Before I started the Female Entrepreneur
Association, I used to sit on webinars, watching
people talk about how they were building their
online businesses, and they were making
millions. And part of me was just like, "Are you
lying?" Like, it just seems totally absurd and
ridiculous; at least, it did in my head at the
time. I watched from the sidelines as all these
people were achieving amazing things. And all
the while, I had massive imposter syndrome, around
my ideas and my dreams, and I felt embarrassed to
go for them. I felt like, "Who am I to do this?"
And I kept playing small while watching all these
other people play big. It led to all kinds of
stress, anxiety, frustration, feeling
really crap about myself. The thing I know is that
so many of us feel this way. So many of us are
watching from the sidelines, as everyone
else seems to be going for their goals and their
dreams, and making amazing things happen,
and having all this success, and building
million dollar businesses, and blahdy
blahdy blah. And we just look on like, "Well, it's
not me." I used to feel like it would be nice to
be a millionaire, but when I thought of myself
as a millionaire, it just felt like a joke. It felt
like, "Don't be so ridiculous, as if you're
going to do that. As if you're going to be able
to become a millionaire."
It took me a really long time to realise, "Well,
if I don't even believe I can be a millionaire,
then I was like ever gonna become a
millionaire?" And I think so many of us do this,
where we have this opinion of ourselves, or
we hold ourselves back, and we watch from the
sidelines. Now, the really sad part is that
the majority of people don't recognise that
they're even on the sidelines. And so they
never do anything about it. So they live their
entire life on the sidelines. And I think
that is really tragic. Because for all of us, we
are here to live our best lives and to experience
incredible things and to also experience amazing
success. We have our desires, and our dreams
and our visions for a reason: to bring them
into reality. Yet for so many people, they don't
ever do it. They stay on the sidelines, just
watching other people make it happen, wanting
it to be them, but not letting it become
themselves. If you want to create amazing success
- which, come on, like we all do, don't we? We all
want more success. We want abundance, we want
joy, we want happiness, we want to feel a sense
of purpose and achievement and
accomplishment in our lives. That's what our
goals and our dreams are about: helping us to
expand into that newer version of ourselves,
that helps us to grow and feel alive; that's what
this is about. And in order to be able to do
that we have to get off the sidelines, and stop
just watching other people do it, and get
ourselves in the game. And so, what I found
really powerful is this idea that there is a
table of people, and you want to be sat at that
table, but you're not putting your seat at the
table.
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Before I became a Hay House author, I decided
that I wanted a seat at the table. I wanted to be
a Hay House author. And I saw all these amazing
authors, and they felt like they were on another
level to me, and I wanted to be at that level. I
wanted to be able to sit at that table with them.
So the first step was to actually put my seat at
the table and put my name on it. And even though I
wasn't ready to take my seat, I had decided in my
head, "I am going to sit at this table one day. I
have a place. I'm putting it there energetically.
I'm telling the universe that I want this seat at
this table. And I'm going to allow it to manifest.
And I'm putting my name on it, so no one else can
sit in this seat. This is my seat, and I've
decided." And what I found is that, when I put
a chair at the table for myself, I opened up the
way for things, opportunities, people,
support, ideas to flow to me to help me to get to
my seat. And in making that really strong
commitment and decision, and putting that energy
out into the universe, the universe answers
back. And things started to happen and transpire
to help me to get there. I carried that energy
around with me, of that knowing that, "I don't
know how it's gonna happen, but I trust that
It's going to happen." It was a few years in the
making before I actually took my seat at the Hay
House table. There came a point where I felt a
transition from, "I feel this now, I've done the
work, I've put this out there, it's beginning to
manifest." And I just felt like, "It's ready.
It's my time. I'm ready to set the table. I'm
ready for this next step, I'm ready to go to this
level." And I sat at the table, mentally in my
head, before I actually became the Hay House
author. And me sitting at that table was like,
"Okay, I'm now allowing myself to step into this
space, to expand into this space. And for this
to become my reality." And so it became my
reality.
It's amazing to think of how we can transform our
lives, and how we can welcome more into our
lives, and how we can also make ourselves more
available for what we want, when we decide
that, "I'm going to take a seat at that table,
thanks very much." Because if we don't, it's
like I said, it's going back to the analogy of
being on the sidelines. We watch from the
sidelines, all these people doing these
amazing things, and we just don't give ourselves
permission for it to be us. But what if you allow
yourself for it to be you, for you to get off
the sidelines, start playing the game, in
other words, get your seat at the table, and
start working towards actually sitting at the
table? So the question I have for you is, whose
table do you want to be sat at? It doesn't have
to be one person, it could be lots of people.
People that you really admire and who are doing
amazing things, and you want to be at that level.
Who would be sat at that table? I want you to
close your eyes and take a deep breath. And I want
you to, in your mind's eye, see the table. I
want you to see who is sat at that table. Who is
there? And now I want you to zoom out and see the
whole table. And there's a space on that table.
And I want you to go over to that table. And I want
you to pull out the chair. In your mind's
eye, write your name down on a piece of paper. And
I want you to put that piece of paper in front
of that chair on the table. And if you want,
you can just sit in it for a minute. And know
that you're going to be sitting in that one day.
I want you to do this exercise. And I want you
to do this exercise more than once. And I want you
to really do it until you feel, in every cell of
your being, that you have a seat at the table.
When we do this, and when we have that energy about
us, when we really commit to this idea that we can
be at that level, we start to go to that
level. Our vibration changes. And we then
start to attract things to ourselves to help us
to get to that place we're wanting to get to.
And for me, building a business, so much of my
success has been about doing things like this
and giving myself permission to get to that
level. Every single thing that you see around you
started in someone's mind, it was in someone's
imagination. Somebody had to use their imagination
so well, to envision themselves creating
something at a certain level. They have to
imagine themselves, not as they are now, but as
they want to be: where they want to get to.
Human beings have been doing this throughout
time. This is what we do. But it's just that no one
blummin' teaches this stuff as we grow up, as
we go through school, as we go through society. No
one is teaching us this. No one is teaching us the
power of our imagination, the power we have as
creators: that we get to decide what level we want
to get to, we get to decide what we want to
create. But so often, we're just stood on the
sidelines, watching other people, not taking our
place in the game. Take your place in the game.
Take your seat at the table. Decide that you
have a seat at the table. It's yours. It has your
name on it. And you are going to get there. You
have to do this if you want to really uplevel
your life and expand into new possibilities, new
opportunities, and create the success you want,
bring your dreams and desires to life. This is
what you need to do. In listening to this, do you
feel like you are on the sidelines? How do you
view yourself in relation to the goals and the
dreams and aspirations that you have? When you
think about your dreams and desires, what is the
energy you're sat in? How do you project yourself
in that instance? Would you like to be a
millionaire? Are you at the millionaire's table?
Is there a seat for you at the millionaires'
table? Is there? And if there's not, get you see
the ready. Put your name on the table, and get
your seat at the ready, at the millionaire's
table. You can't make millions if you think
it's a joke. You can't make millions if you
think that you're a joke. Like, we have to stop
thinking these crazy things about ourselves.
And we have to take ourselves seriously, take
our dreams seriously, and get off the blummin'
sidelines! You've got amazing things within
you, and so much as yours for the taking. You just
have to be committed to taking it and making that
commitment and that decision. Make that
decision, and know that it's going to happen.
Done. Done deal. Thank you very much. All right,
Definitely leave me a comment and let me know
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let me know what table you want to be sat at.
Tag me, and tag the people whose table you
want to be sat at. Or make a list and share it
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