- [Amanda] That word, lazy,
it's an insulting and negative trait.
It's a voluntary purposeful decision to not act
despite being perfectly capable
and in favorable circumstances to do so
often for petty and selfish reasons.
Emotional exhaustion is not voluntary.
It can be disabling,
and it can't just be turned off.
It's one of the signs of burnout involving your psyche
and emotions feeling like a deflated scrapyard tire.
So how can you tell if it's emotional exhaustion?
Well, let's take a look at some signs.
Number one, you can't seem to get work done,
but you normally do or learn something
even if it's small.
Now, though, it's like you blank out
at your workstation all day.
And okay, you're home again, what happened?
Thinking back carefully,
emotional exhaustion may be a play.
Unlike your usual self,
you were easily sidetracked
and all your regular tasks felt like monumental hurdles.
Maybe you missed several important deadlines
despite knowing they were there.
It's like everything is just one gray wash
and you simply can't focus
or bring yourself to be into any one thing.
One day of this could stem
from that all-night gaming session.
Most days of this happening for more than a few weeks,
that could be emotional exhaustion.
Number two, you're so tired,
but you haven't really done anything.
You're puzzled, falling asleep has been fine.
You're not waking up throughout the night.
Maybe you've even had power naps during the day,
yet you're still moving
and thinking like you're trapped in thickened pudding.
This could well be emotional exhaustion trying to get you
to slow the heck down
and enact some self care.
You might have been ignoring your wants and needs
with all energy going to others or to work.
Whatever it is,
this is a reminder to take care of your emotional health.
Journaling, talking to a sympathetic friend,
or maybe a therapist can help to restore what sleep can't.
You also may not have had time to yourself
for inner peace moments.
So meditation or even a long hot bath might help.
Number three, this isn't good enough.
Nothing is good enough.
You're finding that suddenly you aren't satisfied
with anything you do.
How could you have thought before
that that little error was, well, little?
It's huge, oh my goodness.
You're starting to spiral.
You just know this is gonna get you canned.
This is emotional exhaustion.
Hello, I believe we've met.
Yup, weirdly enough,
emotional exhaustion seems to make a person
an uber-perfectionist nightmare.
Things you just dealt with before,
now it all really bugs you,
leading to more and more things bugging you.
And it all feels catastrophic.
You berate yourself for the smallest perceived error,
self-criticizing like a torture master
that feeds shame, fear, and sadness,
which means more mistakes.
Yep, do you see where that goes, nowhere good.
So if you start to see yourself ramp up the self-hate,
getting stuck to the point
where you're constantly frustrated to tears,
and completely unsatisfied with everything,
that's a sign that says take a step back.
You can do it.
You have your own history and evidence around you to prove
that this is unusual,
that you're still doing
the same good job you were doing a month ago.
It's telling you it might be time to care for yourself.
Maybe reach out for help to guide you back to a good place.
Number four, you feel irrationally irritable.
Emotional exhaustion leaves you raw and vulnerable
to stressors that you'd normally handle with ease,
leading to nervousness.
No longer the calm rock of resilience,
you're now always on edge,
your mind twitching on fight or flight mode.
Everything feels more threatening and insulting.
As such, you may find yourself interpreting
even the most neutral exchanges and actions
as offensive or shady.
You wanna lash out like a cornered animal.
Oof, that could bite you back pretty hard.
You know who you are.
You might even feel yourself snapping at someone
and simultaneously inside screaming,
"What is wrong?
Why are you acting like this?"
Listen to that undervoice.
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Number five, you're eating weird
and sleeping is off.
Sure, we like chocolate as much as the rest of you.
But no matter how long we spent on that one project,
we usually still feel guilty eating a whole bar
for our dinner.
Emotional exhaustion also exhausts reasoning
or at least your willingness to reason.
This affects food intake.
Maybe you couldn't be bothered to think about real food
so that bag of nachos sure sounds great.
Actually, the last four nights in a row were like that.
Or you cruised on autopilot
and ate a dinner of potato chips
and two marshmallows, what?
At bedtime, you might find
that your body is so tired
but you can't get sleepy.
Or you just don't haul yourself to bed at a normal hour.
What day is it again?
All these things contribute to low mood and brain fog,
which makes it even harder to seize your get-up-and-go
when your day starts.
And the rest of your day doesn't get better after that.
Emotional exhaustion sucks.
Like other mental health issues,
it's not physically noticeable like a broken leg.
Society for so long has also followed
the corporate line of overworking is admirable,
making us believe that this exhaustion is somehow due
to our defect.
Now that burnout and the emotional exhaustion
it comes with are recognized as medical entities,
you can start on the road to healing
and gain back that self-esteem.
Emotional exhaustion is not you saying,
"I'm a brat who just doesn't wanna do it."
It's a sign you may need time to your self
and possibly a reach out to a professional
for help getting back in your zone.
Did you, or have you recognized any of these symptoms?
Has this video helped you understand
something different about yourself?
If so, how?
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If you're not too exhausted,
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