The highly considerate and hardworking introverted type, the ISFJ is known for their reliable
caregiving and perfectionistic ways.
While the ISFJ is known to be one of the more gentle introverted types, it's not to say
that they don’t get annoyed like everybody else..
So, which pet peeves are amplified for this introverted, sensing, feeling and judging
type?
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Today we’ll be talking about 10 things that the ISFJ personality type absolutely hates.
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Number 1: Rudeness and inconsideration If you’ve ever met an ISFJ for yourself,
you’d probably know them to be a polite and dedicated individual who uses their words
and actions properly.
They understand the fact that words and actions can have a tremendous effect on other people
by causing a rippling effect through social vessels.
So, when an ISFJ overhears a less-than-kind remark or witnesses a rude gesture, they can't
help but to imagine how many people that one negative action is going to affect.
For example, if an ISFJ were to overhear their coworker get reamed by their boss in a negative
manner, the ISFJ can automatically see that coworker taking those remarks home with them
and wreaking havoc on their family as a whole.
Maybe it starts a fight between them and their partner, or maybe it even trickles down and
is taken out on their children.
ISFJs can see how so many life challenges could be solved by just being a little more
considerate of one another.
Number 2: Conflict in their close relationships ISFJs - much like their introverted feeling
and judging counterpart, the INFJ - hates when there is any type of conflict surrounding
their closest relationships.
Although it's fair to say that ISFJs don’t really like conflict of any sort, for this
introverted type, it's a little different when it comes to their close-knit group of
people they respect the most.
Unlike some personality types like the INTJ and the ISTJ who focus on the topic of the
disagreement rather than the people involved, the ISFJ can’t help but to take everything
personally.
With their secondary function being extraverted feeling, the ISFJ not only feels fully empathy
towards others in time of conflict, but they can at times actually feel the stress of a
conflict physically with headaches, stomach upsets and trouble sleeping.
Number 3: Disappointing others Like many other highly sensitive introverts,
the ISFJ can find themselves in a people-pleasing loop of struggling to set boundaries and avoidance
in saying no.
They have a deep calling to help others, even when they have to put their mental, emotional,
and physical health at risk.
This innate desire to be of service to others results in ISFJs holding an incredibly high
expectation of themselves, because a lot of people need help in this world.
So, when the time comes that they happen to let someone down or somehow hurt someone's
feelings they really feel the pain - often more than the person they let down.
This is especially difficult when people take advantage of an ISFJ’s generosity, because
they would rather keep helping than to protect their energy by setting proper boundaries
and saying no.
Number 4: Unclear expectations ISFJs need a clear picture of what is expected
of them no matter what the favour or project.
Not only do ISFJs enjoy the act of having structure and order around them, but relating
back to our previous point, they don’t want to be the one to let anyone down.
Therefore, the more clear and concise details of what is expected of them, the better.
For example, if an ISFJ was assigned a certain project at work, they’ll require clearcut
expectations of when it's due, the specific requirements of how to complete it, and how
it will be evaluated when complete.
On the contrary, if there is lack of detail, a plethora of unknowns, or an open-ended outcome
surrounding a task, an ISFJ can easily become stressed and overwhelmed.
Number 5: Sudden changes to their routine
Not only do ISFJs require clear expectations, but they also want to know when and where
they’re fitting their tasks into their schedule.
Like we said, ISFJs love structure and order in every aspect of life, meaning they take
comfort in routine.
Most ISFJs like to not only know when they’re going to do something, but they also tend
to have a specific order in which they like to do things.
Whether it be simple mundane tasks like laundry, dishes, answering emails to the more complex
tasks like the order of their morning routine.
ISFJs actually rely on this structured way of living to feel organized and efficient..
So, if their routine is changed, even in the slightest, an ISFJ will probably hate it.
Number 6: When others minimize the importance of tradition
With a primary function of introverted sensing, it’s no surprise that the ISFJ is rooted
in tradition and routine.
They are the ultimate gift-givers and function planners because they take family traditions
like birthdays, christmas, and other holidays to heart.
They love the thought of making great-granny’s signature gravy recipe every year, or taking
out the board games on New Years Eve like they’ve done with their family for years.
So, when a family member lacks interest in these types of family traditions or finds
something seemingly more important to do, an ISFJ will not only be disappointed at the
matter, but they will also have a personal fear that the tradition may be coming to a
halt, something that an ISFJ would certainly not be okay with.
Number 7: Having to be in the spotlight
Although the helping-hand nature of an ISFJ may have them mistaken for extroverts in some
circumstances, there's no doubt that the ISFJ is a true introvert at heart.
Unlike most extraverted personalities who seem to amplify their energy when surrounded
by other people, an introverted ISFJ must work quietly behind the scenes rather than
take center stage.
They want to know that everyone is taken care of and having a good time, but they don’t
necessarily want to be part of the action for hours on end.
In fact, the ISFJ can begin to feel quite uncomfortable and self-conscious if they were
the center of attention.
So in other words, if there was a party, you’d probably find an ISFJ helping in the kitchen
rather than proposing a toast to the crowd..
And if they are proposing a toast, you can imagine that they’re either tipsy or hating
every second of it.
Number 8: Lack of effort
One of the ISFJs greatest strengths is that they put their all into absolutely everything
they do.
While some people rush through their work with little regard to how it will impact the
final outcome, the ISFJ takes their work seriously..
most often to the point of perfectionism.
They see their completed tasks as an extension of their character, and they can't help but
to see the work of others as the same.
They put their full effort into everything not only because they see it as an extension
of themselves but also because they don’t want their lack of effort to fall back on
someone else to have to do.
For example, the ISFJ would never clean the kitchen half-arsed because they know that
someone else will have to clean up what they didn’t.
Therefore, they can’t stand when others don’t use this same logic or when circumstances
make it so that they are challenged to give less than their best.
Number 9: When someone dismisses their feelings
While most ISFJs seem calm and collected on the exterior, this personality type actually
holds some deeply sensitive emotions inside.
Being the introverted type who is more willing to help others than to burden people with
their own feelings, the ISFJ tends to bottle a lot of their emotions up in order to maintain
their gentle image.
Even when it comes to excitement, this personality isn’t the type to call everyone on their
contacts list to share the news.
They first need time to process the emotion themselves, but sooner or later, they may
share their related feelings to a trusted source.. and when they do, it’s considered
a big deal to them.
And, just as an ISFJ would react, they expect the reaction of others to be that of understanding
and kindness.
Yet, not everyone is as equipped for kindness as an ISFJ, so when their feelings are dismissed
or considered invalid, you can imagine how hurtful it can feel to this type.
Number 10: Invasion of their personal bubble Warning: Do not feed, pet, or hug the ISFJ
- thank you for your cooperation.
While the ISFJ is friendly and kind to all walks of life, the one thing they ask (or
should ask) of people is to not invade their personal space.
While they may love snuggling with their partner and children, most ISFJs can feel extremely
uncomfortable when it comes to strangers or acquaintances crossing their personal bubbles.
Anything from someone standing to close in a shopping line, to an old acquaintance going
in for a hug or shoulder pat..
ISFJs probably won't vocally stand their grounds, but you can be sure that internally they are
wanting to run in the opposite direction.
Well, that wraps up today’s video PSYCH-Os, So, are you an ISFJ personality type?
If so, do you despise these 10 things?
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