By the end of this video,
I'm going to give you six proof reasons that the narcissist does hate you.
But by the end of this video, I'm going to give you a
surprise reason why and explain it all to you.
So stay till the end.
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Okay, so I'm going to give you six reasons
that the narcissist does actually hate you.
But by the end of this video,
it will answer all your questions as to why.
All right.
They do this all the time,
and it makes them feel better.
That makes them more, feel superior to you.
They have no internal sense of value.
So they're always looking for ways to externally
try to feed this black hole that they have inside of them.
So, you know they have this emptiness
that inside of them all of the time.
You know, they feel this constant sense of emptiness.
It's like they're starving or gasping, for breath.
They’re in survival mode,
all of the time.
They can't see you.
They can't feel anything about you.
They've got this black hole.
They want you to fill it and you might want to fill It too,
but they can't really receive
and so, you know, they’re still starving,
you're left feeling depleted and so the way
they're constantly trying to make themselves,
feel better is through this false sense of superiority.
So they're constantly trying to put you down,
so they're going to put you down in public or private.
Now, if they are a covert narcissist,
If you want to know more about covert narcissist,
definitely check out my video on covert narcissism in relationships
because that will explain so much more
about how they interact in relationships.
But if they're a covert narcissist,
they're going to be much more likely
to just sort of be more under the radar about it.
It's much more like death by a thousand cuts
You won't feel it as much.
I mean, you'll feel it
but other people will think that they’re so much nicer,
you know, everybody e lse will be like,
“Oh, you know, I'm sure it's, you know,
very inadvertent or whatever”
but they will make sure that you know, all right.
So that's number one.
This is a thing that only people who hate you will do.
I mean, people who love you do not
use your weaknesses against you
and so this is definitely proof
positive that the narcissist hates you.
People who actually do love
you would never use your weaknesses against you
and this is something that,
you know, you know, when somebody
you've exposed yourself to this person
who you're supposed to be able to love,
you’re supposed to be able to trust,
you’re supposed to be able to feel safe with
suddenly is using your weaknesses against you
and it is the ultimate betrayal.
You now know that this person
has really turned the tables on you
because you see them using your weaknesses against you
and that is such proof that the narcissist actually hates you.
That's number two.
and I can tell you this from first.
I was in a business relationship with a
narcissistic covert narcissist and fortunately,
it didn't last very long, but,
you know, anytime something good would happen to me.
Mine was a covert narcissist.
I would see this person would be like,
“oh, that's just like great for you.”
You know, I mean and it was killing this other person,
if something good would happen to me,
and, you know, you could just tell
if they were not happy for me,
you know, they're extremely jealous
of other people's accomplishments.
They do not like to see other people doing well,
because it makes them feel small.
They don't want other people to do well
and so it cannot be happy when other
people do well and you see that often
and when you're out with other couples
and you see the husband putting the wife down,
oh, you know, her a little endeavor,
her little business or you see the wife
putting the husband down.
Oh, he thinks he's big stuff or whatever
You know, when they're jealous of each other.
That's definitely not a good sign
and so when you are with a spouse
who's refuses to acknowledge your accomplishments,
that is proof that that narcissist hates you, right?
So that's number three.
Definitely you see this when you're sick
Narcissist absolutely hate it when you're sick.
They think you're faking all the time.
But if they're sick,
Oh my gosh,
you better be right there
for them and baby them and taking care
of every single moment of their needs.
But if you are sick, they cannot take it.
Am I right?
If I'm right,
give me a totally in the comments right now.
You know that I'm right and by the way,
check out my video on this is what emotional abuse looks like
because this is all part of emotional abuse too.
They constantly are making you feel like
you're doing something wrong.
Oh you didn't do this right.
You didn't do that right.
Well sort of.
Well you messed that part up.
You know, they can't ever acknowledge
that you did a good job,
but they will always tell you when you messed up.
You know, it's sort of the same thing as not acknowledging
the good things that you did or your accomplishments.
They will also always tell you when you messed up,
you know, you screwed up the bills.
You don't make enough money.
Constantly telling you that you're doing something wrong.
You don't do a good job cleaning the house.
You know, you're a terrible driver.
It just constantly putting you down about everything
and you just are always always on
edge because you just feel like
you're always doing something wrong.
You're not a good p arent, whatever.
I mean and so, you just feel like
you're always doing something wrong.
So, that's another piece of proof that the
narcissist hates you.
It's like this punishment for you.
You're trying to talk to them.
They refused to talk to you either in person
or they will go silent on when you're trying to
text them or trying to email them.
They don’t want to talk to you, they blow up your phone,
they blow up your email,
they show up at your house, they show up at your office.
They insist but then if you want
to talk to them they go dark.
They go silent. They refuse it.
They punish you.
It's just such proof that they hate you and it's just punish you.
It's to manipulate you.
It's to make you go crazy.
It's this method to control you.
It's this method to make you feel like going nuts.
So here's the answer.
Do they actually hate you?
I think the answer is yes.
They do.
Now why?
Why do they hate you?
I'm sure all of you can answer this with me.
It’s because they hate everybody
and why do they hate everybody?
Because they hate themselves,
deep down they hate themselves
and and I've said this many times before,
the way people treat other people
is a direct reflection of the way
they feel about themselves.
Many people have heard me
talk about the book,
The Four Agreements
and you know, and you cannot take things personally
because the way people treat other people is a direct
reflection of the way they feel about themselves.
Yeah, they hate you.
Yeah, they hate everybody because
they hate themselves more than they hate you.
So if that's any solace to you,
that's the absolute truth
and that's why when you're going to negotiate with them,
you know, that whole self-destruction
is what's really going on.
By the way, I have an entire videos on
what it looks like when narcissist are coming undone,
which you definitely want to check those out too.
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