Parinama , Tapa and Sanskara three type of misery
Parinam Dukha is the memory of the pleasures of the glories that you have had make you depressed and unhappy
now you have had a position and your position is gone no position is permanent sometime or other
you have to get out of your position now mugabe occupied a position he was 92 and a journalist
asked him - when are you going to return ? when are you going to give it to somebody else ? he said i
am still alive he slapped him you have become so old yet you don't want to let go of your position !
you know people go on rent in some houses and when they go when they have to leave the house
they don't leave the house in a nice condition at all they just ransacked the house
they leave it in very bad condition by the pain of leaving the house i had to leave
someone is asked to quit their office that is it there is a pain in getting out of a position
it is so subtle and subconscious mind then you don't realize and you don't behave normal
even though you think you are normal others notice that you are not normal
once i met with ex-president of some country he just retired couple of days back
and then he really invited me he had been inviting me to have to bless his home i said okay and then
he asked his waiter at home to bring tea and milk or juice something for everybody obviously there is a
little delay for the server to go and make all the talent and this president took it so personally he
said - gurudev look ! when i was president he would bring me immediately now see is taking time
even my server my waiter don't respect me this is all in our own mind see nobody cares for me now !
which is not true i just smile and tell look it's all in your own mind we think people don't
respect us if we don't have a position your respect should be in your character in your
ability in your behavior not by position how will someone not respect you just in two three days of
you getting out of your position that means you have not projected yourself
or who you are so our identity for some joy, some pleasure, some position, some status.
makes us miserable so this is parinama impact of happiness remembrance oh i had such a nice time
so you become miserable now you had pleasure but the impact of it is what because it is gone
all ex ex-husbands, ex-wife's, ex-presidents, ex-prime ministers, this ex makes you really
miserable remembering that oh i had such a nice time with that guy now he's gone he's married with
somebody else now that something happens in the stomach you feel like throwing up this is parinam , dukha
and you become old you can't play cricket as you used to play that makes you sad you
couldn't go to gym like you used to do your body is not allowing that to happen this
is parinam-dukha , taap-dukha is the current situation you are boiling
you are boiling with anger , hatred , jealousy all this is
tap-dukha at the current moment you are
miserable or you have a physical ailment that makes you miserable at the current moment you
have a fight with someone close to you which makes you miserable now these are tapaduka and
then sanskara dukkha is misery has gone but the memory of the misery the seeds are still there
you ask someone why are you crying says no i am not crying my face is like that
this is sanskara-dukha you made a habit of complaining and even though there is
nothing to complain you've made a habit of being miserable , being upset , being sad
and that habit of crying you know sometimes you find even in kids this
for no reason that cry mom and dad pampers them the more pampered they simply cry this is
sanskar-dukha so you made a habit of being sad , being miserable even the masochism is also part of this
you find a little joy in being sad you enjoy being sad because that what
you have experienced from childhood when you cried you got all attention
when you were sad you got attention that attention made you feel better so somewhere in subconscious
mind you think if you are miserable only then you will get attention and they remain like that
tell me who would like to sit with someone who is miserable all the time
who has a long face who wants attention for no apparent reason they are not worthy of compassion
even because this is sanskara dukha this is the impression of misery that you are holding on to
nobody can relieve you out until you yourself don't come out of it
keeping a long face all the time finding some more other excuse to be unhappy
is stupidity and that is dukkha an intelligent person looks at this world he says yeah
when pleasant moments are over they leave an impression that impression causes misery unpleasant events
happen they go away but they cause impressions and those impression again causes misery
so whether pleasant or unpleasant even whether you are in a high post or you are rich or poor
all those sanskaras when they are on your consciousness they only cause misery
just imagine you are the richest person how long can you say the richest
on the top least of richest person in the world
or every six months or every year there is a revision of list you find someone
else is more competent and in competition with you and they become much richer than you
the man who was number one in the list came down to 10 in just two years time
and then 30 in another three years time five years later he is not even in the list
and this is causing misery same with fame you get one talent and little later another
talent will come and if you are hanging on to this fame , money , position , company
relationship they can all cause you misery this doesn't mean you should not have
them you just know this an intelligent person recognize these are all cause of misery
(sanskrit shloka.....)
being a manager is a role and you think you are the manager yeah that's a cause of misery
you played a role of a manager and that role may disappear anytime when you identify yourself with
that that is misery you identify yourself with your qualification oh i am tech guy i am mba ,i
am this, i am that, i am doctor, i am md, my dear md is only a role that is not you this identification
even with your goodness i'm very good many people become miserable thinking they are very good
when you think you are very good you find others are not good so when others are not good you are
very good this is the formula for anger and hatred to spring up self-pity is the worst thing people
who pity themselves are ready to hate others they have prepared themselves to hate others
you think oh i'm so good, i'm so dedicated, i'm so efficient, i'm so this and that and
others are not so now you have began the journey towards misery nobody is the cause of your misery
your own identification is the cause of your misery there's a beautiful proverb in sanskrit
(sanskrit shloka.........)
there's no giver of misery or happiness it is your own making so self-pity to be
done with and you think you are so good then you fail to recognize your shortcomings
when you fail to see your shortcomings there is no way for your growth you are shut
there is a shutdown in your revolution i tell you heart gives rise to arrogance and you become
incommunicable the self-righteous people are very hard to communicate
they're not ready to see and they don't even accept that they're not ready to see
they don't even accept that they are incommunicable the purpose of
yoga the purpose of spirituality is to stop the misery which is about to come before they come