- [Narrator] There's been a huge decline in mental health
around the world,
which is why we're so committed
to creating more content than we ever have.
Thanks for being a part of our journey.
Hey there, welcome to the world of personality.
Sure, having above average looks is great,
but as we mature, grow wiser,
and get to know more people,
we realize that personality has a massive,
longer lasting impact on our lives
than those perfect eyebrows.
So what is it about a golden personality
that makes it sparkle?
Here are a few signs you're attractive
and have a beautiful personality.
Number one, your success extends beyond pure work.
According to a 2008 study,
individuals with more positive personality traits
are more likely to be successful
in areas relating to economics.
People who know how to keep a good balance
of giving and taking
in all kinds of relationships and activities,
from friends, to hobbies, to partners,
will be better able to do well in all of them.
This success might be due to your personality
and good work ethic, of course.
Number two, you're nice to the waiter.
No, we don't literally mean just the restaurant employee,
although they definitely count.
We're asking, although you're warm and friendly
with your squad,
how are you with strangers
or someone new to a group?
Attractive personalities are comfortable and welcoming.
So they're the ones
who will give a positive acknowledgement
when someone says hello,
whether they're a good friend or not.
They'll make a point of not excluding the new person,
and they don't contact people only when they need a favor.
Number three, you are commonly courteous.
Okay, this reminds us of the stuff we were taught
or should have been taught as kids,
like saying please and thank you,
and not taking things that aren't ours.
Common courtesy or basic manners
shows that you have a general respect for others
and respect for societal norms.
People trust that you are unlikely to steal the silverware
or be a jerk in a social situation,
because that would be awfully rude.
Number four, you show gratitude and appreciation.
Hand in hand with courtesy,
showing appreciation and gratitude
when something is done for you
is a definite must for an attractive personality.
It shows that you aren't self-entitled
and that you understand
relationships aren't material commodities.
Hint, time is precious,
so someone spending time with you
is also something to be grateful for.
Number five, you have good conversational skills.
This is where the conversation is going so strong
that no one realizes it's nighttime
until someone says, "I can't see."
A good conversationalist can keep it rolling
because they're able to get others
to open up to contribute too.
This means no one is feeling disengaged
and they feel wanted.
Nothing dies because the inspiration is alive and well.
If in person, this can be added to by body language
that shows interest in what the person is saying,
like facing towards someone and having eye contact.
Number six, you're also a good listener.
This also applies to text and chat.
Being a good listener
means you respond to their whole message
and not just pick out the bits
that directly speak to your interests.
This shows that you acknowledge, value, and care
about the other person as an equal.
So if you're steamed about a difficult situation
and your friend says something like,
"Didn't that manager have some health issues?
I still think they're treating you unfairly."
The response should include some reflection
on whether there were some health issues at play,
not just piling on about how unfair the manager was.
Number seven, drama llamas?
Not on this flight.
We prefer our drama to stay on Netflix or Hulu.
That is to say in Hollywood land, thank you.
Sure, it plays well on screen,
but in real life,
to have the drama llama crash your group is not so great.
It's draining, and often causes unnecessary clashes,
fights, and discord.
The attractive personality doesn't leave everyone
feeling drained, hurt, or betrayed.
It brings people together, not rip them apart.
Number eight, you're open-minded.
Sure, you still have your boundaries.
This is about balance,
and not letting those boundaries
become solitary confinement barricades.
When we're told we're wrong,
we reflexively feel defensive,
especially if we're told our opinion or emotion is wrong.
Having an attractive personality
doesn't mean that you don't feel those things.
It does mean that you're aware
of both how to give and receive information
with minimal assumption.
So if you share a song with someone and they say,
"I'm not sure about this kind of music,"
do you automatically scold them
telling them that they need to be more open-minded
or do you consider they're simply saying
they really aren't sure?
So you ask them about their indecisiveness,
learning about their point of view.
If you were on the other side of this,
would you tell the song sharer you hated it,
that you were unsure,
or give your answer context with an explanation?
Number nine, you are authentic and 100% you, be yourself.
This doesn't mean being static,
forcing others to your opinion,
or never changing your mind,
unless that's truly the choice you'd make.
Authenticity is the ability to still be you
despite receiving new information
and expanding your knowledge.
The water in the teapot may be the shape of the teapot
but it's still water.
When you're authentic,
people know that they're getting to know you,
not some made up mask.
This means they feel they know who they're trusting
and can open up.
Being able to safely open up to someone is super attractive.
As our values deepen,
we realize that there is so much more to a person
than what a selfie can show.
We find ourselves making different choices
in who we spend time with.
Understanding that it's a finite resource.
The biggest assessment tool for that is personality.
Which traits have you seen?
How much do you agree or disagree with these points?
Which nuances would you add?
We are always working on being more attractive
to all of you,
and hey, tapping that Like button would help.
Thanks for watching and see you soon.