First sign that she's not worth it as a woman
in general is she lies like a cheap rug,
she lies like a sidewalk,
she lies even if it's to save your feelings.
So, a little bit of tricky one there
because you might think that's a good quality,
but the reality is you want someone
who's going to be truthful with you
even if sometimes the truth hurts.
Number two,
she pretends to be something
she's not just to win you over.
So, she's disingenuous in other words
she might find out what you like
and she tries to be that.
It might seem like it comes from a good place
but the reality is at some point in time
she's going to revert back to who she really is
and you might not like that person
and she might not like you
and you just might not be compatible.
Number three
her self-care is really selfish
it's all about her.
She just really only thinks
about what's best for herself
not you, not the relationship.
Number four,
she's insecure but displays it
through entitlement or arrogance.
Number five,
this one's going to be a bit of a surprise
but she's got no backbone
and actually goes along with
everything you say
even if it goes against her own values.
If a woman's going to go against her own values
at some point she may cheat on you.
I know, that's a whole other big topic
but let's just stay there for now.
Okay, next one.
Number six,
she relies entirely on you
to fulfill her life and provide entertainment.
This is bad because
if she ever gets bored with you
then she will look for someone else
to then provide that entertainment for her.
Number seven,
she is lazy about her health,
body, spirit, mind, everything.
If she's young, slim, and pretty
that doesn't guarantee
that she's going to stay that way
especially if she's generally just lazy about it.
Number eight,
she's addicted to drama and conflict.
She actually likes to argue
and she is never wrong
and or will never apologize.
Number nine,
okay, here's an interesting one.
She will actually try to win over any man
just to get him even though
at the first opportunity she'll level up.
Hypergamy.
Number 10,
she will try to get you to ditch
the other important people in your life
whether they're friends or family
or groups or workmates
or what have you because she's jealous
and doesn't want you to give
your attention to anyone other than her.
Number 11,
she uses confrontation
and fights to keep things interesting
because that's the only interesting thing
she has to offer.
Number 12,
she is chaotic
and unpredictable in an unpleasant way.
So, this is not about
positive surprises or spontaneity,
it's about chaotic unpredictability
that makes you feel unsafe emotionally with her.
Number 13,
she can't control her temper,
her temper is way out of hand
and she uses her temper and arguments
to manipulate or get her way.
14, she actually only asks
questions in order to use
the information against you.
She doesn't actually care
about your thoughts and feelings.
15, she either doesn't have
standards or doesn't really know
what her standards are
but uses random standards
simply to judge and criticize you.
16, she never actually initiates communication
she always relies on you to chase her.
Along those lines is 17.
Is that she acts like an entitled
princess in the relationship
and doesn't actually make an effort.
It's all up to you making an effort
in the relationship.
18, very important,
she discourages you from
pursuing your passions,
hobbies, purpose because she's afraid
that you will actually out grow her
and leave her.
Again, along those lines is 19.
Is that she tears you down or brings you down
either to your face or behind your back
to others in order to hold you back
from living your purpose as a man
again, she's afraid that you'll leave her.
And number 20, she has
a bad relationship with her parents
and or no relationship with
her parents and or siblings
if she has any or there's just discord there
that she's never been able to get past.
Bonus negative point is that
she's only interested in ***.
If there's something in it for her
outside of the ***
either you're going to do something for her
or buy her something
or there's some kind of exchange in the act.
***.
And double bonus point is
she is a damsel in distress
also known as emotionally damaged
also known as a total fixer-upper.
Okay, now let's go into
the signs that she's not
a good woman for you specifically,
yes, there's more.
Okay, first sign number one.
Your values and beliefs do not align
they don't have to be the same
but they have to be going in the
general same direction.
Number two, your long-term goals don't align.
She wants kids you don't want kids or the other way around
something major that's down the road
doesn't align,
you have to talk about these things.
Number three, the relationship isn't important
enough for her to prioritize.
Number four, she compares you to her exes
and or dad when you make mistakes.
Number five, she uses jealousy
to keep you attracted to her
either by using other men
or by being jealous of you talking to women
even if they're innocent
relationships like at work.
Number six, she never gives you credit
for the things she actually does
appreciate about you
because she doesn't want to build you up.
Seven, she's good looking and or good in bed
but that's her only value.
Along those lines number eight,
you fight more than you laugh,
which often ends up in makeup ***.
If makeup *** is the most *** you're having
that's a big red flag.
Along those lines as well, number nine is
if it feels awkward spending time with her
when you're not actually having ***
that's not good you know is going down.
Number 10, she's irritated by your flaws
or so-called flaws that you think are okay
and she's constantly nagging you
to change for her.
And number 11 is
if she's talking about the future
and you're not in it
that's not a good sign that she sees you there
and from you, bonus negative point is
if you are more afraid of being alone
than it is that you're in awe
of being with such an amazing person
that's a red flag.
So, now let's go through the major red flags
that she's definitely not the one
and that you need to probably run fast, run.
Number one, you don't want to
introduce her to your friends
or family or if you do you feel like
you have to make a bunch of disclosures
about her personality
before they get to meet her.
Number two, you actually can't
imagine her in your future
and you often wonder
about when you're going to break up
and maybe even look forward to it in a way.
Number three, you really
only want to spend time with her
when you know there'll be ***.
Number four, you not only notice other women
which is natural,
but you want to get their numbers
or you're actively trying to get their numbers
or your even maybe
got a few in the wings that you're working
just in case you do break up.
Number five, she not only
brings out the worst in you
but you're unmotivated
to change to be a better man
because she doesn't deserve the best of you.
Number six, you actually feel depleted
after spending time with her emotionally,
mentally, maybe even physically,
and not just the good kind because you had ***.
And seven, deep down you know you're settling.
In essence you know that life would
probably be better without her,
but it's inconvenient to make changes
and or you're afraid to be alone
and or you're wondering
if you're going to makes mistake
and you'll never find someone again
and you'd rather just settle than be alone.
So, you're probably wondering
well, how many of these are like
worth running away from?
To me, I'd say that if you have...
If she has five qualities
in any of these three categories
that have gone through
then that's not a good sign,
but you also have to know what your deal breakers
and deal makers are for real.
Which means you need
to get my wake up to love pro
it'll help you figure out
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