So you want your ex back but it’s been months or even years, since you were together. Is
there still hope? Well in this video I’ll explain how to make this happen.
Hi there… I’m Brad Browning, author of The Ex Factor Guide. As a breakup coach I’ve
helped thousands of people like you get the second chance they want with their ex. Today’s
video will focus on how to win your ex back a long separation.
First off, I know you may be worrying that you’ve missed your chance, but oftentimes
you actually have a better chance at winning your ex back BECAUSE so much time has passed.
Remember that the old saying, “time heals all wounds”? Well, often the months or years
that you were apart from your ex can help erase some of the negative memories your ex
may retain of you and your relationship. This time apart is especially helpful if your relationship
ended on poor terms, with a breakup that involved a whole lot of fighting and tears.
While time may not heal all of the negative memories and hostile feelings that your ex
may still harbor – especially if your relationship ended due to cheating, lying or other mistreatment
on your part– it usually does a great job of helping your ex forget about the other
negative aspects of the time you shared together.
Another benefit of the time apart is the fact that your ex has probably dated other people
during that time, and since those relationships obviously didn’t go anywhere, you probably
look pretty good compared to their rebound. And on top of that, this time apart has also
allowed both of you time to miss one another.
So, that’s the good news. The bad news, unfortunately, is that time can also be your
enemy… Depending on how long it’s been since the breakup, it’s always possible
that your ex has found someone new and simply isn’t going to respond to your attempts
to reconnect. So, while I definitely think there’s often a very good chance at getting
your ex back even if its been a year or longer since the breakup, you need to be prepared
for the possibility that things simply won’t ever work out, no matter how hard you try.
If you want to find out what your chances are and how likely it is your ex will take
you back, I recommend you use the free quiz on my website… it’s free and only takes
about 5 minutes to complete…. just answer a few questions and then click submit to see
your results and get a better idea of where you stand with your ex and what your odds
are. I’ll have the link to this free quiz in the description below this video, but the
URL is www.BreakupBrad.com/Quiz
Anyway, let’s move on and talk about re-establishing contact with your ex.
So depending upon how you broke up, and who initiated the end of the relationship, re-establishing
contact with your ex may be a bit challenging.
If it was you who got dumped, contacting your ex should actually be easier than if it were
the other way around. Presumably, with many months having passed since the breakup, it’s
unlikely that your ex will question your motives. You should be able to make a friendly phone
call to your ex without arousing any suspicion. If you’re going to call or message your
ex out of the blue, it’s best to have a legitimate reason for the message (ie. ask
a question, suggest a movie, etc) so they don’t wonder why you’re suddenly wanting
to talk again.
While texting is a great way to begin reconnecting, eventually you’ll need to push for a face
to face meeting after a few weeks. This will allow both of you to feel those sparks again
the way you did when you first met. You also want to show your ex the “new you” so
that they can see how much you’ve changed since the breakup.
When you finally do arrive at the meeting with your ex, there’s a few simple things
that you should keep in mind...
1. Don’t act emotional or nervous. Be casual and try to act as calm and cool as possible.
You should have been apart long enough that this won’t be an issue, but if you’re
prone to tears and emotional outbreaks, do your best to keep these in check while you’re
with your ex.
2. Keep the conversation light, upbeat, and casual! One of your primary objectives here
is to remind your ex why they fell in love with you long ago, and that means you need
to show them the lighter, more fun side of your personality. Just try to have fun and
keep your conversations light-hearted rather than delving into your past relationship and
breakup.
3. Flirt with your ex! Flirting is good, especially if things are going well and you’re both
having a good time. Laugh, gently touch your ex’s arm, tease them, and always make eye
contact.
4. Bring up some happy shared memories and inside jokes. This will help remind your ex
of some of the fun you had together. If things are going well, don’t hesitate to drop some
sexual innuendos or even reference some of the fun you had in bed. Sexual intimacy is
important and if your ex seems receptive, then this is a good chance to remind them
how great your sex life was.
5. Leave the past in the past. You don’t want to bring up old drama or remind your
ex of the problems that led to the initial breakup. So, try to steer clear of these topics
and instead focus on showing your ex a good time.
6. Give your ex the impression that your life is awesome. Don’t be afraid to talk casually
about someone you’ve dated since the breakup… don’t linger on the topic or go into detail,
but don’t be afraid to share details about your awesome love life or your busy social
schedule. Show your ex that you’ve changed for the better… but do so by using actions,
not words… demonstrate the ‘new you’, and infer that you’ve realized your past
mistakes and are more mature now.
7. Eventually, move things into the bedroom. Now, I wouldn’t necessarily make this the
goal of your first in person meeting, but ultimately, sex and physical contact is what
differentiates friendship from a romantic relationship, so it’s important that you
move towards this eventual goal. It’s tempting to just enjoy your time together and then
allow yourself to fall into the ‘friend zone’, especially if your ex isn’t looking
to get back together with you (yet).
So, while you may not be able to get your ex into bed after just one meeting, that should
still be your ultimate goal. Continue to ramp up your flirting, drop more innuendos, and
reference past sexual encounters with your ex until he or she gets the message and accepts
your advances.
It’s going to take more than a few dates but, eventually, you’ll fall back in love
with your ex and be ready to talk about rekindling your relationship. And once you do finally
win back your ex’s heart, make sure you get things right this time. Address the problems
that ended the relationship the first time. Make amends and hopefully you’ll never have
to go through another breakup!
Unfortunately I’ve run out of time here for this video, but I know there are lots
of “what if '' questions that I haven’t covered. Luckily you can find a more detailed
video for free on my website, BreakupBrad.com. Again the address is BreakupBrad.com.
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Thanks again for watching, and best of luck!