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- Hello my name is Hannah,
and welcome back to my channel
I like talking a lot about sex and relationships,
we do a lot of that here, subscribe for good vibes,
literally good vibes, more on this thing later.
But as a millennial I also love tech and phones
and apps and all of that stuff intrigues me
and because I love talking and thinking
a lot about sex and relationships,
there is a beautiful crossover of how apps
and Technology are going to impact our sex lives
and our relationships and things like that.
We've already seen dating apps and all of that
just kind of take over the way that we build relationships
and how we interact with each other.
I'm not gonna be talking about dating apps in this video.
I have six apps for you, three of them are practical
because I think we need to acknowledge that relationships
are like managing a business.
You're managing a relationship,
you're managing your life together.
Like who's doing the cleaning and the cooking
and picking up the kids.
And there is a lot of admin,
that comes with having a relationship
so three of the apps are practical things
and then three of the apps are fun sexy time things.
So we'll have a good balance,
we're gonna go practical sexy, practical sexy
practical sexy.
And also as well as sex and relationships
if you didn't know I love me
some organisation and productivity.
So when it comes to organising my relationship I'm in.
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Number one is to-do list app or a Notes App
something that you can share with your partner,
you both have it on your phone
and you can add stuff to it like shopping, groceries.
When you realise that you're out of ketchup
you stick ketchup on the list and then the next time
one of you is in a shop,
you look at your joint list and you're like ah okay
these are the things that we need.
So at the moment I use Evernote
for all of my note-taking and that has a share feature
where you can share notes with different people.
And I also use Todoist for my to-do list.
And this goes for everyone, not just people
managing relationships but write stuff down,
don't rely on your brain to remember
the things that you need to do.
As soon as you think of it, write it down
put it in whatever system you have going that you trust
and then you're good.
Then you don't have to rely on this faulty mechanism.
Number two, my first fun, sexy, interesting one.
It is an app called The And,
you may have heard of them for their YouTube channel
they make loads of videos where they get different people
who have different relationships
to answer kind of like intense questions with each other.
So it could be partners, exes, siblings,
parent-child, and they answer questions
about their relationship with each other.
And basically, that is an app version
you basically select who you're playing with
so lovers friends siblings, parents, child,
ex couple, first date.
So let's go lovers, lovers.
And then it comes up with 12 questions,
and then you can play it as many times as you like
and it will bring up different 12 questions.
So on this round we got
what do you think I'm learning from you?
I like that question.
What can I do better sexually?
I mean great question all around,
like people don't really often say
especially to someone who maybe
they been in a relationship for a while
of like hey what can I do to improve
and is there any way that you want to improve as well?
What categories of porn do you watch?
I like this question.
I wanna have a look at what the first eight ones are.
How would you describe me to others?
Oh I like that.
What do you think I do work wise?
Yeah, maybe you've not told them yet.
I used to lie to people on first dates about what I did,
because I didn't want questions about being a YouTuber,
I would say some version of the truth
but I wouldn't get specific.
I just love any kind of thing that encourages
interesting conversations, especially on a first date
where it might be a bit like say me say me on other dates.
Or like if you've been a relationship for a long time
and you just kind of assume everything
about how that person is thinking and feeling
and all of that and then,
you might be able to shake things up
a little with those questions.
Are you excited as I am?
We're on to number three which means another practical one,
oh yeah.
And this one is a shared calendar.
Now whatever you wanna use,
you can have iCal where the whole calendar
would be like a joint calendar,
or you can use Google Calendar where you add each other
to events and things,
there are other options out there as well.
But you just need some form of shared calendar.
My nose.
(sneezing)
You just need some form of shared calendar
so that you know what you're up to
what the other person is doing,
who is a way when what are things
that you are doing together that are booked in the calendar.
So practical and functional and so sexy.
Mine and Dan's relationship dynamic
is that I am the organised one with the calendar,
and Dan says to me what are we doing this day?
And I have it all organised and planned,
and if we're going away ever and he needs to book days
of holiday from work, I add it
and I send it to his work account
'cause he does not check his calendar.
Dan just doesn't have a personal calendar
and this is a indirect video to Dan
to say having a joint calendar
would improve our relationship.
This is the most I feel like I've let you in
to my relationship, is this whole dynamic
with me and Dan and calendars.
