- Oh my gosh, this is just, I can't imagine...
agh I hate this
but I still am a little confused
why she never took a pregnancy test.
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Mama Doctor Jones
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I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant
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- [Narrator] 23 year old, Brianna enjoyed a summer fling
before heading off to art school to pursue her dreams.
- It wasn't a very serious relationship
'cause it was off and on so much.
And it was just one of those that were both looking to
fizzle out and then come fall,
I started having some back pain
but it never made anything of it
because I am sitting at an easel or hunched over.
I had a period in July and in August
but I don't believe in September I did.
Mid around October
I started having a lot of heartburn.
There's fluttering the stomach.
I figured it was just the gas.
- Okay so we're starting this one out full speed
It sounds like she had a fling in the summer.
She probably got pregnant sometime in July,
by September she was having heartburn and later on,
then she was having nausea and flutters in her stomach.
So if I were her, I would be taking a pregnancy test
at this point.
So I'll be interested to see how the rest of the story goes.
- November we started putting plans together
for Thanksgiving, see friends I haven't seen.
So we made arrangements for all of us to meet in Vegas.
We were walking around swimsuits
and nobody even said anything about my weight.
- It's not like she got a huge belly, anything like that.
(upbeat music)
- She phrased that really interestingly,
"Nobody even said anything about my weight."
I mean, of course it's nice that her friends accept her
how she is and nobody should be commenting on her weight.
But that kind of, to me sounds a little bit
like she knew something was going on.
I don't know.
I don't usually get that vibe from these.
I usually spend a lot of time in these going,
see this is exactly how this happens.
But she's missing her periods, she's symptomatic
and now she's saying nobody said anything about my weight
not I didn't gain weight or I wasn't showing.
I still would like to know
if she's taken a pregnancy test at this point.
- January 13th, I woke up and had stomach pains.
It just felt like I had cramps.
And as I expecting period to come.
[Narrator] Briana doesn't mention feeling sick
to her parents as they leave for work.
- The cramps didn't stand out
because I'm prone to severe cramps.
- It's not uncommon for people who have painful periods
to have kind of cramps that they don't associate with labor
at the very beginning, because they're used to having
these painful period type pains.
But I do wanna point out that she's quite a bit earlier.
If she got pregnant in the summer, she's maybe only 25
26 weeks at this point, best guess.
And I think that if she's having cramps right now
that's a little concerning.
It sounds like they're leading into a labor story right now.
So I am a little bit concerned
that right now we're pointing out a premature labor story.
- As the day progressed, it did get more painful.
It just felt like I had to go to the bathroom
that I was just blocked up.
I had to get up and try and go to the bathroom.
And then moving is when it hurt.
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Around 3:34 the pain was bothering me so much.
- I think she meant 3:30 to four o'clock in the morning.
But I first processed that as 3:34 AM.
And I was thinking, wow, that must've been really
severe pain if you looked over the clock
and distinctly remember that,
but I don't think she meant 3:34.
[Brianna] By the time Brianna's parents and sister Megan
come home from work
she's been in pain for almost nine hours.
- I kept trying to go to the bathroom
and nothing was working.
It just feels like an urge.
Feels like you have to go to the bathroom.
- That is the natural urge to push
that she is experiencing.
- And there's an urge to push.
I do feel like it's a constipation.
So you try and lean forward more thinking if you move
something's gonna help your stomach.
So I was getting out of breath and I gave one solid push.
(groaning)
Once I felt something actually come out.
It's like human curiosity
and you're like, everybody has to look
- [Narrator] But nothing can prepare Brianna
for what she sees in the toilet
looking back at her.
- Why did they phrase it like that?
What she sees in the toilet looking back at her, my God
she just birthed a child.
(chuckles)
What, I hate that person.
- [Narrator] True or false, sperm can fertilize an egg
three days after intercourse.
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- [Narrator] Sperm can fertilize an egg
three days after intercourse.
The answer true.
A single sperm can fertilize an egg
up to 72 hours after intercourse.
- So actually it is maybe even a little
bit longer than that.
We know that sperm once they exit their home
and enter the uterus and fallopian tubes
can stay there for maybe even up to five days.
Sperm are like cockroaches they don't die.
And this is why you have such a long fertile window.
The fertile window for an ovum
after ovulation is only about 24 hours max.
- I was in complete shock.
- Oh my God.
