Hey, welcome to Personality Hacker. I'm Joel Mark Witt.
I'm Antonia Dodge and today we're going to talk about the Myers Brigs personality type
INFJ's. We're going to do a little bit of a riff on it. We're not going to go super
deep dive, but we just kind of want to talk about a bit of an overview of this type and
some of the things that they deal with. So, in the Myers Brigs System, this is INFJ
and the genius system that we use, it is perspectives harmony.
Now, we did a podcast on INFJ's that went pretty granular and talked about a lot of
the pain that they experienced because of their unique ability to absorb other people's
emotions. Now, what's really interesting is that the only other type that even comes close
to this is the ENFJ, but even they don't hold a candle to the amount of what we call psychic
garbage that INFJ's pick up and it's pretty amazing how they do this. In fact, some of
them have gone into professions like being a medium, or reading other people's auras
because they pick up so much from other people. Even INFJ's that maybe don't feel comfortable
with that component, they know that when somebody else is around, and is experiencing something
that is a very strong emotion, the INFJ will sort of absorb it as their own. They might
be feeling one way one second and say, in a restaurant, somebody walks in feeling grumpy
and all of a sudden they might feel grumpy and they might not even know the person or
even had acknowledged that a person who's grumpy walks in and they're like, "Why am
I feeling grumpy all of a sudden?" They'll look around the restaurant and sure enough,
there's that dude. He walked in. He's really grumpy and then all of a sudden, I'm feeling
it. Yeah.
So, this is a really unusual ability that they have and it's not shared by any other
of the 15 Myers Brigs types. Yeah, and this sensitivity, you know, can
lead to ESP and understanding things like that, but also, the healing arts or the helpful
arts. You know, counselors, people who coach, people who are able to be therapists and understand
the human condition, understand how people really emote, how they're hearts work. I think
these people really get this at the core level. Yeah. They lead with an intuitive process.
Now, when you look at the breakdown, and say, the car model of the INFJ personality type,
or what is technically called their cognitive functions, when you look at that, they actually
lead with their intuitive process, which is why they pick up so much unconscious pattern
recognition. This is a big part of why they pick up other people's emotions as well. But,
they lead with an intuitive process, so their decision making process, which is a feeling
process, is actually supplemental and the car model that would make their intuitive
process the driver and their decision making process a feeling their copilot. Now, behind
the copilot sits the 10 year old of their sort of mirrored thinking process and what
that basically means to put it in Layman's terms, is that their feeling and their thinking
process is a little more balanced than maybe somebody that is leading with a feeling process,
like an ENFJ leads with their feeling. So, for INFJ, sometime they can type out as thinkers,
which is really interesting. SO, if you have...if you are an INFJ and you're like, "Oh, I'm
really close on the thinking feeling," you're right, you are...
Yeah. ...because you're feeling process is called
the copilot or the supplemental and your thinking process is what's called technically your
tertiary or in our system, your 10 year old process and both of those are very conscious
for you. So, INFJ will sometime kind of feel and weirdly enough, kind of cold and like
a thinker and they see that and are really in touch with that component of their personality
type. Yeah. You'll see INFJ's as accountants or
people that are very down driven sometimes. They have a tendency...
In tech. Yeah, technology, like coding or something
like that. I have a friend who is an INFJ who loves coding.
Yeah. He's really into coding. So, this can show
up and it looks sometimes, like you said, like a thinker in a lot of ways.
...and they're really connected to that part of them, but really when it comes down to
personal development for them, the further they get away from that sort of cold distance
analytical component and more get into their feeling component of harmony, even though
it's painful, it's actually the key to their personal development. We use the phrase, the
way out is through and the more you master that feeling component if you're an INFJ,
which we call harmony, the more you master that piece, actually the better it gets for
you. So, one of the really great things that we recommend people do, is that they go to
the personality hacker website and they take their genius style assessment. If you've done
that, there's premium content on the INFJ or the perspectives harmony personality type
that gives you all of this and really zooms in granular level and we were highly recommended
if you're an INJF, especially if you want to get to the next level of who you are and
figure out how to deal with maybe some of the pain points that come along with picking
up other people's emotions. Yeah, it's a leverage point for you. It's
going to feel scary to go to that place and grow, but if you go there and you begin to
grow and your personality, it's going to feel really good because you're going to begin
to understand how to create boundaries for yourself, how to grow and not let other people's
psychic garbage come in as much. Yeah.
We really believe that this could be really helpful for you if you're an INFJ.
Yeah. So, please start with the assessment.
What would you say is one of the things that most people wouldn't know about an INFJ, a
secret that you think people would be...you know, INFJ's kind of know this, but other
people would be like, oh, that's interesting. I never thought of that as an INFJ. Or maybe
they don't know about themselves. Well, I would say that what we've been talking
about, that's something to keep under wraps. The fact that they know a lot of stuff about
other people. Yeah.
...including what the other person's emotional experience. I think INFJ's usually keep that
to themselves, which is part of the pain points. So, you're kind of sitting there, what are
they really thinking? Yeah.
...like they know something and they're not letting you know that they know something
about you is basically what you're saying. They know stuff and it's like, just say it.
Well, I would say that most people don't even know that they...that the INFJ knows this
about them. They don't recognize that the INFJ has access to a lot of information that
even the INFJ themselves don't know how they know. So, it ends up creating a lot of one
sided relationships and I think that's probably one of the biggest secrets that INFJ's have.
Something they don't really reveal is how many of the relationships are actually one
sided and how much...That's kind of dissatisfying, how much dissatisfaction they have in a lot
of their relationships. So, feeling profoundly understood, oh my goodness, there's no faster
way to get to an INFJ's heart than to sit down, listen, walk through their experience
with them, as opposed to just dumping all your stuff on them, which is what they're
used to. Yeah, and if you listen to our full podcast
on the INFJ, both Antonia and I had moms that were INFJ's so we kind of have a special place
in our heart... Yeah.
...for the INFJ personality because our moms were INFJ's...
Yeah. ...and we saw some of the struggles and some
of the challenges and some of the celebration of the joy they experienced in life because
of their personality type. We think it's a beautiful personality type and if this is
your type, let us know how things are going for you. Give us some feedback and kind of
communicate. Let us know about your experience. Yeah.
We're very interested in it. Yeah, so thanks for joining us on this overview
of the INFJ personality type of the perspectives harmony type in the genius system.