- So I had the privilege of having Allison Armstrong
in my Manifest Your Man program
as a guest teacher, couple of weeks back.
Now, Allison's amazing.
She's a bestselling author.
She's an incredible relationship coach.
She's been training millions of people around the world
and she talked about four qualities,
that men find super hot.
And, these aren't the qualities
that you would anticipate or expect.
So, stick around
because that's what we're diving into right now.
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- Hey there, I'm Mat Boggs,
the founder of the Love and Relationship Division
of the Brave Thinking Institute,
where our mission is "Empowering people
to create and live a life they love living,"
and that includes your love life.
And so, Allison is amazing.
She's incredible.
She's been training for decades,
and have hosted events all around the world,
where she brings in men
asking them what they find super hot,
what they find attractive.
And she's interviewed literally thousands of men,
and she reported on these four qualities,
these four characteristics.
And I guarantee you,
that you have these characteristics.
And when you own them to a greater degree
when you learn to turn up the volume on these
and shine them even brighter in your life,
you are going to ignite the attraction
in the man you're with,
or you're going to become an amazing...
A magnet to an amazing man that you want to be with.
So, number one, that men reported
that they find super hot, is self-confidence.
A woman who is self-confident is sexy.
A woman who is self-confident is hot.
And not from an arrogant standpoint,
not a woman who is...
That comes across as a facade.
That actually comes across as low self-esteem,
when a woman is too arrogant.
But self confidence,
authentic confidence in who you are,
what you want,
and how you feel about yourself,
your ability to own your sexiness,
your ability to own your own beauty
is incredibly attractive.
You know, we're in an era
where self-deprecation, you know,
humility really bringing yourself down is sort of a norm.
It's a cultural that this is what you have to do
to be accepted and to be authentic and to be vulnerable.
And there's a balance to that.
Too much self-deprecation becomes self-criticism,
and that's not attractive.
I was dating a woman
where she was talking about herself,
and she was like, you know, I just don't feel beautiful.
And I just don't feel sexy.
And she wasn't...
She was beautiful.
She was sexy,
but she wasn't a willing to own it.
She wasn't allowing herself
to really stand in the beauty
that she was and own her own sexiness.
You are beautiful, you are sexy.
And when you own it
to an authentic deep degree,
that is super hot.
The second quality men found super hot is authenticity.
Authenticity is super hot
because that's where you really see someone.
That's where you can connect with someone
is through their authenticity.
And authenticity is one of those things
where it can be confusing.
What do I share?
What do I not share?
How do I really be myself,
my best self in this situation.
And being authentic,
if you struggle with that,
if you kind of always wanna put on a good looking program
where I've got it all together
which we know none of us have it all together,
but I struggled with that early on.
I really wanted connection so badly
that I put up this looking good program that I had.
And it was actually preventing the connection that I wanted.
It was preventing me from experiencing
deep, authentic relationships.
So, one way to lean into authenticity,
is being willing to share about your fears and failures.
Fears and failures.
We bond with other people,
through common shared emotions.
Emotions like fear, emotions like sadness,
emotions like overwhelm.
Those types of emotions,
when you're sharing,
"Hey, this is what's going on for me,"
people resonate with that
'cause it's going on for them too.
They've got areas where they feel sad
or they feel scared
or they feel overwhelmed in their life.
And when you couple sharing
about a failure from the past,
with something that you learned from that failure.
How it helped you grow.
How you're now a better person
because of that failure,
that is super hot.
The third quality that men reported was receptivity.
A woman who releases control
on having to manage everything herself,
and allows her man to serve her.
She's choosing to be served by her man.
And she joyfully responds for how he is pouring into her.
Know this, men, we need to be needed.
We need to feel necessary.
We need to feel useful.
As I've said before,
the man who feels irrelevant,
who feels useless,
who isn't needed,
that man starts to die in that situation.
And he will flee that situation
in search of life,
in search of where he feels useful and necessary.
You choosing to receive from your man,
you creating space and opportunities
for him to serve you,
and then you joyfully receiving
what he's providing for you,
helps your man feel needed
and his life giving for him.
Now, receptivity is one of the core components,
of activating your feminine energy.
If you would love to know
more about feminine energy,
I've written a great e-book for you.
It's complimentary gift from me to you.
Go ahead and click the link below in this video,
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And the fourth quality that men found super hot is passion.
In other words, not just sexual passion,
but a woman who is passionate about life.
A woman who is tuned in and connected with life.
She gets turned on by life.
What is your mission?
What are you passionate about?
What do you feel fully activated about
and alive in your life?
Those emotions, stimulate that same feeling in your man.
Your passion for life ignites his passion for life.
Women have this incredible ability,
to dial up the colors in life for their man.
They bring beauty to life.
They bring passion to life.
They bring this depth of experience.
That life becomes more vibrant
because she's around,
that woman is incredibly hot.
Self-confidence, authenticity, receptivity, and passion,
are what these men found super hot.
My question for you
is: What do you find super hot about your man?
Go ahead and post that in the comment section below.
I appreciate you.
Thanks for watching.
I'll see you soon.
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