- You cannot have a marriage without finances, sex, food,
finances, sex, trips.
(laughs)
Sex.
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- I am Lori,
and this is my mom, Karen.
- Hi.
- Yes, so,
virginity, well, losing, like, when I lost it
and all that stuff.
- Okay. - Yeah.
(laughing)
- That's not something Mommy has, uh, care for, herself,
but, that's awkward.
- I lost my virginity at home, we were, I was at home.
- At my house? - At your house.
(both laugh)
- Where was I? - Not home!
- Well, obviously. - God.
It was the one where my room was up front.
- I already know, good Lord.
I just got a feeling.
I gave you, her own room, in the front of the house,
I was kinda, totally against.
- And it was like, right by the front door.
- Literally by the front door - But I could open my window.
'cause it was only a one-story.
Who do you think it was with?
- I already know.
(both laugh)
Her husband.
It's Sione.
- Yeah.
- Did you guys talk about it first?
- Yes.
- Details. - Right?
We got naked together in the dark
because I was self-conscious.
- How long did it last?
- Like, four minutes maybe?
(laughs)
- Yeah.
- In the beginning, we tried missionary, of course,
that's the first one we knew.
Like, him sitting in a chair, and me on top of him,
which was really awkward.
- Did you do other things?
- I guess oral would be like, the big one.
Because you're, yeah.
It was like, I don't, like, that was the big one.
- Did you use protection?
- Yeah, we used protection.
We used condoms.
- Okay so question for you.
- Yeah?
- Did it feel good to you?
- The first time, no.
I mean, didn't feel bad but it was just like...
- What did you feel?
Like really, in your mind?
- I felt nervous.
I felt nervous.
That's what I felt.
- So why wouldn't you tell me that
that's what you were thinking?
- I don't know.
I just felt, I felt weird talking to you about
the whole sex thing, cos I thought that you,
like you were very overprotective,
and I really thought that you would be worried about,
don't bring no more babies into my house.
- Hello!
(both laugh)
- Don't bring no more babies in my house.
(both laugh)
- Okay!
So can you tell me about your first time and how it went?
Was it on a bed? - Yes, on the bed.
- What were you wearing? - Nothing.
- Nothing. - Absolutely nothing.
- How did you feel, like, being naked in front of him?
- That was easy, because I went swimming all the time.
So, he saw me in bikinis all the time.
My insecurity was you always have the fear that,
is he only wanting to have sex with me
because he knows nobody else has?
And is it gonna last, and you know, after I let him in,
what's gonna happen next?
- Was there anything that you actually liked about it?
- Yeah, he was gentle.
He was very gentle, he was understanding,
he was compassionate.
He didn't go further than I wanted him to.
- Did you use protection your first time?
- No we didn't, because we actually wanted to have a baby.
- I didn't know that.
- Yeah, no.
All of you were planned, not one of you
were an accident, not one.
- What did Dad look like?
Back then? - Oh my God.
Caramel.
Just, just tall and caramelly, just...
(giggles)
Ooh Jesus, y'all are wrong.
God rest that man's soul, don't make me remember him, ahh.
Let's just say he was well-built, basketball,
football player, he has a ass that I used to love to grip.
I swear, I mean he was well-built.
- Do you have some sex advice for me Mom?
- Absolutely, you gotta have a pole,
you gotta have some spice, you gotta have toys.
- So--
- I'm a maid, I'm a nurse.
(both laugh)
I'm a construction worker.
- A construction worker!
(both laugh)
- I am, I'm Pocahontas.
- Wait, construction worker?
- Construction worker, I go in there and get his belt
and I put his belt on and his hat on and that's it.
Just ask him out of the blue, you wanna lap dance?
Go to YouTube, learn how to do it.
- Youtube?
- Somebody!
And do it like that.
And he come home, you have to be, you have to surprise him.
Everybody gets bored.
When you make them feel good, they in turn
do the best that they can for you.
- Yeah.
- Whatever it is, financially, mentally, physically,
emotionally, you know.
So be sexual, play with your toys, play games, spice it up.
Take the ice cubes.
- Oh my goodness.
- Run 'em down the back, tickle them back, chocolate syrup,
whipped cream, just be imaginative.
- So let me ask you a question.
How the heck did you get around having sex with
children in the house?
- Y'all had y'all own room, y'all know the rules,
get your butt in your bed, your room, you come out
that's your ass.
(Lori laughs)
'Cause this is Mom time.
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