SHANE: There's something I need to know.
If that was the love of your life,
why did you come to the house with a gun?
FATHER: I came to the house with a gun
because I was filled with anger and rage.
I ain't had no intention of killing your mother when I
came to that house that night.
I was trying to convince her to take me back
and leave this other guy alone.
SHANE: You wasn't thinking about my outcome.
Where was I going to end up at?
FATHER: Man, I don't know--
I don't know how to tell you, man.
I was a [BLEEP] dude back then, right?
And I ain't care about nobody but me.
Again, I say--
[CHAINS CLANKING]
IYANLA VANZANT: Demons.
He had this on that night.
So did you.
You were just too young to know about it.
Tell him about your father.
FATHER: My father, he was uh--
he was abusive.
And I hated my father's guts because he used
a tear our ass up on a regular.
And um-- after I got grown, I came to learn
that he did the best he could.
He only treated me and my sisters the way
that he was treated when he was a kid.
[CHAINS CLANKING]
FATHER: Familiar violence.
IYANLA VANZANT: Was very familiar to him, grew up in it.
[CHAINS CLANKING]
IYANLA VANZANT: You didn't know that did you?
Now tell him what it was like for you
growing up without a mother or father
because he don't know your story.
SHANE: I needed you, man.
Iike I say, grow--
growing up playing sports and every boy wants they
dad there cheering them on.
I needed you, man.
You was locked up.
IYANLA VANZANT: Remember, I told you about the act of faith
that you had to do?
Remember, I told you that.
Here it is right here.
FATHER: Son, please forgive me.
I killed you mother, the love of my life.
And because I killed your mother,
I wasn't there as your father.
[HEAVY SIGH]
IYANLA VANZANT: What do you see when you look there?
SHANE: I see a man who's sorry for what he did.
I see hurt, compassion, honesty.
FATHER: Hey, that mean the world to me right
there, that you know that.
That's kind of all I ever wanted for you to know, that I--
that I am sorry for what I did to you and your mom.
SHANE: That's all I've been wanting
to hear all these years, just th--the remorse in your voice.
That's what I wanted to hear.
To know that you-- you were truly sorry for what you did.
FATHER: I am.
I am truly sorry.
IYANLA VANZANT: [INAUDIBLE] You stand up.
Give me your hands.
Put them right here.
Look at your son.
Tell him I'm proud of you.
FATHER: I'm proud of you son because you
a better man than I was.
IYANLA VANZANT: Yeah.
FATHER: You a good man, Shane.
SHANE: I know.
[SOBBING]
IYANLA VANZANT: Ah.
And how old are you?
SHANE: 40 years old.
FATHER: 40.