Today's video 10 signs that you might be a type 4 on the enneagram also known as
the "Romantic Individualist" if you're new here I'm Hillary your Certified Enneagram Life Coach
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okay so let's get started what are ten signs that you might be an enneagram type four and i know i
get this question a lot i actually get type fours type fives type nines um sometimes type threes
they all question if they are type 4 because it was in their top three of their enneagram test
and so i just thought well let me make a video about 10 signs that you know kind
of like after you've looked at the core fears and the core desires and everything like that
and you're still struggling well what are 10 signs that would let you guys know like am i tied for so
let's go ahead and get started with the 10 signs that you might be a type 4 the individualist with
number one the first sign would be you've always felt different from everybody else the type 4
really struggles with this one and this has to do with a lot of things the core desire of the four
is to be special and unique to me it does make sense that the type 4 is going to feel a little
different from everybody else i think another thing um that this has to do with the type 4
is their core weakness is envy and so they've always felt like something fundamental is missing
in them and therefore they do this causes them to feel different than everybody else and envy people
that to them might seem normal to them right and so there's a little envy there of like wow i think
they're normal and i'm not and something's missing in me and so therefore they have this like
you know thing playing in their head that i feel different from everybody else okay so let's move
on to the second thing and that would be nature beauty culture they are all beautiful to you they
call you it's where you kind of find yourself you find yourself in nature and culture and beauty
maybe it's art music books movies the deeper the better just that kind of stuff is super important
to a type 4 and they love it i just feel like the type 4 gets moved at such a deeper level
in stuff like this um doesn't mean other people can't go that deep but just the four it just has
a different meaning to them and the nature aspect with the type 4 they just find nature so beautiful
they can find themselves in nature they can i feel like they can understand nature they find their
faith in nature like i think you know sometimes um they could find god in just the beautifulness
around them and stuff like that and so all these things are just like their sanctuary away from
the world and they could just find beauty in the most unusual things and the best things and
and stuff like that the third thing is you might have a difficult time separating your thoughts
from your feelings a lot of times the four has a difficult time separating those two those two
seem like the same thing to a type four feelings are everything to the fore they feel like they
are their feelings and so feelings definitely come first in most things and that four is in
the heart triad and so you know it does make sense that feelings come first and i think it's really
healthy for them though um to be able to separate them that thoughts and feelings aren't the same
but i can understand why it does feel like it for that type four number four i think the four
considers them self highly sensitive they can interpret most of their interactions with people
very emotionally a type four can take comments very personally they can get hurt easily and
i would say they're pretty hyper sensitive to criticism and so that's one that's a sign that
maybe your type 4 if that really aligns okay so let's move on to number five you hate it when
somebody asks you to fit in like that can drive a four freaking crazy bonkers they don't want to fit
in they are one of a kind they don't want to be like boring and mundane or anything like that that
you know if you are for you're craving originality you want to be who you are but you want people to
see you and understand you get you and accept you and so while you don't want to fit in you
want them to just embrace who you really are and really appreciate you for you i think when you ask
a four to fit in you're asking them to lay down their originality and and lay down who they really
are in order to please you and that's definitely not okay so um i think we need to embrace all of
each other all of the types let everybody be who they are meant to be all right okay enough about
that moving on to number six what is number six it is you are not afraid of your dark side this is a
big one if you're trying to decide between a type four and any other number because the four's just
not afraid they're not afraid of darker feelings they're not afraid of hard feelings they're not
afraid to go deep they're going to sit there with you they're not afraid of being the good
the bad the ugly anything like that they're just not afraid it's one of their giftings i would
say when they go to these places they hope that it's going to help them even discover more deeper
things about themselves and other people they are just authentically honest with who they are and
all of it and i actually was talking to a client yesterday who's a type 4 April shout out to you
April she gave me permission to share this because i actually went over some of these
these uh signs that you might be a type 4 with her to make sure like hey i'm i'm going down the
right path with this right and um she said yes you are and she shared her favorite saying which is
let's hash it out she's like let's go deep let's go down into the nitty-gritty of all the details
let's hash it out she's not afraid to do that she said let's go as deep and as dark as we