Number four this is another sexy one,
and this is one I really, really love.
Dan and I used this loads
at the beginning of our relationship,
maybe I should try and bring it back
but definitely would recommend it's called Desire.
You have a joint account on it,
as you can see from ours I'm a witch,
Dan is a robot and those numbers are like points,
So basically it is, oh my god Jesus Christ.
Basically it's gamey fide sexy dares.
So there's like a whole list of dares in the app
and you send a dare to your partner
and they either accept or reject it.
If they accept it, it's them that has to do it
and if they succeed they get the amount of points
that is assigned to that dare.
So the harder the dare the more points there are.
It really does vary,
some of them are a bit like Oh,
but others are like quite sexy and difficult
I would say, like you have to be pretty bold.
Dan and I have not got enough points
we have not unlocked the chilli level.
You can send things as a dare
that you really want to do with that person
but maybe you're a bit too scared to say it to them.
Be like, I would really like you if you did this.
Okay number five, we're on to our final practical,
functional and yet still sexy apps or genre of apps
and this one is some kind of money
and banking app situation.
I'm not saying like go out and get a joint account
with someone that you've been on three dates with.
No, no don't do that.
But depending on where your relationship is at
you might need to start thinking about money
and talking about money,
talking about money in relationships
is very, very important.
There are a few different routes that you can go.
The most easy one is getting some kind of banking app
separately that makes it really easy to transfer funds
or split the bill and things like that in the UK
there is Monzo and Starling, or Sterling,
is it Starling or Sterling?
I don't know, Dan and I both use Monzo
and that makes it really easy to send each other money
request money, split bills,
like all of that stuff it's just right there in your phone
especially with the splitting the bill thing
it is just so valuable because I just hate
the whole like the negotiation of money
and like oh you owe me this much
and then you I mean this much, and like (mumbles)
but when it's that easy just to transfer money
then you're not going to get into a situation
where one of you owes the other person
loads of money because you're kind of dealing with it
as it's going.
So you could have separate pots of money
and have an app that sends money really easy.
Or there are other apps out there
where you still have your own separate pots of money,
but you then pay into a mutual pot
and you can have like a joint budget
or just tracks it, and things like that.
A friend of mine uses one called Good Budget
so her and her husband use that
for tracking their joint money that they pull in together.
And then the other way that you can do it
is just pull all of your money into the same account,
have joint banking.
But it's totally up to you every couple is different
in terms of how they manage their money
and also maybe if you get married,
or if you have kids and things like that
your situation would change in terms of finances.
So I think it's always important to have
an open line of dialogue
with who you're in a relationship with about money,
so that you're always able to have those conversations.
If you really want to nerd out about money and relationships
I would highly recommend looking at
The Financial Diet, YouTube channel
and One Big Happy Life.
They have loads of stuff on there,
and I love Chelsea from the Financial Diet
and I love Tasha from One Big Happy Life.
And I know Chelsea,
but I really want Tasha to be my friend as well.
How do I make that happen?
Okay, we're on to number six,
the final app it's a sexy one
and boy, boy is it sexy.
So, like I said subscribe for good vibes
you might be thinking, Hannah this is not an app.
And I'm like yes you're right this is not an app
this is a vibrator.
It's called the Crescendo
and it's by this company called Mysteryvibe
and for full disclosure they gifted this to me
and I do have an affiliate link
if you wanna get one yourself
and it's got thirty quid off.
But the thing with this bad boy right
is there are like five or six
like individual motors like throughout it
oh and it bends, it does.
It can do whatever you really want it to do
but with the individual motors that is an app.
One of the most exciting things for me about this
is that your partner can control the app,
and your partner can control this.
You can get really specific with it.
If you go to play there are like loads of different settings
so it visually shows the settings on the app
of like where it is vibrating and pulsing in this.
You can change the intensity to like low or high, holy crap.
You can change the type of vibration that it is,
Jesus Christ, what do these all mean?
So silly, right okay.
Anyway it is one of the sex toys
that's on the more expensive end of the spectrum,
but if you have the time and the passion
then I would recommend.
So those are my six apps for improving your relationship.
I would love to hear in the comments if you use any of them
or you're planning on using any of them,
or you know of any other apps out there
for relationships for couples or whatever
that you enjoy, I would love to hear about them.
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