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Welcome to my latest breakup video… breakups, of course, are what I do.
My name is Brad Browning, I’m located in beautiful Vancouver Canada, and I’m possibly
the world’s most experienced breakup coach.
So, folks, if you want to get your ex back …. Get out your popcorn, because that’s
what this video is about.
In this particular video, I’ll be explaining what to do if you dumped your ex but now regret
it and want to get back together.
This is actually a lot more common that you might think, so if you’re in this situation
-- where you initiated the breakup, but later changed your mind -- here’s what you need
do to get your boyfriend or girlfriend back.
Oh, and this applies to some other slightly different situations, too… for instance,
maybe you and your ex agreed to a mutual breakup and just ‘parted ways’ for whatever reason…
or maybe some of you out there broke up with your ex out of anger because he or she did
something really nasty to you, but now you’ve had some time to think it over and forgive
your ex….
Whatever the specifics of your situation are, most of what I’m about to talk about still
applies to you.
For those of you that want my personal help with your specific situation, please visit
BreakupBrad.com/Coaching and consider signing up for my 1-on-1 coaching program….
I don’t always have coaching spots available, but that web page will show you my current
availability… and again, the details are all at www.BreakupBrad.com/coaching.
Now, let’s begin with a word of warning….
There are a lot of factors that will determine how difficult winning back your ex is going
to be.
For some of you out there watching this video, it may be a matter of simply meeting up and
asking him or her to get back together.
That’s obviously pretty unlikely, but in some cases -- such as if it’s only been
a few days since your breakup, or your ex clearly didn’t agree with your decision
to break up -- it could be that simple.
Time is the biggest factor here.
The longer it’s been since your initial breakup, the more difficult it’s going to
be to re-build your ex’s attraction to you to the point where he or she will want to
get back together….
That’s not to say it’s impossible to win back your lover after a year or more apart,
but it’s definitely going to be a lot more challenging.
Partly, the reason it’s tough to get back together after a long time apart is because
your ex will probably find someone new in that time… and I think it goes without saying
that you’re going to have a tougher time if your ex is in a serious relationship with
someone new.
So if you’re in that kind of situation, where it’s been many months or even years
since the initial breakup… and you already know your ex is seeing someone else, and has
been for some time….
Then please think about moving on.
I’m not saying you can’t get him or her back, because I’ve seen it happen with my
clients many times in the past, but you definitely need to be ready for the possibility that
you won’t be able to get him or her back and you’ll need to move on.
Another thing that will affect your strategy and your odds of success is your ex’s attitude
and overall feelings towards you… did you dump them in a brutal fashion, or was it a
tough decision you made together after shedding a lot of tears?
If you were a complete dick and kicked your ex to the curb, that may not actually hurt
your chances of getting them back, believe it or not….
But generally speaking, the ‘cleaner’ your breakup, the easier it’s going to be
to get back together.
I know some of you are wondering, “what if my ex initially didn’t want to break
up, it was all my decision…
but since then, they’ve changed their mind and now they don’t want me back?”....
Good question, that’s a common scenario too, and you’re going to need to use some
of my sneaky psychological tactics to re-build attraction and change his or mind.
(I’m going to cover a few of these tactics shortly, but for my full video guide -- where
I describe a number of very powerful psychological techniques you can use on your ex -- visit
my website, BreakupBrad.com.)
Now, regardless of which of the scenarios I’ve just described applies to you, your
starting point is the same…..
If you haven’t already done so, cut off the lines of communication with your ex starting
today.
Depending on how long it’s been since your initial breakup, you may need to employ the
full 30 days of No Contact, which is what I advise 99% of the time….
However, if you haven’t spoken with your ex at all for 2 or more weeks already, then
you can skip this part.
Otherwise, you NEED to shut down all contact with your ex for a while… especially if
the breakup happened fairly recently, in the last 6-8 weeks or so.
The No Contact period is designed to give your ex time to let go of negative memories,
and begin to foster some positive nostalgic ones.
This happens naturally when you’re not talking to one another, and studies have shown that
30 days or so is the point at which those nostalgic feelings peak after a breakup…
so basically, if you ignore your ex for a month after breaking up, that’s when he
or she is going to be missing you the most and thinking about all the amazing times you
shared together.
The other reason for employing my No Contact strategy is because it sort of acts as “shock
therapy”... instead of allowing your ex to gently let you go over a period of weeks
or months, you’re cutting yourself out of their life cold turkey.
Trust me, if you’ve been in a serious relationship for a few months or longer, then suddenly
having your partner disappear from your life is a huge shock and it’s going to create
some SERIOUS heartache.
So, you need to make sure that your ex knows how painful it is when you’re not around
anymore, and the No Contact strategy is the best way to do that.
After you’ve finished your period of radio silence -- and again, the more recent your
breakup and the more contact you’ve had since the breakup, the longer you need to
avoid talking to your ex -- it’s time to start re-building attraction and planting
the seeds of romance in his or her mind.
Basically, my techniques are designed to eliminate your ex’s negative thoughts and feelings
towards you and your relationship, and replace them with positive ones.
