We start seeing people, their hearts naturally open up. And all
the things they thought they want
when they came to the event, they no longer want because they feel
like they have it!
They don't need it anymore. Because they've got the feeling
before the experience so that they feel so whole that they no longer
want. And they're not looking for their future anymore.
You only look for it when you feel lack!
When your body is conditioned emotionally into the future,
why would you look for it
when it feels like it's already happened?
This is where it gets weird. Because now things start coming to you and
you're no longer in need. And when it comes to you, you go:
Oh here, take it.
I don't want it.
I just wanted to know that I could create it. And people
create a lot of wealth in our events.
And the first thing a lot of people do is they say: I'm buying a
cruise for you.
I'm buying you your car,
mom, I'm getting you that house.
Why do they do that?
Because they're so excited, they feel so amazing and they're thinking:
I could do this again!
A person in lack
wouldn't give, a person is abundant would give! Because they know how to create.
So, now the game changes, it's no longer about the self. You're
doing it because you know that you can create it.
So then, maintaining that state, when you're in love, when you're
in love, you are in love!
You're not looking for it.
You're not looking for it,
you'd be in the lack. When you're in love
there's nothing to do.
You're in love, you're the magnet, you are it. And so,
the events that come into your life would not only be
just a reflection of a relationship with someone that you wanted to be intimate with,
you would have meaningful loving relationships that
would enhance that feeling. And when it didn't, you would say: Oh, you
know what?
I don't know.
I don't know if this is right for me, you would trust that.
Because you worked really hard to nurture this, to protect it, to grow it,
to trust it again, to open up.
It takes a lot to do this. But we see men in our work,
I was on them this week,
I never let up on those guys, big macho guys.
You want to encourage this, let's go.
Let's open that heart.
And when they start cracking open, I mean we see people heal from
colon cancer and from angina just boom, there it is.
There it's not. That's what's been stored all down here.
Once they open this up and it moves, the body is transforming in that
moment. The system is
informing itself, information is being restored back into the body.
So, when you get to that point where you... When you're in lack and
separation, time gets really
crazy because you want stuff to happen faster and it feels like it's
taking forever.
That's because you're in separation.
When you're in love and you're connected, you don't want the moment to end.
I mean, I had 3 guys over for dinner last night, all these
academics,
I cooked a meal and a half for these guys.
Took out great wine. Why? I wanted them to be so caught up in the moment
that they've forgotten, we made a new memory.
We had a great experience. And life then is about experiencing it.
In love.
Like, I'm not going to be guilty of what I'm eating or judge what I'm
eating if I've cooked a great meal.
Let's eat. Because the guilt is worse than whatever it is
you think is bad for you.
So then, when you're feeling those elevated emotions and you're locked in love,
then you see life through the lens of love. And there's
compassion, like you could look at your greatest adversary, the person
that threw you under the bus and you've overcome yourself and you've
done the work.
Trashing on you, all
that stuff.
You look at them and you'll see a part of yourself that you used to be
that you no longer are.
And you'll have nothing but understanding and compassion.
Wow.
I feel for that person.
They're hurting, they're struggling.
I used to be like that. But you're no longer that. When you're that, then
they push your buttons. You're reactive to that. Because you're
equal. But when you've overcome it, why would you do that?
You would see them as somebody struggling.
Just like you see a child who's throwing a tantrum
just like other. I react every day, but the fundamental question is:
How long are you going to react?
So shortening the refractory period of your emotional reactions is
that kind of intelligence where we're keeping ourselves out of the
past. Justified, valid or not,
the only person that that's affecting is you! And then you have to ask
yourself:
Is it loving to me?
Well, if you can't control that emotional reaction, then you're a junkie.
You're on a bad trip and you're overdosing.
But if you know that you're overdosing, you got to get beyond
your rational because you'll say: Why are you this way? Because...
All right, by you doing that,
is that making more of those chemicals?
Yeah. Why were you doing that? To make you feel more
like it's justified.
So then, I excused myself many times in one day.
I'll be like: Are you kidding me?
What did they do?
And then I'll be like: We're not going to make a decision in this state!
So, give me a minute.
Take a few breaths.
Get out of that state.
Remember my future, where I'm going.
It's so much more important in the present moment.
I just got to condition my body into that future.
And now, it takes sometimes a Herculean effort.
I have to tell you.
You can ask my staff.
I'll be in there 15, 20, 30 minutes.
Sometimes I'll say
it took me an hour. And in the expanse of all
eternity,
if I don't overcome that emotion,
then I'm in my past and that's karma. Because that emotion is going to
drive my behaviors and thoughts and I'm going to be predictable.
My future is gonna look a lot like my past.
So, if I'm so fully on the journey, then what matters the most is being
able to learn the skill of self-regulation.
So, in our events, when we see people that can do brain and heart
coherence, they know the formula.
Well, look at their brain scans and I'm like - Louis great brain.
Hey, I see you can hold that heart coherence for 45 minutes. Great.
Now let's put you on a pole at 55 feet in the air.
Let's get a heart rate monitor on you.
And let's see what you're going to do up there.
Do you want to be able to self-regulate there?
Because if you can there, it's not
like I'm trying to give you an adrenaline rush.
Actually
I'm trying to the opposite.
I want you to settle your brain and body back down,
go against thousands of years of programming like fear, and teach your
body in that moment how to regulate. I guarantee you, if you go a
little further than what you did and you stay conscious instead of
throwing in a program and rushing through it and trying to get it
over with,
you start breathing,
you start getting back in your heart,
you start getting centered, you work against those chemicals,
I guarantee you - when you walk into your life,
the moment
you see something you do, you're going to catch on right away.
You're going to catch yourself.
Now that saves you a lot of energy and a lot of time. Because if
you're able to change it then instead of 4 hours later when you're
just gone or you've already reacted, nd you've done things you
say I should have never done,
that I should have never said that,
that's what those emotions do. Because those emotions make us really
primitive.
Really primitive.
We're gonna become
antagonistic and angry and aggressive.
We're going to run in fear or we're going to hide, that's
really the options. When you asked me,
do I react?
Yeah, every day. But I get better at it.
And I always say: Okay, if I was in that same circumstance with that
same person, I got the same or similar news,
how would Joe Dispenza show up more evolved? If I don't know the answer
to that,
I'm going to find someone who had a similar experience,
I'm going to read what they did and I'm going to rehearse that.
I'm gonna rehearse it in my mind so much so that I'm priming my brain
for the experience.
Now I want it to happen! So that I could, it's not about being right,
it's not about being any of those.
It's really about my evolution.
So then, that victory to me creates more wholeness.
And so, that more homeless means I'm in less lack and
separation.
Then I'm relaxed in the present moment.
And that's the
that's the beauty of being alive is that we want the moment to last,
we want to be so present.
It's so good.
We don't want to leave it.
So love, people
want love, but what's the sponsoring thought behind that? They want
joy, that love brings them joy!