Hi. In today's video, we're going to talk about why men
actually prefer to date older women.
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Hi there. Mat Shaffer your empowerment, connection, and relationship coach,
here to talk to you about a subject that comes up
all the time with my clients, my students, and my friends.
This belief that men only want to date younger women.
It's not true and I'm going to tell you why.
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Let's dive into this and let's start by looking at the elephant in the room,
this belief that men only want to date younger women.
This might be something that you tell yourself, right?
So many of my clients and students and friends,
they think that men are only chasing women that are
younger or significantly younger than them,
and they use that to talk themselves out or putting themselves out there.
I'm here to tell you it's simply not true.
When a man is looking for a relationship,
he's looking for a connection. He's looking for chemistry,
and that is not tied to age.
Age is just a number. What's so much more important than age
is the energy that's shared between us when we connect with somebody.
Let's just go ahead and throw the age thing out of the window.
It is not the most relevant characteristic or the most relevant factor
in whether or not a man will want to date you
or whether or not a man will want to be in a relationship with you.
There are a lot of reasons why men actually prefer
to date and get into relationships with older women.
By older, I mean women that are their age or older than them.
Now, one of the first big reasons why men prefer
older women for dating and relationship
is that older women know what they want.
When a man is dating a younger woman, a lot of times, she's very insecure.
She's trying to figure herself out and she'll identify herself
through her relationship. It can be very unstable,
it can be very stressful, and it can be very exhausting
to be a guy in that relationship.
When you're dating an older woman, she's secure.
She knows who she is and she knows what she wants.
It's a lot easier to be in a relationship with her.
When you're dating an older, more secure woman,
you don't have to try as hard to keep it together, to keep her together.
You have a more equal partnership
that's just a lot more enjoyable for a man.
Another reason why men love dating older women
is that it's much easier for us to be in our masculine with them
because women who are a little older and a little more experienced,
they generally tend to be much more secure in their femininity.
When we're with an older woman, she knows who she is,
she knows how to be in her feminine,
and to surrender and receive and honor us as men.
They're much more prone to allow us to open the door,
take care of checks, and really be that driving masculine force
in dating and relationship than a younger woman
who may be more insecure, have her walls up further,
and it's just not as easy for us to be
in that traditional masculine-feminine polarity with them.
Another reason men love dating older women is that
it's more fun because they have more stories.
Men love to tell stories, men also love to hear stories,
and they love to share experiences.
There's a depth to the conversations with older women,
and a fun that comes with the sharing of stories back and forth.
It's a much more layered and enjoyable experience
getting to know a woman
when she's older and she's had more life experience that she can share with us.
That whole exchange of stories and the ability to connect
at a deeper level and have common ground
in terms of shared experiences
is another reason why men absolutely love dating women
who are a little older.
Another reason why men love dating older women is, I got to say it,
they are more experienced physically.
They know what they want in bed.
They know what they like, they know what they don't like,
and we don't have to take the time to have to teach them
[chuckles] all of this stuff. If you are an older woman,
be in ownership of your sexuality
and know that the fact that you have a lot of sexual experience
with a variety of partners and a variety of relationships,
that's an asset. Because men don't always want to feel that
pressure of having to teach a woman how to do this
and how to do that and how to do all the things that they like.
It's so nice to just be able to connect with a woman
emotionally and intellectually and physically
and feel like she's already got the breadth of experience
to be able to just flow with you.
There's nothing nicer for a man than being able to just flow with his partner.
Remember from a masculine and feminine perspective,
the masculine is looking to be set free by the feminine.
We're looking to be able to relax and let go.
If we feel like we have to be
continually teaching our partner what we like
and teaching them all the things that
we want to do and they don't have a lot to contribute to that dynamic,
we have to carry the relationship.
We have to carry conversations.
We have to carry things in the bedroom. With younger women, a lot of times,
that's the position that we end up in.
The masculine is really seeking to be set free by the feminine.
With an older woman, it's a lot easier for us to just relax,
be ourselves, and just drop in and enjoy the connection we have with you.
I hope this video helps you understand
why men actually enjoy and love dating older women.
Don't let your age be a limiting factor in putting yourself out there
and connecting with men because at the end of the day,
it is just a number.
Men want to connect with women they have chemistry with.
They want to connect with women that they feel passion with.
They want to connect with women that they feel understand them
and that they enjoy being around.
If you can just be your deepest self,
own your femininity and put yourself out there,
you will connect with the man who want to get to know you.
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Thanks so much. I'll see you next time on my YouTube channel. Bye-bye.