hey everyone and welcome to top tank today we're going to learn about 10 choices every man must
make now let's begin number one self-care in life you'll make millions of choices there's good ones
and bad ones healthy choices and unhealthy choices you choose your career you choose your friends and
you choose each and every day whether or not to take care of yourself self-care comes naturally to
some people to others it's unwanted unnecessary or just too much work but caring for yourself is one
of the most important decisions that you'll ever make now of course caring for yourself isn't just
one big decision you don't wake up one morning and decide you know what i'm going to care about
myself now self-care demands thousands of small choices which you have to make every single day
at each crossroads you have to choose to care about your health and your happiness
like any habit or routine it takes time practice and hard work to care for yourself
at first it may feel like a waste of your time personal grooming for example may not be your
favorite thing in the world to do but each moment that you choose to care for yourself
each moment you dedicate to your well-being those moments improve the quality of your life and that
by anyone's standards is priceless number two voluntary generosity we're taught early on that
success is the key to happiness over the course of your life you may accrue wealth fame and
influence you may rise to the top of your field and succeed in ways you never thought you could
despite all your successes it may feel like something's missing from your life
that something is the act of giving giving is a choice very few people make because giving
requires a voluntary sacrifice you're choosing to surrender something of yours something you earned
to improve another person's life you may give money to the less fortunate you may volunteer
your time at a charitable organization even if you're not successful giving offers you a chance
to connect with people on a different level do you know what it feels like to change someone's life
do you know what it feels like to spare someone from hunger or pain by giving to the
less fortunate you can have these life-changing experiences choose to give as often as you can
given small ways or in big ways because everyone in the world is capable of doing something good
but it will always be a choice that you have to make number three intellectual exploration
we spend the first third of our lives learning but many people stop learning when they graduate
many adults think they understand everything there is to understand you may be convinced that
you know more than enough to live your life and that might be true but when you stop learning your
perspective becomes narrow you may be confident in your intelligence but here's the truth
you don't know all that much no one does even the most intelligent people on the planet learn
new things every day because there's simply too much knowledge in the world to know it all but
by pursuing and gathering more knowledge you can explore your passions your community and yourself
imagine you're standing in a pitch black room in your mind the room is empty you can't see
any doors or any windows you can't see any furniture but that doesn't mean they aren't there
learning is like turning on the lights it reveals subjects niches and pathways that you never knew
existed you may discover lifelong hobbies and interests you may discover inspiring people and
strong friendships as a lifelong learner you're not pursuing greater intelligence or total wisdom
you're exploring what it means to be you and that is a goal worth chasing so choose
to learn something new each day because there's so much out there just waiting to be discovered
number four professional commitment almost everyone has a dream they want to come
true but every dream requires a sacrifice and every sacrifice requires a difficult decision
in the moments you have to choose to walk a more challenging path you have to choose
long-term gratification over short-term rewards now these difficult choices require discipline
and commitment but each time you choose the hard road you're taking a step closer to your
lifelong dreams almost every day you'll make an important decision do you push yourself to
exceed expectations or do you slide by satisfied with the minimum the former gets you one step
closer to your goals the latter keeps you right where you are the people who find success and the
people who achieve their dreams are the people who choose to work when everyone's given up
number five valuable friends good friends are hard to come by but they're even harder to keep
you may have great friends right now but there will come a time in your life when those
friendships start to fizzle when that happens you'll be faced with an important decision do you
sit back and let those friendships disappear or do you make an effort to keep them alive and healthy
friends who stay together work hard to keep their connection strong because every relationship from
professional partners to significant others requires time effort and a lot of work
so value the people that you treasure most choose to make them a priority
because your commitment can strengthen your bond for life
number six risky opportunities in life dozens of opportunities will come your way maybe a friend
is starting their own business and they want you to be their partner maybe a job opens up at your
dream company saying yes means leaving the comfort of your normal life behind right now you're stable
life's easy and well defined but if you said yes you don't know what your life would look like if
you let these opportunities pass you by your life will never go anywhere you'll have to take risks
to make progress you have to choose your future over your present even if you don't know what the
future holds it may not be comfortable but comfort isn't always a priority that's an important
decision that you have to make on your own number seven personal freedom toxic relationships can
sabotage your happiness a bad friend or partner traps you in a self-deprecating state of mind you
forget to have faith in yourself you forget how to empower yourself but you have the power to set
yourself free in any toxic relationship you can make that difficult decision to let them go this
choice takes courage and confidence you may feel indebted or committed to a toxic person they may
convince you that you aren't capable of leaving them but every person has the power to choose so
letting this person go may be hard at first but it could be the greatest decision you ever make
number eight diffusing your pride your pride can be your friend but it can also be your worst enemy
a big ego clouds your vision and stands in the way of your success let's say you've got a comfortable
job you're a big fish in a small pond and you like it that way but an opportunity comes a
knocking a job opens up that moves you closer to your lifelong dreams but you won't be a big fish
in a small pond anymore instead you're a small fish in one giant pond your ego may stop you from
taking that opportunity but every successful person knows that pride is a waste of your
time when your ego gets the best of you you stop learning you stop growing you don't open yourself
up to the ideas of the people around you so don't let your ego make your decisions for you don't
let your fear of looking bad sit in the driver's seat instead choose to stay humble choose to put
yourself in difficult uncomfortable positions because your ego it belongs in the back seat
number nine losing your backup do you have a backup plan a fallback or a safety net
many people do you say you're shooting for the stars but you never give yourself a chance to
really succeed because there's always a safety net hanging under you you know if
something goes wrong you could fall back on your safety net and live a comfortable life
as long as you're counting on your backup plan you're never going to commit to your goals
you can't live two lives at the same time so focus all your energy on one path one direction
and do whatever it takes to find success on the path you've chosen yeah it's scary to let go of
your backup plan if that isn't something you're willing to do that's also an important decision
if you're unwilling to get rid of your backup plan maybe your backup plan describes the kind of life
that you're really looking for so whether you choose your dreams or your safety net decide one
way or the other dedicate all your energy to the life you want not the life you're scared to let go
number 10 choosing forgiveness forgiveness is a choice when something goes wrong you choose to
ridicule yourself you choose to beat yourself up but the past is the past so don't waste your time
attacking yourself for something that you can't change instead you should forgive yourself and
improve so make a decision that moves you forward and then prove to yourself that you can and will
persevere so many people dwell on their failures for years those failures eat away at their health
and their happiness and their frustration drives them toward negative unhealthy habits
so when something goes wrong you have a choice to make you can beat yourself up you can over
analyze your failures or you can pick yourself up forgive yourself and try again hey thank you
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