there are about a million videos on youtube about texting, what to say what
not to say the do's and the don'ts and so forth and i may have even made a
couple of them myself but in this video i want to give you something else i want
to give you five key principles that apply to literally all text
conversations with women that you can rely on that are tried and true
in the hope that you'll find it easier to remember five principles
and understand the deeper context of what's going on rather than getting
another three lines to say to a girl via text that they're probably already
overused so i hope that this will be really useful for you so let's talk
about five key principles that will take your texting game to the
next level
the first principle is about how you actually see texting and its function
you want to see texting as bridging texting is the bridge to a phone call or
the bridge to actually meeting up with her to a date
texting is not the destination now unless you're a very special case i
highly doubt that what you want is to hang out texting with a girl for
the rest of your life right so use texting as a bridge see it as
bridging towards not
where you're settling in what does this mean in practice don't
start having those conversations that you should be having with her in person
or at least over the phone via text by texting endlessly back and
forth texting is the bridge to meeting up ideally or at least to the
next phone call texting principle number two is aim for balance with everything
that you do with texting just like on a date you don't want to come on too
strong but you also don't want to leave her
hanging you don't want to seem to be over
investing and at the same time you don't want her
to think that you're not interested at all so that she keeps feeling like she's
over investing three key areas there length of text keep the length of your
texts more or less in tune with hers
so in other words i don't want to see this long text from you and then a one
word response from her and you know this and this has been mentioned before
second example keep a balance with the frequency that you communicate
if you're always the one that communicates more it will seep into her
subconscious that you are somewhat more interested in her than she is in you
and it makes you less attractive try to hold back a little don't get over
enthusiastic and think texting is the way forward to build a relationship no
especially in the early days of a relationship when you haven't even like
met her a few times or something keep it to a minimum and keep it moving forward
think back to bridging really see it as a bridge to something not the
destination and last obvious one don't keep double texting
so that's when you text and then you don't get a response for a
bit and you text again as if you're sitting there by the phone
doing nothing else but just you know waiting for her to text you back
that's not a good look text and forget put the phone away get on with it
principle number three is not always possible to do 100 okay but
aim for maximum impact
minimum effort or at least minimum perceived effort
what do i mean by that when you text keep it short and bold i choose those
words very carefully bold is a really important word for texting
basically go bold or go home when people use too many words for something
actually quite simple it's a sign that they are actually
either needy for approval or they want to sound
particularly interesting or particularly entertaining or particularly intelligent
all of those make you come across uh as basically needy or
like you're a bit insecure and you're trying to present yourself in an extra
nice way keep it as simple as possible while having a maximum impact
aim for that it will make her interpret you as a confident guy confident in
charge and ready to go places so if you can say it with three words say it with
three words don't try to be clever and say it with
55 words because literally when you get a long text at the same time you know
what it feels like to text a very long text it's cumbersome
and it takes a lot of time and effort so you know that when you get it so of
course she knows that you're very invested in this
and you wanted to somehow impress her with a long text so don't do it impress
her by having maximum impact with perceived minimum effort principle
4 make it fun for yourself no matter what
via texting a girl gets an impression of your personality you're starting to
express your personality via text that's why when you send really boring
lazy texts it basically creates a personality in
our mind that you're lazy boring and you're not really an interesting guy so
that means you know dating you or being in bed with you will also be boring so
what's the opposite of being boring it's not to make a big effort to seem
very entertaining no it's to be fun and what is fun to do via texting
well stuff like teasing
throwing little things at her making her laugh
having fun making fun of her little things that
help you to bridge to whatever it is that you're going to do next uh maybe a
phone call or maybe you're meeting on a date texting is not the right medium to
have long serious conversations with somebody as soon as you get into any
kind of serious topic give her a call or make sure you speak on a date about
this stuff yeah like i don't know how is your childhood that's not a question to
ask via text or so what are you into uh you know in your spare time all that
kind of stuff like getting to know stuff stay away from that on texting unless
there is a moment when it's like the evening and you both know you have a
chill time but then still jump on the call and i always say this the easiest
and funnest way of doing this is to text and then when once you know that she's
in a quiet environment to just give her a call like out of nowhere it comes
across as bold women usually kind of freak out a little bit but then they get
kind of excited because they hear your voice the fifth principle that really is
crucial for many guys to understand and a lot of guys seem to still not get this
is to always assume the best
and that everything is a bonus assume she's interested in
talking to you but also assume the best when she doesn't get back to you
straight away like she doesn't owe you an instant reply especially if you
haven't even like you know got into actual relationship yet with somebody
she doesn't owe you anything at all some people have their phone on silent she
might be at work she might be a at the manicure she might be in the gym
she might be meeting a friend she might be making dinner most people are always
doing something they don't sit around waiting for somebody to text them so
when she doesn't get back to you assume the best assume she has a good
reason to be busy with something else now what's funny is guys often think
women don't reply on purpose but very often it's also that women
maybe overthink what they should text back because they're nervous
or they like you so much but they want to make sure that their text is great
so they overthink and they overthink and they're like uh uh i've seen this in
action or they're just plain busy and they're just waiting for a moment to
text you properly and to be able to have a conversation dating is a very fluid
process it's a process of opportunities crystallizing so never get upset never
get frustrated and if you really want to get blocked then show your frustration
via text assume the best always if you can just stay relaxed and
focus on the opportunity rather than like some sort of demand or expectation
you will have a much better time and women will be much more forthcoming with
you so if you can remember these principles i think you're set for really
upping your texting game to the next level and if you want to build on this
and accelerate your progress with texting but also with speaking on the
phone and conversations in general and to be able to flirt and build
attraction on a consistent basis then check out my pimpy lingo 2.0 program
there should be a link here appearing for you check it out it should help you
enormously if you've ever had problems talking to women to attract them
consistently i'll speak to you in the next one
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