- In this video,
I will share with you three key ways
on how you can get a player to respect you.
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So just before I will share with you free long answers,
why don't I give you a short one first.
And it is don't date one.
But I understand it's not as simple as it sounds,
therefore, let's start with number one.
If you want somebody to respect you no matter
the a person is a player, a nice guy, your sibling,
your parents, your close friends or whoever else.
First you must respect yourself.
Nobody will respect you if you will not respect yourself.
As when we don't respect ourselves.
We are telling people that we are not worthy of respect.
Where does self respect come from?
Self respect comes from, what we see right,
and what we see wrong in life.
Self respect comes from having values in life.
So for example,
if somebody's influencing you to do the wrong thing
and you know that it's the wrong thing to do
because it goes against your values.
You do not do the wrong thing.
Now it might sound quite simple, right?
Okay, Greta, I just need to do the right thing.
And that's it. That's self respect done.
But it's not as easy as it sounds,
because if you let's say are attracted to a guy
and you seem to really like him
and you don't want to do things wrong
in order for him not to like you anymore,
in order to please him.
You might start doing things that go against your values.
However, the funny thing is when we don't do the right thing
in order to please someone.
That person instead of liking us more
and appreciating us more,
they actually start to lose respect for us,
because we are not showing self respect for ourselves.
So the quick answer would be do not try
to please a player by breaking your own rules.
And by doing things that you don't agree with
in order to please him.
Not only but the guy will feel power over you
but he will also start to take you for granted
and lose respect for you.
Number two, if you want a player to respect you,
you must value yourself.
Do you feel self-worth
and how do you show self worth?
In order to value ourselves,
We must feel that we are valuable.
We feel valuable when we do the right thing
and we look for approval in God, rather than people.
You look for approval in people,
if, the people are righteous people is fine
because most people likely teach you to do the right thing,
will give you reassurance,
will give you confirmation,
will make you feel secure and confident within yourself.
However, when you will look for approval
in the wrong peoples.
Those people can potentially
make you feel insecure, invaluable, unworthy,
how you are not good enough et cetera, et cetera.
Therefore, you will feel very confident
and you will feel like you have a lot of value.
Then you will follow the word of God
and will choose to do the right thing.
Because when you believe in God
and you do the right thing, nobody can balance you out.
Nobody can make you feel insecure.
Nobody can make you feel doubtful of your decision,
because you know for a fact
that you have done the right thing
because God's word approved of it.
This is how truly in your heart, you will feel a valuable
and worthy no matter whatever people say about you,
and no matter the circumstances around you.
and going back to how to get a player
to respect you in this situation.
Well, everybody knows about secure
and confident people are very, very attractive.
And the third key way
on how to get a player to respect you is boundaries.
However, ladies don't run after this
because I will have a awesome bonus step as well.
So how do you set in boundaries?
Boundaries can be set in many different ways,
but you have to be very careful
when you setting in boundaries
in order not to be either too soft or too hard.
And other times in some situations
what works is turning the other cheek as well.
What do boundaries do?
Boundaries basically tell to the other person your limit.
And if somebody crosses your boundary
there has to be some kind of consequence for it.
Because when you try to set in boundaries, just by words
a lot of people unfortunately ignore that
and we keep pushing your breaking point.
Therefore, consequences have a much bigger impact
on the other person starting to respect you.
And just saying things with words,
not giving any consequences
for where disrespect to words you.
I have an awesome video, which I will link here
on how to sit in boundaries with people.
And I would really recommend you to watch that video
as I completely break it down for you, ladies
on how to sit in boundaries with guys
and it perfectly works with players too.
However, in this video.
I wanted to talk about the additional point
and that would be turning the other cheek.
Where does turning the other cheek works?
I personally find it that turning the other cheek works
with people that have a life experience.
With people that vent through a lot.
I personally would not recommend turning the other cheek
to a bully at school, because the boy
or the girl will likely just take advantage of you
and will not get it.
In those type of circumstances you have to learn
how to stand up for yourself.
They heard it in one of the videos,
somebody made a really good quote.
In order to be a lamb,
you must learn on how to be a lion first.
'Cause only when you learn how to stand up for yourself
to protect yourself and how to set in boundaries,
is when you will start to get this feeling of security
and confident.
This is how you're gonna be much more relaxed
in any kind of situations,
whether it's with the guy, whether it's with your family
or friends or new people, et cetera.
Example, if you look at professional fighters, right?
We walk on the streets in a very relaxed manner.
You look at them
and we look very chilled, very confident, really easygoing,
very secure with themselves.
Why is that?
Well it's because if this type of guy
will have any threat coming at him
from right or left.
He will be able very easily to stand up for himself.
Therefore, as a high value woman when you will learn
on how to sit in boundaries with a guy,
the meantime, when you are with him
just spending time together or dating, et cetera.
You gonna go on the dates really chilled, really laid back,
very confident.
You gonna go over just having fun,
just being this kind of soft, gentle feminine lamb,
because you'll have nothing to worry about.
As if the attack comes, you got your boundary.
Here comes the bonus step.
Not every player will respect you
no matter how high value you are.
Why is that?
Because some people have different beliefs
and different opinions.
And if his opinions on self respect different from yours
and he truly believes them.
He start to see your self respect as being silly.
Example If you are a guardedly woman
and you truly following the word of God,
and if you believe in sleeping with a guy
only after marriage.
And let's say this other type of guy's beliefs
are that sleeping with somebody only after marriage
is silly, may not feel respect for you,
because his beliefs towards respect
and towards what's right and wrong in life
are very different from yours.
So ladies, those are my three ways
on how to get a player to respect you.
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