Instead of your ex thinking “ugh, that loser ex who might’ve cheated on me” every time
they hear your name, you want them to think, “ugh, how did I let that amazing person
walk out of my life, that was such a mistake”....
You’ve already started to do this by employing the No Contact phase, because that will help
your ex let go of the baggage and negative memories… but now you need to build real,
organic attraction.
You want to make your ex see getting back together as their best option… so that they’ll
ignore any other guys or girls in their life, and be overwhelmed by their attraction to
you, forcing them to ask you for a second chance.
This part is where many people make some serious mistakes.
Building that kind of attraction -- making your ex see YOU as their soulmate, and the
person they should spend their life with -- doesn’t happen with words.
You can’t just send your ex some flowers and hope that they’ll suddenly fall back
in love with you.
The only time that strategy might work is if your ex already wants to get back together
anyway….
Otherwise, for 99% of you watching this video, sending love notes or spilling your heart
out or sending flowers and gifts to your ex….
All that stuff is going to do exactly the opposite.
It’s going to make you look like a desperate, clingy loser.
Since YOU are the one who broke up with your ex initially -- or at the very least, your
breakup was a mutual decision -- you’ve actually got an advantage at this point in
the process.
Generally speaking, when you’re the “dumper” rather than the one who’s been dumped, you’re
going to find it easier to start talking to your ex again… and in particular it’s
usually easier to set up in-person meetings with your ex.
Why?
Because -- if you’ve played your cards correctly up to this point -- your ex won’t realize
you’ve changed your mind and decided you want to get back together.
That means that your ex is less likely to see your true intentions and won’t feel
threatened by the idea of hanging out with you.
Now, in case I didn’t make it clear, you do NOT want your ex to know that you’ve
changed your mind and decided you want to get back together.
Don’t throw away the huge advantage you have being the one who initiated the breakup
by telling your ex that you want them back… don’t show any sadness or regret over the
breakup, don’t ask for a second chance… just act like you’re confident in your decision
to break up.
You want your ex to think you’re enjoying the single life, having fun, and aren’t
affected emotionally at all.
If you’ve already blown it and told your ex you want them back… or, worse yet, begged
and pleaded for a second chance….
Well, that’s not ideal, but don’t sweat it.
The No Contact phase is even more important in this type of situation, so you’ll want
to disappear from his or her radar for at least a few weeks, and then re-start communication
again, this time giving the impression that you’re moving on and no longer desperate
or heartbroken…
those types of behaviours are attraction-killers, not attraction-builders.
Don’t start re-establishing the connection with your ex by suddenly sending them 50 messages
a day and calling every night…..
Slow and steady wins the race here.
First, use a simple and fun text message to break the ice.
I’ve included a ton of examples of attraction-building messages that are ideal to use at this point
in my Ex Factor program, so please sign up at my website -- www.BreakupBrad.com -- if
you are stuck and need some ideas on what to say to your ex to make them fall for you
again.
To summarize your strategy when it comes to slowly re-building a connection with your
ex, which is a bridge to get you to the point where you can meet up in person, It’s all
about keeping your ex smiling and having fun.
Send a meme or an inside joke via text, then ignore your ex for a couple of days.
Then bring up a funny memory you shared together, and let the conversation go back-and-forth
a couple of times before you shut it down.
Always go slow, be upbeat and positive whenever you’re talking to your ex, and give off
the impression that you’re LOVING life and THRIVING since the breakup.
Once you’ve done this for a couple of weeks, you’ll likely be on good terms again, and
your ex is going to be receptive when you suggest meeting up for a quick coffee date.
I recommend you frame this first meeting as just “grabbing a drink after work for 20
mins to catch up” or “meeting for coffee to see how things are going with the new job”....
Basically make it sound as benign and innocent as possible.
Chances are, if you’ve followed my advice properly up until this point, your ex will
agree… and now you’re almost at the finish line.
The final step is to get your ex to fall for you again… that sounds like an impossible
task, perhaps, but it’s really just a matter of flirting like crazy and bringing back the
person you were when your ex first fell in love with you.
You clearly, back then, had no problem charming your ex and building sexual and emotional
attraction.
Remember: getting into dramatic serious talks, arguments, or any negativity is only going
to push your ex away and make you less attractive.
So be positive and upbeat, make your ex laugh, share some fun times together again… and
flirt, flirt, flirt.
You don’t want to come on too strong if your ex isn’t ready for it yet, but gauge
how he or she is responding to your initial flirting and adjust your game accordingly.
Don’t overthink it.
Just have fun together, slowly start hanging out more and more, and sooner or later your
ex is going to ask you the question you’ve been wanting to hear: “I miss you….
Can we give our relationship another chance?
Will you take me back?”
BOOM…
there you have it folks, that’s how you win back your ex when YOU were the one who
initiated the breakup.
For my comprehensive video guide to getting your ex back -- a full video presentation
that reveals a boatload of must-know tips & advice -- head straight to my website, www.BreakupBrad.com,
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