- [Narrator] Knowing Briana needs help her mother screams
from Megan to call 911.
- We had actually no thought process.
Every possible question I think I was going through
and just trying to figure out
how this just happened.
- Can you imagine?
Okay first off, her mom came in thinking she was dying
and then she just thought, oh my gosh,
I'm severely constipated
and now I'm feeling relieved and then turn around
and there is a baby in the toilet.
And then on top of that, now your sister and your dad
are just swarming you as well.
Like, oh my gosh, this is just, I can't imagine
that would be, I hate this, but I still
am a little confused
why she never took a pregnancy test.
I know I don't usually say that because
most of these people do.
And most of them, if they don't have a good reason not to
but I'm just really confused why she got
all of these symptoms and never took a pregnancy.
- My mom was screaming to my sister to get towels
and was trying to tie off the core.
- If you find a baby in the toilet,
the baby needs to be removed immediately,
dried and stimulated
then someone needs to call 911.
- Excellent advice.
(laughing)
- I think all of you probably could deduce that on your own
but I just imagine this doctor being like,
yeah, sure I'll come be interviewed for your show TLC.
And they're like, okay, first question.
What would you tell someone
if they found a baby in a toilet, no context.
We're not gonna give you the rest of the story.
Just what should they do?
(laughing)
The doctor's like, um, well, hmm, let me get this together.
Okay if you find a baby in a toilet
it should be removed, and dried off and wrapped in a blanket
and somebody should be told to call 911.
How has that, was that a good answer?
'Cause I'm really not following, like, do people find babies
in toilets a lot or.
(laughing)
What a stupid thing to say.
Anyway she was just answering the questions she was asked
but I know all of you know to do that.
So I wanna add in, if you have a baby
in an unexpected situation or somebody around you does
it is not an emergency to clamp and cut the cord.
You can leave baby attached, get it wrapped in a blanket
warm skin to skin close to mom and call
someone who can help.
You don't have to find something to clamp and cut the cord.
There's nothing wrong with the baby staying attached longer.
And in fact, this is probably better
than trying to cut the cord with things that really
shouldn't be used to clamp and cut cords in the first place.
So don't feel like you have to do that.
Just get baby skin to skin warm, close to mom, stimulated
try to get them crying and definitely call for help.
- I got rushed to the hospital.
So much turmoil and nervousness of what just happened.
And is he healthy?
- [Narrator] Brianna's newborn is quickly admitted
to the neonatal intensive care unit.
- There was hope.
- I wanna know how many weeks she was.
How big was this baby?
Because by my calculation, she shouldn't be
she's definitely under 30 weeks.
I mean, just judging by the timeline they gave us.
- I did feel a guilt because I had no idea.
So he had none of the vitamins or the prenatal care.
- It's important that women get good prenatal care
so that problems in the mom or the baby can be diagnosed
and treated appropriate.
- It is important to get prenatal care.
We think that this helps improve outcomes and pregnancies.
That being said, everybody knows that.
Everybody knows prenatal care is important.
And I think more important discussion in these shows
in this topic is we do the best we can with the information
that we have.
If you didn't know you were pregnant,
then you can't get prenatal care.
So you can't carry that guilt.
You just have to let it go.
If your period is missing,
or if you're having weird symptoms or even if your period
is just doing something different than it usually does
just take a pregnancy test, take a pregnancy test.
They're cheap at the dollar store.
The same ones that you get at the dollar store
are just as good as the ones that you would pee on
in my office.
So take a pregnancy test and just check.
- [Narrator] Adding to Brianna's escalating fear
doctors estimate the newborn is a full
two and a half months premature.
- Well he was tiny he only weighed two and a half pounds
He was 15 inches.
He did have jaundice and his lungs weren't developed.
- Yeah, so he's probably around 29 - 30 weeks
based on what they just said
and his weight being two and a half pounds.
Babies who are born at 28 to 30 weeks generally do well
but they often have hard times with
getting their temperature regulated.
So that's why they have to stay kind of
in those incubator things and their most common problem
that they have is trouble with breathing.
Most of the time
they're going to need help with breathing,
like having either supplemental oxygen or what we call C-PAP
which is controlled positive airway pressure
which is kind of more forceful oxygenation
or even being intubated for a period of time.
It just depends on how well-developed they are
at that gestational age
and how well they're doing on the outside.
