So whenever something hurts you,
there are two options.
You can either become wounded
or you can become wise. This is the choice.
The more things hurt you early on in your life,
the wiser you should have become, isn't it?
But unfortunately, most people become wounded.
This is simply because
they just need an excuse
to turn their own intelligence against themselves.
That's all.
What's real?
matter
okay that's one answer
What's real?
What matters is real
That's how you act
that's different than matter.
What's the most real of what matters?
How about pain.
Why is it the most real
try arguing it away
So pain is the fundamental reality.
Doesn't that lead to nihilism and hopelessness?
Yes doesn't it
lead to a philosophy that's antithetical towards
being the most fundamental reality is pain
Yes.
Is there anything more fundamental than pain?
Really
if you're in pain
Love and truth
that's what you got
And you know,
if they're more powerful than pain,
maybe they're the most real things.
Because if you're a scientist,
a materialist to think well.
The matter is the most real it's like
well, you don't know what the matter is
when push comes to shove and it will,
you'll find out what's most real.
It's hard.
But it's worth
fighting.
It's worth
believing.
It's worth
mustering yourself up, standing up inside yourself,
it's worth fighting relentlessly,
never giving up.
I love the sun,
but things don't grow because of the sun,
you have to have some rain.
And you've gotta stop looking at rain in your life
as something bad.
My greatest moments didn't come from my greatest moments.
My greatest moments came from my greatest defeats.
Because it was during my defeat
that I had to find a way to get back up.
Come on, you need to remember
this is not the first time you cried,
this is not the first time you were short of breath,
this is not the first time you didn't see a way clear,
this is not the first time you were hurt,
this is not the first time your heart was broken,
this is not the first time you didn't have enough money,
this is not the first diagnosis that came up from behind.
Are you gonna let this horrible situation
dictate the way you feel
and the way you handle it?
Are you gonna
fall over and
fall down,
and fall apart?
Or
are you going to face
this issue
with
courage,
and with resolution?
You know darkness.
So
embrace.
Embrace that darkness.
Don't look away from it,
own it.
Step
up
to the challenge.
No matter
what you face,
start
walking.
Take that step.
Every day,
no matter what you are facing,
get up
and start walking.
And never surrender.
If you do not understand
the nature of what this is,
how will you put this to use?
It is consuming you,
your own intelligence is consuming you.
You can call it stress, anxiety,
pain, suffering, whatever.
Essentially your intelligence
has turned against you.
That's all the reality is.
If your intelligence was working for you,
taking instructions from you,
you would keep yourself blissed out, wouldn't you?
Your intelligence has turned against you.
Why has your intelligence turned against you,
that's what you need to look at,
not about carrying these stupid things that
have happened which should not have happened,
as badges in our life.
Where is the time to carry every experience like a wound?
No.
This must become your wisdom -
If terrible things happen to you,
you must become wiser than others,
sooner than others, isn't it?
Your whole life is happening
between these three dimensions -
memory, present, experience, and imagination.
We call them trikala
three dimensions of time.
All your experience of life is happening here,
but if you lose distinction between
what is past, what is present, what is future,
then everything hurts.
For not everybody terrible things have happened,
unfortunately for a few people,
they have happened.
For the rest of the people are
simply suffering something, isn't it?
Because it's fashionable to suffer.
People think if they're suffering,
they're very intellectual.
They're very profound.
No
It's just stupid because
you're suffering something that doesn't exist.
So this madness has been encouraged
simply because
we never train people how to use their faculties.
Do you agree with me that this human machine
that you carry, and I carry,
this is the most sophisticated machine on the planet?
So if you're depressed,
as far as I can tell, you don't have a terrible life.
You have friends, you have family,
you have an intimate relationship,
you have a job or a career,
your about as educated as you should be
given your intelligence,
you use your time outside of work wisely.
You're not beholden to alcohol or other temptations.
You're engaged in the community in some fundamental sense
and all that's working.
Now, if you have all that and you're feeling really awful,
you're either ill or you're depressed.
And so then sometimes there's a biochemical route
to that treatment of that.
My experience as being as a clinician
is if you're depressed, but you have a life
and you take an antidepressant,
it will probably help you a lot.
Now, maybe you're not depressed exactly.
You just have a terrible life.
What does that look like?
You have no relationship.
