you are following the basic
guidelines. So feel free to elaborate and really just be you. A good girl who
just really thinks a guy is really cute, she just wants to know you, okay?
There's no games, there's no tricks, there's no perfect magic line, that's a
that's a lie and she just wants to know you, that's it. So breathe, it's good. If
she expects you to say just the right line or she's gone, dude you don't want
her, okay? You just don't. That screams high maintenance. So basically it just
comes down to asking her questions, showing her that you are interested in
her and how things are going for her. You can ask
her about her career, you can ask her about her day, etc. etc. Asking her
questions and just getting some basic conversation is what your goal is for
now. Then you want to move on to step number three and this is about asking
her out. Your goal here is not to just become texting buddies. That is one of
the best ways to get friend-zoned and you don't want that. You want her to know
that you are pursuing, that you are interested, otherwise she will lose
interest and/or she's going to be kind of hurt because she's going to think
you're not interested in her. So you want her to know from the start that you are
interested. So you've broken the ice, you've made some fun conversation, got to
know her a little bit, let her get to know you a little bit, then you ask her
if she would like to go out with you. Now I do want to mention, at the time of filming
this video right now we are in the middle of a pandemic
so social interaction is highly restricted. However, that's okay, don't let
that daunt you. You can still let her know that you would like to take her out when
this is all over, because we all know it's going to be over. It's actually
important that you do take that step. One so you just know if you're wasting your
time or not chatting with her, and two so that she knows what your intentions are.
Otherwise again, she's going to feel hurt and she's going to misunderstand
and it's a really good way to end up in the friend zone. So you could just send
her a text after you've made some conversation "I would really like to take
you out as soon as this is all over and we can get back out again. Is that
something that you would enjoy or something you'd be up for?" And then from
there you can always be texting throughout this. Stay in contact with her
and you could even just say "Hey I know we can't see each other in person right
now, but if you have some time to chat then let's chat." You could ask her where
she would like to go when you do go out and you could ask her what her favorite
food is and pick up on some really important keys
that will help you know where to take her when you do go out. And you can just
have fun and get to know each other. So step number three is ask her out so that
you do not get friend-zoned. You want her to know that you are pursuing and you
aren't interested. That will raise the attraction level dramatically and help
her not misunderstand. Quick question before we get to tip number four. I have
been thinking about doing some videos on dating apps and online dating. If that is
something you guys would enjoy be sure to comment "Yes!" in the comments below. And
if you have any specific ideas you would like me to address be sure to leave that
in the comments as well. Just let me know. Now tip number 4 is to continue to
talk to her through text. Even once you go out and stuff, feeling connected and
being able to chat throughout the day is huge. It helps build the attraction,
it gives plenty of opportunities to flirt, which is amazing, it helps you get to know
each other, and really helps you come closer to each other. And as a quick side
note guys, after you get home from the date if you enjoyed the date and if you
would like to go out with her again, send her a quick text saying "Hey, thank you so
much that was so fun." What this does is depending on her response helps you
know if she's open to a second date or not. If she sounds excited and "Oh yeah we
should totally do something again sometime." then yes it's good to ask her
out again. If she doesn't reply or if she doesn't sound enthusiastic or she takes
like two days to reply, yeah you know she's not interested. So that is a really
good hack, it will also again that's pursuing, helps her know you are
interested so it's a very very good habit to get into. So how do you keep the
conversation going and continue texting her and keeping it fun and interesting?
