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- [Narrator] Hey Phych2goers,
welcome back to our channel.
Have you ever wanted to impress your crush?
If only they saw some of your great qualities
they may just like you.
But, how can you get them to notice you first?
Here are just a few psychological ways
to impress your crush.
Number one, go on an adrenaline boosting date.
In a famous 1973 study on the psychology of attraction,
psychologists Donald Dutton and Arthur Aaron
had an attractive female experimenter ask male subjects,
between the ages of 18 to 35,
a series of questions.
The experimenter showed each subject an ambiguous image,
and asked them to tell a story about
what could be taking place in the picture.
But, half of the men had to cross a high rickety bridge,
while the other half crossed a stable and low bridge.
At the end of the questionnaire,
the woman then gave each man her phone number,
and said they could call her
if they had any questions about the study.
The men on the unstable, adrenaline-inducing bridge
wrote stories on their questionnaire
that included more sexual content and imagery
than those on the lower bridge.
And, only 2 out of the 16 subjects
who went over the low, stable bridge
called the female experimenter back.
While half of those who crossed the high, scary bridge
called the woman after the experiment was finished.
Researchers Dutton and Aaron theorized
that the scary bridge
created feelings of arousal in subjects.
Subjects misattributed this arousal
as feelings for the attractive female experimenter.
So, if someone goes on
an exciting, adrenaline-inducing date,
they may turn these feelings to you,
and want to pursue you more.
Number two, on a coffee date order a warm beverage.
According to researchers
Lawrence E. Williams and John A. Bargh,
experiencing physical warmth
can encourage interpersonal warmth.
For their experiment,
subjects held warm and cold beverages
while discussing another group of people.
The participants who held iced beverages
were much more ruthless and cold
in describing the other group.
Those who held the warm drink
judged others as having a warmer personality
believing they were more caring and generous.
The research study states,
"Experiences of physical temperature per se
affect one's impressions of and pro-social behavior
toward other people without one's awareness
of such influences."
The findings are in agreement with emerging knowledge
about the role played by the insula
in both the sensation of one's physiological state,
such as skin temperature
and the detection of the trustworthiness of others.
So, when it comes to picking a first date,
take your crush out to a cozy place that's warm.
And remember, order coffee or cocoa!
Number three, buy them a gift that you own as well.
So, you're thinking about
gifting something to your crush, huh?
Well, if you do decide
to gift your special someone something,
give yourself the same present as well.
Researchers Evan Pullman and Sam J. Maglio
call this gift giving behavior "Companionizing".
In their study, they found that an individual
is more likely to feel closer to their gift givers
if they give them something they own as well.
Whether it's a pair of matching sweaters,
or a favorite CD you also owned.
Give them something you have too.
Not only will they enjoy their gift more
knowing someone out there has another part of it,
but they may just feel closer to you as well.
Number four, be humorous.
Everyone loves to laugh.
So, why not bring the humor to the table on your next date?
According to what is known as "The Humor Effect,"
generally, people will have an easier time
remembering information they perceived as humorous,
as opposed to info they don't find funny.
Well next time you tell your date
why the chicken crossed the road,
she may only remember that dear old chicken,
but she may just remember you a bit more too.
There is still a continuous research needed
on the benefits of humor and "The Humor Effect,"
and its relation to memory,
but it certainly won't hurt
next time you bust out a good joke.
Humor increases energy levels,
lowers our negative emotions
and it may just make your crush more interested
in what you say.
Number five, buy them some food.
According to a study published
in the Journal Frontiers of Psychology,
giving your crush some food
may just make them feel something more for you.
Researchers Myrte E. Hamburg, Catrin Finkenauer,
and Carlo Schuengel theorized
that food offering provides a way
of coping with distress and empathetic concern,
as well as an effective means of offering social support
resulting in increased positive effect
across interaction partners,
and an increase in interpersonal closeness.
So, next time you see them,
pour them some hot cocoa,
and share that chocolate croissant of yours.
They may just like you more for it!
And see you as having a warmer personality too!
Number six, compliment others.
One way to impress your crush
is to show them how kind you are to others.
You are kind to others, right?
When we speak of others in a positive light,
people will associate the traits we use
to describe that person with ourselves.
This often occurs when we talk about
someone in a positive way to someone else.
This is called "Spontaneous Trait Transference,"
and it occurs when communicators are perceived
as possessing the very traits they describe in others.
According to researchers Skowronski,
Carlston, Mae and Crawford,
and according to several studies published
in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
The researchers found that when we describe someone
with a certain trait to another person,
that person will associate us with the trait described.
So, next time you notice something great
about your friend Billy,
make sure to let your crush know how great Billy is.
I mean, as long as Billy isn't
across a high and unstabled bridge,
holding a warm cup of coffee
and a bag of croissants.
Oh, he is?
Dang flabbit Billy!
So, how will you impress your crush?
Which of these psychological studies
did you find most interesting?
Will you use them?
Let us know in the comments down below.
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