stop being nervous around girls Hey it's stephan here congratulations for downloading the report and taking action
with it
and you know what just to make it easier and super simple
i want to talk you through the ah through the uh... technique
and make sure that you you get it from me as well had they have been one of two
requests for this so i want to make sure that you get this all right
now i want to talk you through this quickly because i want to keep these
videos very short of a bit out a lot more stuff and make sure that you get a
lot of value out of this ok but first up ok the technique the shy stop switch
if you've read in using it
if you haven't yet
get going because you know what you can't sort of
notice that how it's working it's working without actually doing it
so go get going hopefully this video will help
so basically here is the process ok
you are in a situation
you'd notice
that you get nervous or whatever else it is you could notice that you get a bit
uncomfortable
and you would probly describe as nervous okay
so there and then
you
ask yourself
what best describes this sensation
and to know what that may just be nervous
but it may also be something more specific it may also be something like
frozen up
or
uh...
petrified
or
you know shaking with fear
well you know
you know something in that in that regard you can get your own words for
for for for what you feel like
but the clue is you need to ask yourself
what is it
uh... you know what is it very specifically as specific as you can
second step
what is the opposite of this
of this
so if it was nervous it might be carefree
if it was uh... you know
petrified it may be maybe confident
if it was frozen it might be
free-flowing
it depends really what your words are because they need to mean things to you
again
so once you have decided what the opposite of that is
you then don't try to do anything to yourself you don't try to stop yourself from
doing anything or feeling anything
you just focus on the people around you
and to make them feel that way so you make you focus on how how can i make
them feel confident how can i make them feel
free-flowing
okay
and that could be if you are in before the date let's say you on the train on
in a car or wherever
you can just use people
if you'd be basically using people
to ahem
basically
i need to give you the background here really a little bit because you know what
the little ninja trick here is that
when you try to make somebody else feel in a specific way
you need to get in touch with that feeling first
in order to even to understand
what how you can make them feel that way does that make sense
you know if i want to make you feel excited
account make you feel excited like that you know because
I am not excited so if I want to make you feel excited about something
i need to first get in touch with my own excitement okay
so they seek the
icon make you feel excited account even think about making you feel excited
if i don't understood you know get in touch with what excitement is for me
I hope I am making this clear now while of getting in touch with that
I can't think
of what that other thing was
that i was feeling before
which was maybe really bored
does that make sense
so if you have been feeling nervous
and you're now thinking about how you can make somebody else feel
carefree
then you have to get in touch with
what it's like to feel carefree in order to make them feel carefree
this is where this is
pretty cool here
so that's thrown some light on this and i want you to go and practice it right
now
and you can practice in any sort of like low pressure situation you don't have to be on
the date in order to practice
just over the three steps
and tha see how you will react to it
that you notice
what's happening ok because the thing is if you do get nervous
you are likely to
maybe forget
this technique
so the more you practice it beforehand
the more likely you will be to remember it because remember it is the
hard part two
because sometimes we freak out when you get nervous and
and we just you know
don't remember what
we know we can do
alright so i hope this helps i want to give you this because i just want to
make sure that you gets
get this and that you can move on with this ok
i'll see you later take care and get practicing
go for a day to them
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