They often will have trouble with some hearing
and some vision problems, and it can also
lead to long-term problems with those things as well.
So those are things that you wanna watch for
in a premature baby when they get discharged.
- I think because over the summer I was drinking more.
We were going out often.
- It's important that women do not drink alcohol
during pregnancy because it can lead to fetal
alcohol syndrome, which is one of the leading causes
of mental retardation in children.
- This doctor sounds so judgmental in this video.
But again I think they're being given these questions
to answer on camera and they don't know the story.
I hope that no one would actually be taking care
of this patient clinically.
And she's saying, I'm just worried about my baby
because I was drinking and all of this stuff
and they say, "Well, it's important
not to drink at pregnancy."
Like we all know that also.
I think this is edited and cut in that way.
But again, we do the best we can
with the information that we have.
And if you didn't know you were pregnant
then you I mean, you, I don't know.
I just hate like adding to that guilt.
What can you do about it now?
It's done and we just have to hope that everything is okay.
- [Narrator] Brianna names her baby James
and wrestles with an emotional decision.
- It was really stressful.
I was considering adoption at that point in time
because I was 23; unemployed.
I had no maternal instinct.
- To have a kid at that age
in your early twenties that's tough.
- I was hoping that if he went on to adaption
that he would go into a family that was ready
because I was financially, emotionally, mentally,
not in that position to try and raise a child.
- I am really, really glad they left that part
of this video in.
It is extremely rare that in these videos
they have the person who gave birth,
candidly discussing the thought process
that they went through about
whether or not they should put the baby up for adoption.
And I don't know if she's going to choose adoption or not
but I think it's extremely important to bring notice
to the fact that this is something that people think about.
People think about it during pregnancy.
People think about it at birth,
especially if they had an unknown pregnancy and it's okay.
Whether or not she ends up putting this baby up for adoption
or not I think it's extremely important that she's validated
in her ability to discuss the fact
that she thought about it,
because it doesn't make you a bad person.
You're trying to decide the best thing for the baby
you just gave birth to.
And that takes time.
So often these videos go straight into,
I didn't know I was pregnant.
I didn't want babies, but oh my gosh
I love the baby immediately.
And everybody doesn't feel like that.
And that's okay.
- More time I spent at the hospital and held him
that realization of
I don't wanna walk away from this was sinking in.
(upbeat music)
- That just shows me
like her character right there.
- I had a child that I didn't know
I was carrying. Time to become a mother.
(upbeat music)
- I disagree.
I think that is a great decision for her.
And she made the best decision for her.
I think he's very well-meaning and he sounds
like he was a very supportive friend through all of this
but I think that shows that she gave it time
processed her emotions and decided what was best for her.
Not that her character was any better
or worse than somebody who ended
up giving their child up for adoption.
Because that is a selfless gift that you could give
to a child as well.
It's not it, I don't know.
I didn't like that, but sorry.
I think you seem like a nice person.
I just, let's not say things like that.
- [Narrator] Brianna, thinks James
was conceived the previous June.
- Unfortunately we're not using any birth control.
We were stupid.
I didn't question the back pain.
I didn't question the heartburn.
or just the stress of moving.
- [Narrator] Briana was even seen in a bikini
less than two months before giving birth.
There was no bump and nothing out of the ordinary
- Sometimes when you move
or you go through a stressful event,
it can affect the way you feel
and it can even affect your periods.
People sometimes miss periods due to stress.
However, my driving home point that I,
always want you to hear is if your periods change
if you start having unusual symptoms,
take a pregnancy test that would have prevented her
from being in a situation where she
didn't know this was going to happen.
And maybe even helped her get some help prior
to the baby being born.
So I don't want to shame her. Again,
We do the best we can with the information we have
but I do want anybody listening to this
to know it's okay to take a pregnancy test
and it be negative, it's okay.
It's okay to take one.
Even if you just think maybe there's a chance
and you wanna be sure let's normalize that.
Normalized taking pregnancy tests if you need to.
- [Narrator] Six years later, James has added
to Brianna's life in ways she could never dream of.
- I couldn't imagine life.
If he wasn't here, he's done nothing
but make my life 10 times better.
- My friend is a wonderful mother
and James is a wonderful child.
As weird of a story is as it is.
It couldn't have turn out any better.
- Well, a sweet story.
I am so glad that her and baby James had a good outcome.
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