absolutely date everyone who is rich and has decent manners when you're dating it doesn't mean
you have to marry that person. Welcome back to Neemah Speaks a place where I empower women throughout
the diaspora. Remember "don't you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty. You might
not marry a girl just because she's pretty but, my goodness doesn't it help?" with your host
Neemah Speaks. Today I want to come back and talk about the book by Ginie Sayles How to marry the rich
for both men and women. This book has so many gems. I'm gonna go ahead and tell you the three biggest
lessons that you can learn from this book without further ado let's get started. The first lesson
from Ginie Sayles book; Rich will marry somebody why not you? Is that: You are wonderful. I love Ginie
So much because in her book she emphasized the importance of understanding the power of You.
What exactly does that mean? You never want to change the core of what makes you
unique and an amazing person just because you're now dating or in a relationship with somebody
who is rich or "wealthy". You need to learn and enhance yourself so you can rub
shoulders with the riches. But, that doesn't mean that you are going to be "fake" and
do things that are not in the core center of what makes you unique. These are the two things that you gotta
make sure that you have. The first thing is; What do you have in common with the rich? now
say Neemah didn't you just say that I don't have to change who I am as a person? Remember in order
for somebody to talk to you, in order for somebody to be in the same room as you need to have things in common.
You are actually one of us. You might disagree with that
but that's just the reality. We like to talk to people we like to be around people who are
kinder similar okay we have things in common.
How Can You build rapport with the rich? you can live in the same
neighborhood as them. You don't have to have the most beautiful place but if you live in the same
neighborhood as them that means you have something in common. Now you have rapport, you have a
chance to rub shoulders with those types of people. What else can you do? I always emphasize this
when I talk about my ladies in their 20s and I say if you are in college or university.
If you went to school together you guys are in a quote-unquote equal playing field and equal ground.
You may say; Neemah but they're rich! No that doesn't matter.
You guys can relate to one another. You guys can relate with the student's struggle aka the freshman 15!
all of you are college students so that's the best time for you to cultivate those relationships.
Make sure your relationships are genuine. You just need to have something in common to build
rapport. The second action plan that you can put in your life is; think of three qualities that are
different and make you stand out from the rich. So why is this important? This is what's gonna
make you fascinating. Once you build rapport and you have things in common, Rapport is what brings
you into the door but once you're in the same room now you need to have something that makes you stand out
as an individual. Most of the time don't even think too much about this one. These are the things
that in middle school in high school people made fun of you off. Those are things that make you
unique. For me, it was the fact that I had an accent and now it's fascinating that all of you love my
accent y'all think my voice is amazing but that's something that made me stand out. Another thing
I'm a dark-skinned black woman. I gotta say it. If I enter a room. I'm gonna stand out because i
look different. It depends on what type of room I'm in. But that's something that makes me different. Again
think of things that make you stand out and make you fascinating as a human being. The second lesson
from this book that I love so much is Your dreams. Ginie emphasizes the importance of
if you want to marry the rich make sure the life that you're envisioning is your life. Make sure
you're not trying to live and want to have the life of somebody else and once you have that life
then you are not satisfied because, to begin with it was not your specific dream. What
exactly does that mean? Start by examining your dream lifestyle and then be true to your dream.
Remember the lifestyle Neemah Speaks might want it may not be the life that you aspire to have.
Remember i was talking about how to find your whale and i broke down the different type of whales and
what exactly they want from women and all of that. Every woman has different dreams. We all want
different things hypothetically Neemah might want to have an ego spender may be that the dream
life that I desire. That's my dream life but maybe like you don't want that. That's not your dream.
we're gonna translate your dream lifestyle into money, into financial range. We're gonna have
a figure and this number is your number don't say it to nobody else but, keep this figure at the back
of your mind. Are you gonna be happy if you're with somebody who makes 100k? Is one to two
millions enough? Is it half a billion? Ten billion? hundred billion? gazillion? trillion?
I'm doing the most but you get the point. Remember, This is your dream lifestyle, this is nobody else's dream
The third lesson you can learn from Ginie's book on how to marry the rich. They gotta marry
somebody why not you is your relationship criteria. She broke it down into two categories. The
First category is your dating criteria and then she has a second category which is the marriage
criteria. Ginie Sayles says that; dating criteria and marriage criteria are not the same. Remember
that woman who went on Steve Harvey's show she had so many dating criteria on what she's looking for in
a relationship. It was: he must be 30 to 45, he must be financially stable, no children, 5 ft 10 or taller,
no hookup or flings, no roommate, non smoking, must love dessert, she had a long list but Ginie
simplified it. She said we're gonna only have two criteria. One for dating one for marriage.
Your dating criteria is you shouldn't care how a person look specifically I know some
ladies desire and "need" to love the person they are dating, they need them to be attractive. When I was talking about
weight ladies argued that oh but men, they're ugly themselves. Ginie says it doesn't matter how they look.
The uglier the better! Okay I'm lying i put that in myself she didn't say that but she said you
shouldn't care how people look. Absolutely date everyone who is rich and has decent manners. When
you're dating it doesn't mean you have to marry that person. Dating is for you to get to know
people to see okay, do they have the qualities that I'm looking for? Are they going to satisfy my dream
life? Are we compatible with one another? As long as they're rich and they have decent manners those
are your two dating criteria. Ginie dating rule is that, your category can only have two characteristics
For dating, the criteria might be that they're rich and have decent manners. You
don't have to use those criteria but you can make your own criteria for dating. Same rule for your
marriage criteria. It's only two. So in total, you have four of them. Once a person is rich
and they have decent manner and you're like you know what we vibe together when we're talking we
can have an intellectual conversation. Or we get along, that's when comes in your marriage criteria.
once you get used to dating a rich mate you can now focus on your marriage criteria. Your marriage
criteria is all about how a rich mate will treat you. List down the two most important qualities and
characteristics that a rich mate must have, from the pool that you have dated. Make sure that you
are quite serious I'm not talking about they gotta be seven foot tall and have 13 pack abs. Babes
that's childish! let's not do that. 13 pack abs and 7 foot tall is not important. They can be ugly
as ever it doesn't matter. Make sure that these are qualities that you want. Maybe your marriage
criteria can be somebody who is a protector and a provider. That can be something for you. I'm just
just giving you ladies ideas. Or they gotta be kind. Those are the marriage qualities aka how will they
treat you. Again the third lesson that you can learn here is that: you need to have a relationship
criteria and remember ladies and gentlemen the dating criteria doesn't mean you gotta marry that
person. You're just making sure that you guys are compatible. This book is packed with gems go-ahead
comment down below saying Neemah we need a part two. As always every single time i do a book review
i always create a pdf summary summarizing the book so you don't have to read it. Today;s summary
is a little bit different because i broke it down into action plan. I literally have an action plan for
you ladies to implement right now into your life. Become a part of Neemah Speaks inner circle and
access this pdf file. I gave you examples. I gave you pictures, I gave you things to do. I gave you where
to go. I listed everything for you into a nice little pdf file. As always I gotta go ahead and
brag about today's show co-hosts. Shout out to QueenB. Shout out to Hajar. Shout out to Kaleka
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