Again we're back to asking questions and I have some really good ideas for you
here. If you did see my last video 5 Rules When Texting Girls you know that
one of my favorite things to do is play 20 questions. It opens you up to be able
to ask questions that might seem a little bit random otherwise. Sometimes
they can be even deeper questions like relationship questions. It can also open
you up for really fun playful questions. So I have a list of some good questions
you can ask her. I'm going to be reading it so I don't forget any of them. But you
can ask her what her favorite show is to binge, we've all got one. You can ask her
"If you could go anywhere in the world where would it be?" And then you can
elaborate on that. "Why?" All of these questions you can follow up with other
questions. "Why?" "What is something random about you that
most people don't know?" "What was your dream job when you were a kid?" "What is
your favorite food?" You can ask her what her favorite book to read is, you can ask
her what her favorite scripture verse is. You can ask her what her favorite form
of exercise is, you can ask her what her favorite vegetable is and what her least
favorite vegetable is. Basically you're just trying to get to know her. Be
creative and have fun with it and then listen to what she says and ask her more
questions about it. For instance you say "Where in the world
would you like to go most?" and she says "Italy." You can ask her "Why? What is it
about Italy that makes you want to go there?" Don't worry too much about it
being super random because again she's aware that you are just trying to get to
know each other. So it's okay to change topics and be kind of a random
about it, that's okay that's part of what makes it fun and spontaneous. And we are
to tip number five. And guys this one is maybe my favorite one, when a guy does
this it makes your whole day and it's really really cute.
Do not be afraid to send good morning and good night texts, especially if you
really feel like you've been getting to know each other pretty well recently.
This is probably a bit heavy for the first 24 hours obviously. So be sure
to give it a little bit of time, but once you started applying this it's really
cute. If you send her a good morning text and a good night text, and/or, this means
you are the first thing on her mind and/or the last thing on her mind before she
goes to bed. That's pretty powerful right there. And
also it's cute. It means you're thinking about her, she feels close to you, it
shows a sweet side and a soft side, and girls want to see that, it means a lot to
us. It's also a mutual topic. You both got up in the morning, you're both getting
ready for bed at night. So if you send her her good morning text you can ask
her what her day looks like and what fun things she has planned. It opens up all
kinds of potential and really helps you feel close to each other. That's my five
tips however I do have a bonus tip and it is don't be afraid to occasionally
take a picture and text that to her. Let's say you're playing with your dog,
you take a picture of your dog and send it to her. Maybe you're out for a morning
run, the sunrise is really pretty, text it's here and say "Good morning." and
something about a sunrise. Don't be afraid to take pictures and include that. You
obviously don't want to overdo it, but it totally helps you feel more
connected to each other and it helps you get to know each other better and it's
just more fun. Maybe your binge watching your favorite show. Take a picture of it
and send it to her. Honestly I always think it's really cute
when a guy does this when I'm texting him because he's cute
and I get to see him more and it's really fun. Text is so
plain so whenever you can add something visual to it it makes it so much more
fun. And in addition to that she could start sending you pictures of what she's
doing too which means, my friend, you would have pictures of a really cute
girl on your phone. So you know, that's just a plus. Now I don't think I need
to say this but I'm going to say it anyway.
Guys, keep it clean, okay? Across all your text especially pictures. One of the best
ways to make sure she loses all respect for you is to send her pictures that are
not g-rated, okay? If you want a girl to fall for you you need to maintain that
respect and if she doesn't have respect for you it's gone, it's over, it's done. So
make sure you're just keeping your pictures g-rated, okay?
And if she sends you pictures that are not g-rated, dude, you don't want her
because I guarantee you are not the only one she is sending pictures like that
too and it's just cheap and unattractive. There are all kinds of reasons why it
will actually affect your relationship, so I don't have time to get into it,
trust me guys. Keep it g-rated and make sure she keeps the g-rated too. As long as
you follow those guidelines guys, pictures can be highly effective and so
so fun. So get creative with it, take pictures, have fun, and really that's just
a really good rule for texting a girl, have a fun. Now speaking of getting a
girl to like you and getting a girlfriend be sure to check out my
online course How to Get a Girlfriend where I walk you step-by-step through
the process of becoming the dream guy for your dream girl. That sounds pretty
amazing, right? Just check out the link in the description below. Since so many of
us are quarantined right now it's the perfect time to learn the skills you
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I have a bonus tip at the end of this video that a lot of
people don't even... Yep. [laughter]