let me ask you this quick question do you ever find yourself feeling bit like
a pushover you know you want to gain respect from other people but other
people don't seem to respect you and the more you seem to try the less it seems
to really work and now it's costing you in terms of your life and your career
you name it if this is something you can resonate with this video will solve this
problem these three steps isn't something that I've learnt is something that I've
done and I'm living literally every single day because this totally
transform my life I spent most of my years just being a pushover because I
grew up with social anxiety and extreme shyness but now I'm able to speak on
stages all around the world being invited to not even for example speak at
TEDx but also meet the president is just crazy when I really think about how
powerful these steps have been for me so be sure to pay close attention because
this will transform your life the first step is to model success the fastest way
for you to be successful in anything is to literally watch somebody who's really
successful in what you want to do and model it it's almost like if you're
learning to play guitar for the first time you wouldn't just try to play your
own song straight away right what would you do you would have a mentor a tutor
that's showing you somebody else's song right and then you will literally model
your tutor song isn't that true and one day when you get really good at playing
other people's song then you create your own song that's same in terms of
yourself if you're going to gain authority the fastest way for you to gain
authority is to model the behavioural traits of somebody who's already
authoritative because right now you're sharing nonverbal as well as verbal
sense thus giving uncertainty uncertainty the feeling of uncertainty
to other people so you want to model people who are certain and you've got
that belief and notice what they do in terms of how they carry themselves
what's their tonality like what's the rate in which they speak how much do
they pause and you'll notice these people you look up to they have got a
specific traits that makes you assume that they know what they're doing and
that's why you begin to listen is that making sense so you want to begin to
model success and if you if you wanna go step further ask them questions if you
can by the way if if they are like you're mentor ask them questions and
figure out what they believe because what they believe is driving that
behavior and so if you really want to model this to the absolute core level
figure out their beliefs and adopt these beliefs and act as if it's true and one
day you'll notice you'll begin to see significant amount of differences in
your life because you're now modeling the trace of somebody who's really
successful who's already authoritative and who's ready gaining massive amount
of respect that's the first point the second point is to develop unshakable
self belief if you look at people who gain massive amount respect it's because
they do deserve it they have got unshakable amount of self belief in
themselves look at for example Elon Musk when he talk about his vision of
colonizing Mars we cannot help but feel like wow that guy is just like dreaming
so freakin big because whilst everyone else is like just saying oh we are just
want to kind of just breeze on by just pay the bills and so forth this guy's
looking to colonize Mars think about that so he's got that self belief that
drives him to believe that this dream is possible and that's why all other human
beings want to follow him and just respect him because we're admiring the
fact that he believes in himself and so you got to cultivate this belief within
yourself how do you do it firstly you wanna visualize yourself having already
succeeded in your life and you want to do it every single day studies from
Harvard when they carried this out amongst athletes who are very successful
they notice how athletes in the locker room are constantly visualizing
themselves succeeding running through the finish line you want to do the same so
visualize yourself having an incredible team meeting where you're really a
authoritative where you're really confident visualize yourself being to handle any
uncertainty imagine the worst-case scenario but imagine you being to power
through because you believe that you can and when you replay these images in your
mind over and over again your mind is being reconditioned to believe that you
can do it every single day you'll make a huge difference at the same time hang
around with people who believe in themselves you'll notice how proximity
is power and I found this to be true in my life when I was really shy used to hang
around with shy people it didn't help with me trying to push past what I
believed was possible so I began to hang around with people who are putting
themselves out there and before long I began to model them and I began to push
myself because they're pushing me and so you want to do the same hang around with
people who really believe in themselves who are really pushing themselves to get
that next level of personal development the final step the third step I believe
that is the most important one I'm going to show you today the reason why is when
you model success you will begin to see results and when you begin to visualize
yourself succeeding and develop that unshakable self belief you will
begin to gain massive amount of respect however you will not make it last if you
don't take action on the final step the final step is to legitimately care about
the people you're looking to serve legitimately care about the people you
want to really have respect to you because if you really think about the
people who've inspired you the most they're the people who really believe in
you maybe even more than you believe in yourself and as a result you were
willing to put your heart on the line and doing whatever it takes to make it
happen right and so you want others to feel the same about you if others can
really feel the fact that you truly care about them and you speak from the heart
and they can tell you're not some selfish leader they will really get
behind your message so you want to go from what's called egocentric to
ethnocentric goals egocentric is when you're focused on you
know what these goals do for you ethnocentrism your focus on how
accomplishing these goals will help others when you begin to really focus on
adding value into other people's lives and showing empathy and displaying that
to other people they will really begin to respect you because they can really
feel that you can so be sure to give these steps a shot and let me know in
the comments box below which point that you resonated with today and I'll be
sure to reply back to you and like this video if you like this video see you
on that next video and as always follow your heart and take action