I can't do it!
I don't know, maybe if I am drunk
So making a move is hard? - It is.
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I suddenly spoke to you girls right? - Yeah. - Did I surprise you?
You did. - But thank you for taking part in our interview.
So today we are asking have you as girl ever approached a boy?
Never! - Not at all.
You are not brave to approach boys? - Not at all. - Zero.
Can Japanese girls chat up boys? - I think it's
ok..... - I think it's ok. Very cool if they can.
You say it's cool but why can't you do it? - I want the boy to approach me!
You wish for him to make a move? - Yes - Why so?
I want the man to make the first move too.
Is there someone precious even you would try to approach?
For example a member of Arashi
sitting in the seat next to you. - I couldn't talk to them
I don't know. Maybe if I am drunk.
Please think of your favourite celebrity. That person suddenly
works at your job but only for one week.
If you don't talk to them within one week, they'll be out of reach again
so what will you do. - I think I would say "I like you" properly
Wow you can do it. - Well I thought of my favourite female celebrity.
If it was a man, I couldn't. But I could tell the women I admire
that I admire her. - Like "I am your fan" - Yeah
But you couldn't with a male celeb? - Never. - Why?
It's too embarrassing. - You're shy too. Well then
what will you do in that one week? - Try my best and ask him for his details
So Japanese girls want boys to come up to then
is there something to help with that? - Look into their eyes
Or try to show them I treat them with special treatment. - Do men
understand those hidden signs? - I don't think they do
What action do you do then? - Say "I only do this for you"
or such. That's as much as I can do.
In Japan this might be a clear sign, abroad though
it might be unnoticed.
Girls making a move on boys??
That doesn't exist. - It doesn't. - I have never seen it.
Not at all. - Absolutely never
Why then? - Why....
Boys dislike it. - Yeah boys are like that
it's bad for girls to approach men. - Girls have to wait for boys to come to them.
We have to wait. - True true - You have to
sit there like Yamato Nadeshiku er Nadeshiko and wait for ya man?
So if girls approach girls it looks bad on them? - In school it's ok.
Like confessing your feeling. - Yeah but chatting boys up is forbidden
Chatting up always comes from boys. - But then boys
generally chatting people up is a bad thing. - So chatting up is a no
but love confession is ok - Yeah. - Why? - Cause you know them
and you want to tell them how you feel. - First get to know each other
and talking to strangers is bad.
When you are friends its ok. - If you know each other its ok
If you have been friends it's ok to ask the boy to go out. - Yeah
That's ok. - But not to strangers. Did you ever want to
chat up a boy. - Never - Why?
I wouldn't even think of doing that, even if I see a cool guy
Are there any celebrities you support right now?
Think that that person is working at your part time job for a week
together with you. - Oooooh
It's not like he's a stranger and you will be working together. So in that one week
if you don't approach him, nothing will happen. What do you do? - Don't scare him off
- Try to get close without being too much
try it. - like how. - Follow his Instagram
or send a direct message. If that's not possible
I wouldn't want to be too persistent. - You think a lot about the other's situation.
I would feel bad for pestering him. He is famous and all.
Well... If I pushed my feelings on him...
he would be troubled by it. - He is busy after all! - Would feel sorry for him.
Just seeing him is fine. - You just look at him from afar?
Yeah that would make me happy. - Just having been able to work together is happiness
I think that's enough.
Wow admirable. You wouldn't try to appeal to him?
Maybe a little. - Try to talk a little
But only if its ok. - We are already luckier than the average fan.
That is more than enough. - How friendly of you
I heard girls can't chat up boys in Japan
How is it really? Or is it correct? Tell me
It's correct. - Totally right. - Have you ever?
Never! - I can't talk to boys. - Approaching boys
is difficult. - It is. - Making a move is hard
but you can't go. So what would you have me do? - Dress flashy
I guess I am already doing that.
And he might give me his attention? - Yeah!
Hard pass i guess. Many girls said there isn't a culture of boys going up to boys unless maybe in school
when you have a boy in school that you know. Even if you met your very
popular idol person that you admire in a kind of
familiar environment, many girls would still not go up to him because
they don't want to bother him. You don't wanna push your feelings too much on the other person and maybe
annoy or burden them with your feelings. Very interesting. So there is a lot of thought
put into the other person, considering the other person's feelings. Also what if he hates me if I do this
So there is a lot of ... holding back in a way.
So... I guess the boys have to be the first step. Seems to be a big thing here, also
many said boys don't like it when girls do the first step...
Alright... how are we gonna make this happen then guys? Because we have
already had in one of our former interviews... Japanese boys are getting more and more
shy... so this is going to be interesting, going into the next century, seeing
how dating in Japan will now change due to these circumstances. So thank you very much
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