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Have you ever wondered which little habits or behaviors
you could implement to attract people your way?
There are some subtle behaviors that are often seen as sexy,
some of which you can make a habit of.
You may be wondering what these are.
Well, here are six sexy habits
that drive others wild with attraction.
Number one, always learning.
Being smart has its payoffs,
and it can be quite as sexy trait.
That's why it might be a good idea to make it a habit
to learn something new each and every day.
The more knowledge you possess,
the more intelligent you may seem to others
as they can learn a lot from you.
A 2019 study wanted to determine whether
smart is seen as sexy.
Researchers asked around 600 adults
to rate a list of hypothetical people
based on how desirable they were.
They found that for everyone in this study
for all kinds of relationships,
there was a significant desire to have a partner
who was either as smart as them or smarter.
The researchers state that the sexiest found
less intelligent partners less desirable.
A more intelligent partner was no more desirable
than a partner who was equal in intelligence.
But intelligence was particularly valued
as a long-term mate.
Time to get studying.
Number two, relax and use calmer body language gestures.
Are you a relaxed speaker?
Do you use your hands dramatically when you talk
to make a point?
In 2011 experiment by researchers,
Bob Dennis and Marielle Stel,
they discovered that using non-threatening cues
allows for someone's date to feel more comfortable
when they're with them.
Makes sense, right?
They found that using calmer,
smaller body language gestures, and speaking slowly,
all added and making your newly acquainted date
feel more comfortable,
leaning back was also found to be beneficial.
Sometimes we can forget that your date
might be a bit uncomfortable
sitting across from someone they just met.
So calmer gestures while still showing your personality
is a great way to go.
Number three, be mindful during discussions.
If you're nervous during a date or around your crush,
your thoughts can often wander
making mindful discussion sometimes difficult
during the first few minutes of an exciting date.
But it's best to practice mindfulness
and remind yourself to be present at the moment.
In an experiment published in 2015,
researchers found that men who are
actively involved in a conversation
as compared to being distant,
were seen to be more attractive among heterosexual women.
The authors write that more research is needed.
But who doesn't find a partner that actively listens
more attractive?
Number four, they don't check their phone 24/7.
How often do you check your phones?
Have you ever frequently checked your phone
while out on a date?
According to research by global tech care company, Asurion
Americans check their phones 96 times a day,
which comes out to be once every 10 minutes.
So when someone appears
so interested in what you have to say,
that they don't check their phone the whole conversation
that's quite often seen as sexy,
if not simply attractive.
People want someone who is emotionally present.
If someone's attention is off somewhere else
while you're discussing an emotional topic
that can easily be seen as a turnoff.
So make it a habit to keep the phone in your bag,
and ringer off to vibrate.
Number five, don't try to be perfect.
Do you try to be perfect on a first date?
Well, a bit of imperfection and your capable personality
may just make someone wild for you.
In fact, people may find others who aren't superbly perfect,
and who even possess the rarity of these so-called flaws
as more attractive.
In a research study,
researcher Elliot Aronson had people write fake test takers
based on their attractiveness.
Test takers would either do great on a test,
mediocre or poor.
As an imperfection some test-takers would act clumsy
and spill coffee at the end of the interview.
After their scores were revealed,
people rated the test takers
who spilled coffee at the end of their interview
the highest on the attractiveness scale.
What this means is that people wanna see
that you're an intelligent and capable person,
but also that you aren't perfect.
The study states a superior human
may be viewed as superhuman and therefore distant.
A blunder tends to humanize him
and consequently increases his attractiveness.
Others may be intimidated if you come across as perfect
and make dumb mistakes,
they wanna see your human side.
When you show you're capable
and yet still relatable as a human being who makes mistakes,
people tend to like you more
and may find you a bit sexier too.
And number six, say their name often.
How often do you hear your name spoken mid-conversation?
When we hear our name,
it grabs our attention and catches our interest.
We enjoy our names so much
that we can even pinpoint out our own names being spoken
by someone in a loud crowd or party.
This form of selective attention
is related to the cocktail party effect.
While in a crowded or loud room,
we can hone in on a specific conversation of our choosing.
More importantly, if our name is spoken nearby,
even when we're focused on another conversation,
we immediately perk up and recognize
that someone is talking about us.
Not only will they have your attention,
but you'll likely feel better
knowing they actually bothered
to remember your name in the first place.
It seems it can be pretty attractive
to hear someone you like say your name,
it sure grabs your attention.
So make it a habit to remember people's names
and call them by it too.
So will you attempt to do these things more?
Which will you try first?
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