Alright, now we can go to the flirting tips. Who's got one for me? What's your best flirting tip?
Let's start out for guys. What's your best one for guys and then what do you say to the women?
For guys, I don't know if this is necessarily like a flirting tip. But I think it's about creating
an environment or setting the tone on a date that allows for flirting to start happening. Right,
that's great. One of them is not being on your phone, very baseline, like full attention. The
second one is being so polite and friendly and optimistic with everyone you're interacting with,
whether that's the waiter. It's establishing banter with other people so then she'll feel free
to also jump in and start going with it a bit. It's really just about gently setting that tone,
because I think sometimes with dates, a common thing that happens is that it feels a little bit
stilted or it's hard to build a natural rapport and it can feel like a job interview is something
that I think people have said. I'm sure you've heard that too with some of your clients Tripp
that it lacked a little bit of the whimsy. So when you can have the opportunity to invite
your date into a tone that you want the date to go in, you have a lot of control over directing
that energy and I think that's a really good tip. Yeah, 100%. And I, to go off that a little bit,
I think so much of it is tricking yourself into feeling really comfortable. And one thing that
I say, at least for the first date so that they understand that this is a mindset that you have to
turn on and eventually when you turn it off and on so many times, it's just who you are. And I think
when you're meeting someone for the first time on a date, tell yourself before you get there,
I've known this person for 10 years, this is somebody that I haven't seen in a long time,
I've known them forever, and I'm excited to get together with them. And then immediately,
what kind of energy would you bring to the table if you're going to have a drink with somebody
that you haven't seen in a while that you had a great time with? You're going to be like,
"Hey!" You're going to have that warm energy and ultimately thinking of the friendly, flirty,
all that stuff, men and women alike are drawn to warmth and they're drawn to, again, going back to
feeling safe and special. It's really about being with somebody who makes you feel good. And a lot
of that is how you're showing up. If you can show up with that warm energy and make somebody
feel like you're excited to see them, that goes a really long way. I like that mindset, showing up
with the energy as if this is someone you haven't seen in a long time,
which is going to be warm and exciting. Coming in not looking at your phone,
you're going to be socializing with other people a little bit. They're going to be looking at how
you treat other people. I'm curious though, are all these first dates, dinner dates?
What's the first date that you normally have these people go on? We typically advise against dinner,
we think it's too much pressure. What do you do? What do you say drink or coffee? We also advise
against coffee because it can leave people jittery and set the stage for more of a business meeting.
Yeah, it's more of a business meeting. But if you don't drink, order a mocktail.
But still, just being in that romantic ambience, maybe dim lighting, you're
setting yourself up for more of a romantic space and potential to let that romance
grow in a situation where you're meeting somebody that you probably don't know at all,
which can be awkward. Set yourself up for success in any way you can. And that's dim lighting,
romance, like what would you do if it was... treat it like it's Valentine's Day. I like that. I heard
once that... I don't know if this was through like a Jewish matchmaking
thing, or if it was just a tip in the Jewish community when you're getting...
it's like you're getting matched up with other people. It's not necessarily through a matchmaking
company, it's just through the community. What they do is they always have them go
to a really nice hotel lobby lounge. And I was like, oh that's cool. I never heard
that before. That's very specific. And I get it, because first of all, it's safe. Second of all,
if you're going to a nice hotel, then you're going to be in a very sexy romantic atmosphere.
Because it's going to be dim lighting and just nice aesthetic. So yeah,
that's a good idea. So no coffee dates. No coffee dates, you don't encourage dinner, some sort of
drink and if you're not into drinking alcohol order yourself a mocktail. Cool. I like it.0