Hello Tripp. How are you? My name is Ahmed and I am from the Middle East. I’ve been listening
to your podcast, Youtube and everything since 2017 and you have great stuff and it all works
for me so far. My question is I would like to know how to maintain a friend? I’ve been getting
to know people, exchanging contact and try to hang out later on, but it never works out.
In the first place we have chemistry, it looks like we have a link and we are fit to be a friend,
but there’s never a chance to meet up again or I have to be first to always text.
Any advice for that would be much appreciated. Thank you so much and stay blessed. Ahmed. Thanks
so much for calling in all the way from the Middle East. That is pretty awesome. I love how far
this podcast can go. I'm a little unclear on your question. And maybe everyone else who's listening
is clear on it. I'm a little unclear. I feel like there's a few things here that I want to try to
answer for you. One thing is... I'll say this, I feel like this question is revolved around
the friend-zone. It sounds to me Ahmed like you are in a situation where
you're either not going for the move all the way from there's chemistry to let's act on
this chemistry, being physical with a woman, asking her on a date. Or you're in a situation
where you're trying to do some sort of friendship and you're trying to be a friend
in order to build attraction to then go from friendship to dating. I want to talk to those
because that's what I think that this question is about. And so let's first start with this idea of,
if you're talking to a girl, you meet a girl, and there's chemistry, you need to just go for it.
That would be one of the big pillars of my TED system. The TED system is my system for
how to build attraction with women, which has been proven to work very well. And one of those parts,
one of those pillars in the TED system is D stands for dominance. You need to be leading. I think
that leading is easy in theory, like that's not hard to understand. Just lead the interaction,
ask her out, go for the case, make the move, lead the interaction to a place of sexual chemistry.
Of course, yeah, that makes sense. But the implementation seems to be very hard for guys.
And the reason why it's so hard is because you fear the rejection. But let me tell
you something... as you sit there and you don't lead and you don't decide to use D...
dominance, you are slowly getting rejected. That's what's happening. You're slowly getting rejected.
Every single second that you don't try to lead the interaction, she is off to some other guy who
is and who will. You need to lead, you need to go for it, or else you're going
to ultimately get rejected anyways. It's like the analogy of ripping the band aid right off,
just got to rip it off, you got to go for it. And lucky for us dominance is a masculine trait
that women are attracted to. When you lead, that makes her more attracted to you in that process.
To answer your second part of this question, this idea that you might be trying to get these women
to be your friend first and then you're trying to maneuver that to dating. Don't do that.
Guys, don't do this. Please. The reason why you don't do this is because it's the same idea
as what I said before. It's like you're slowly getting rejected
because you're not leading. If you're just trying to be a friend, then it's gonna be a friendship.
I do talk about in the TED system, T stands for tension. I don't want you to be confused where
tension is something where you're building things up. Maybe you think, well if I'm friends with her,
I'm building more tension. I'm building more tension because I'm waiting for it to happen,
the moment where we'll kiss or I'll ask her on a date. And I have to say no,
that's not exactly what the tension is. Tension is something that is built not by being a friend.
It's quite the opposite. Tension is built by you being someone who is actively flirting with her.
That builds sexual tension. And that builds attraction because you're going to be spiking her
emotions, you can't spike her emotions and build tension if you're doing friendly things, like
talking to her about her life and her day and never talking about yourself and never ask her
on a date and never flirting with her and just being a friend. You're going to kill attraction.
You will not be building any tension, you will be killing attraction.
What I'm asking you to do is to make sure that you don't start off as friends ever.
And if you get rejected, you get rejected, but you're gonna waste a lot of time
if you don't lead and go through the process of being a dominant person.