need to go let's get it all out let's bring it all up to the surface and i just love that
i love when she said that i was like oh that definitely resonates with what i'm trying to say
is not being afraid of the dark or being just being comfortable with um that darker part of
life sometimes okay so let's move on to number seven and number seven is you feel like you are
misunderstood a lot i think this makes the four feel extremely frustrated at times they feel like
they're always having to explain themselves fours are just willing to be open and honest and i think
this sometimes is met with confusion with other types of people especially if they're not willing
to be open and honest sometimes when a four opens up it can be met with silence uncomfortableness
people might even try and judge them for opening up i think things like this just can lead to the
four feeling misunderstood a lot even feeling rejected and hurt and like they must be flawed
in some way and so um if you are for or you're trying to decide if you're for you know does this
resonate with you do you feel misunderstood a lot all right so what's number eight it's when people
tell you to do something and you want to respond or do respond by doing the complete opposite does
that hit home i actually have had a lot of force tell me i don't know what it is about this but yes
i just want to do the opposite of what they're saying and i think some of it has to do with
them wanting to be like different and special right and they're like no i don't want to do
what you're saying and i think a big piece of it isn't like a rebellion piece it's them saying no i
just want to be me and what you're saying doesn't allow me to actually be me all right number nine
of the 10 signs you might be an enneagram type 4 is in social situations you aren't necessarily
the life of the party you actually walk into a room and kind of hang back a little and will
wait for people to approach you versus you going and approaching other people and part of me thinks
this has to do with you being you and not wanting to put on a show put on something fake put on a
fake persona and be like hey guys how's everybody because you're like ah that's not necessarily who
i am on how i am and i think especially if you are uh one to one for i bet it's that like okay how
i'm looking i'm looking do i feel comfortable here how's this whole situation going do i even
want to be here would i rather withdraw and do my own thing i think some of this uh has to do with
that but i do think type fours will hang back and wait for people to approach them at um big events
or or things that they're like i don't know if i feel that comfortable being here okay so what's
the 10th thing it's you love personality typing systems the enneagram myers-briggs i don't know
strength finders disc all of those you love them why because it helps you feel seen heard
understood and it helps you understand yourself you're like goodness it it helps you see yourself
at a deeper level and feel understood and feel that others understand you i've heard four say
that they wish other people were as interested in these personality typing systems as them because
then they feel like they would understand the four better a type four just feels like these systems
help you connect the dots and it helps the four to not feel so alone and misunderstood and i think
fours love it when they meet other fours they're like oh my people i'm not alone i have people that
feel very similar to me and um that just again makes them feel seen and loved and understood
so well that's the 10 things i have those are the 10 signs that you might be an enneagram type four
now if you related to all ten signs does that make you type four no honestly you gotta start up with
the course core fear, core desire. core weakness um core longing that's where you start in the course
do you relate to the enneagram type four's core desire which is to feel special and unique for you
know exactly who you are um and look at the fears and the weaknesses and stuff like that and if you
relate to those then i'm like okay now look at these 10 signs that you might be a type 4
and see how many of those do you relate to i have a few questions for you guys the first one is let
me know in the comments box below um did this video help you decipher if you are for versus
any other type i'd love to know that and i'd love you guys to discuss that between each other in the
comments box below too the second thing is which of these 10 things stood out to you which of these
had you going like yes hear me i feel seen i feel heard yes amen let me know in the comments box
below about that and the third thing is are there any other type fours out there that are dating or
married or have a relationship with a type four um a romantic relationship with the type four i'd
love to know i haven't met any fours that actually are dating for us and i'd love to know like
you know how many of you yeah you're like yeah i i have a relationship with a type four
and um it's amazing so i'd love to know that those are just some questions that i was like i'd love
to know from four's this kind of stuff all right well that's all i have today guys if you've gotten
to this point and you'd still don't know your type and you're like hillary i've looked at the course
these 10 things yes i related to some of them but not very many of them i still don't know
if i'm a four or five or six or whatever number i have a discovering new typing session i will link
all the information in the description box below it's a one hour zoom call with me where we can get
down to the nitty-gritty of who you are and figure that out if you still at this point are like yeah
i don't know i just always love to let you guys know that that is an option for you if you found
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