Your family's a mess.
You've got no friends. You've got no plan.
You've got no job.
You use your time outside of work not only badly,
but destructively, you have a drug or alcohol habit
or some other vice, pornography addiction.
You are completely unengaged in the surrounding community.
You have no scaffolding whatsoever to support you
in your current mode of being or you move forward.
And then as a therapist, well, you do two things.
Well, if it's depression per se, well, like I said,
there's sometimes a biochemical route, a nutritional route.
There's ways that can be addressed.
It's probably physiological, at least in part,
if you're depressed, but you have an okay life.
Sometimes it's conceptual.
You can turn to dreams sometimes to help people
'cause dreams contain the seeds of the potential future.
And if your person is a real good dreamer
and you can analyze dreams, that can be really helpful.
But that seems to have only true for more creative people.
And for the people who just have a terrible life,
it's like, okay, you have a terrible life.
Well, let's pick a front.
How about you need, how about you need a friend,
like one sort of friend.
Do you know how to shake hands and introduce yourself?
I'll have the person show me.
So let's do it for a sec.
So.
It's like this, hi, I'm Jordan.
And people don't know how to do that.
And then they can't even get the ball rolling.
Can you sit up once today?
No.
Can you prop yourself up on your elbows once today?
Like you just, you scale back the dragon
till you find one that's conquerable that moves you forward.
There's a rubric for life.
Scale back the dragons till you find one conquerable
and it'll give you a little bit of goal.
Commensurate it with the struggle.
But the plus side of that,
'cause you think that God, that's depressing.
You mean I have to start by sitting up?
Well, you do if you can't sit up.
But the plus side of that is
it's the pareto distribution issue is that aggregates,
exponentially increase.
And failures do too, by the way.
But aggregates exponentially increase.
So once you start the ball rolling,
it can get zipping along pretty good.
instead of trying to get rid of the Integrity's of life we should be trying to get the build-up
strengthen them and give more power to that which it is obviously the intention of the creating power
we need these things we need obedience to universal law
not obedience to the whining of ignorant and even criminal people
we need to understand nature and there's no reason why a high school graduate shouldn't already know enough
to live a clean life not only for the length of time he expects
but maybe for a couple of extra hundred years if he does it right
we do not need to have all this vast experiment to try to prove something that's no good if we prove it
and when if you kindly do previous then something comes along and discourse is almost immediately
we need to have a reasonable fear of being wrong for natural fear natural anxiety
but this natural anxiety should incline is inevitably to correct the thing they are afraid of so that we will no longer fear it
and we will discover that what we thought we feared was really a wonderful
truth in disguise which we were reluctant to accept
when we understand these things and understand them right we won't have any problems
there they're perfectly natural perfectly reasonable
the archetype of the universe the great trust the Lord of the heavens is there
we know the infinite patterns of life we see them traced on the rocks
we see them in the mountains and then the Seas we see life in every element
and wherever we see man we see him destroying life
well man destroys enough life he's going to destroy himself with it
there's no reason why everything that exists
should be sacrificed to the whim of man who doesn't even know why you exist
or have any real interest in finding out
all he's interested in is being secure and prosperous and important for the few years of his life
then he will disappear and his moral problems will disappear with him
but they will stay with us until somebody solves them
so we can get down to freedom from stress and tension
we all get tired that's expected we all have our little problems that we're not going to kill right away
but if we can get a basic set of values knowing that if we keep the rules they'll keep us
if we break the rules they'll break us and begin by recognizing
what constitutes the foundations of a good life
the acceptance of responsibility
the recognition of the rights of others to succeed
the rights of all living things animate and inanimate
to have that fulfilled to their fulfillment in this world of what creativity we are a part
that all things have a right to be considered
the flaws of the field are not there's a need to be burned
the trees are not they are simply to be chopped down
the animals are not they are simply to be slaughtered
all these things have to be corrected and fitting their proper relations
and when humanity becomes harmless
it will not be subject to hard when it becomes aware of the values of life
and the principles that it should understand and that nourish and protect
it will have a peaceful existence
there is no reason why the human family
should not be the brightest and noblest things on the planet at this particular time
and that all other forms of life together around it
as children gather around the parents
that all the animals and birds and everything in the world
would find its place in a world
where everything is thoughtful of everything else .