CHAPTER 4 - Your Beliefs Determine Your English Success In the last chapter, you learned the
importance of fuel, or psychology, for English speaking success. You also learned how to
anchor (connect) strong positive emotions to English. In addition to peak emotions,
there is another important element of psychology that you must master in order to speak English
powerfully: belief. Beliefs are our most powerful “brain programs.” They guide our decisions,
our feelings, and our thoughts. They tell us what is possible and what is not. They
open us to success or limit us to failure. We can put beliefs into two general categories:
limiting beliefs and empowering beliefs. A limiting belief is typically a negative “program”
that limits your potential and performance. In other words, limiting beliefs limit your
success. The hidden curriculum is the source of most negative beliefs about English. Over
time, schools consistently program limiting beliefs into the minds of their students.
After years in school, most students share some or all of these limiting beliefs: English
is complicated and difficult. It takes many years to speak English well. English is stressful.
Grammar study is the key to English speaking. I’m not good at English. There is one right
answer. There is one right way to say it. Something is wrong with me because I still
can’t speak English well. My test scores are low, therefore I can’t speak English
well. The best way to learn English is to sit in a class, take notes, and read a textbook.
Only a few special people can learn to speak English powerfully. English learning is boring
and frustrating. The problem with these negative beliefs is that they lead to negative emotions
(about English). The negative beliefs and emotions then lead to bad decisions, and the
bad decisions lead to disappointing results. For example, someone who believes that English
is stressful, complicated, and difficult is unlikely to be motivated to work hard every
day. Rather, they will constantly be struggling to force themselves to learn English. Someone
who feels only a few special people can master English will likely become frustrated very
quickly. They will assume that something is wrong with them, that they are “not good
at English.” Again, their progress will be slow. Finally, those who believe that classes,
textbooks and grammar study are the key may spend years using these ineffective methods,
driving their old slow car on the road to fluency and never achieving success. This
is why beliefs are so important. They are the central programs in our brain that create
feelings, decisions and actions. Beliefs are what make the difference between ultimate
success or a lifetime of frustration with English. Beliefs tell you what an experience
means. Whenever you have an English language experience, your brain must decide the meaning
of what happened. In other words, your brain generalizes the experience. Your brain decides
what the event means to your life as a whole. And with each negative experience, the belief
can grow stronger and stronger. Eventually you become completely certain about the belief.
For example, maybe you were repeatedly corrected by an English teacher. After each of these
embarrassing experiences, your brain had to decide the meaning of what happened. Based
on these events, maybe you decided that you were bad at English. Maybe you decided that
English was painful and stressful. Each negative experience made the belief stronger. The problem
is that these beliefs then affected all of your English experiences that followed. So
whenever you had another encounter with English, it was always with these negative limiting
beliefs. Because of this, you automatically viewed every new experience with English more
negatively. If your beliefs are strongly negative and you don’t change them, you can completely
destroy your ability to succeed as an English speaker. Many English learners completely
lose hope and simply quit, never to succeed. You must, therefore, replace your limiting
beliefs with strong empowering ones. “Empowering” means “giving power.” So an empowering
belief is one that gives you power! What kind of empowering beliefs do you need for English
speaking success? Here is a sample list: English is easy, fun and exciting. I can speak English
fluently in about six months. Mistakes are normal and necessary. Even native speakers
make mistakes. Communication, not a test score, is the purpose of English speaking. Grammar
study kills English speaking. Anyone can learn to speak English powerfully. There’s nothing
wrong with me, I’ve just been using a bad method and I can change that. I’m sure you
can see how much stronger these beliefs are. You can see that these beliefs are more likely
to create success than the limiting ones. You can probably imagine the greater feelings
of confidence and excitement that these beliefs create. But how do you create these beliefs?
Clearly the empowering beliefs are more desirable, but how do you truly re-program your mind?
One powerful method for changing beliefs is called modeling. Modeling simply means to
find a successful person and study them carefully. If you want to speak English powerfully, for
example, you find another person who has learned to do it. You learn about them. You learn
what they did and how they did it. If possible, you talk to them and learn about their psychology
and their methods. Finally, of course, you do your best to do exactly what they did.
The more you model successful people, the more your beliefs will change automatically.
By focusing on success instead of failure, you gradually re-program your brain. This
is why I created the Effortless English Club™. In our community, the most successful members
guide and advise newer members. While I hope this book will help to change your beliefs,
there is nothing more powerful than hearing from another person, just like you, who achieved
success. Your job now is to find successful English speakers and model them. You might
find them in your town. You will certainly find them online. When you do find them, ask
them about their beliefs and methods. Study their psychology and their success. This is
exactly what I did when I developed the Effortless English™ system. I studied the most successful
English learners. I interviewed them. I studied their emotions, their beliefs, their goals,
and their learning methods. That is how I created a system based on success, not failure.
Remember, beliefs are created by the meaning we attach to experiences. The more you focus
on and think about negative experiences, the stronger the limiting beliefs become. You
can make empowering beliefs stronger in the same way. In other words, you can use “selective
memory” to create and strengthen your positive beliefs. How do you do this? Simply by reviewing
all of your past experiences with English. As you remember all of your past experiences,
search your memory for any that were positive. Maybe you remember a fun activity. Maybe you
enjoyed reading a short story in English. When you remember these positive experiences,
write them down. Create a list of all the positive experiences you have ever had with
English. Most people can identify at least a few such experiences. The next step is to
focus your attention on these memories every day. Each day, review your list of positive
English memories. Remember each experience. See each one in your mind and feel those positive
feelings again. Then write down a new empowering belief about English. You might write “English
is easy and fun.” You might write “I enjoy learning English and I’m good at it.”
Write this belief at the top of your list and also review it each day. And of course,
every time you have a new positive experience with English, add it to your list. Your list
will grow longer and longer. And as it grows, your empowering beliefs will get stronger
and stronger. We all know the computer programming term “garbage in, garbage out.” Beliefs
are our brain programs. Garbage (negative limiting) beliefs create negative emotions,
bad decisions, and low motivation. These, in turn, create “garbage out” – terrible
results. Those bad results then create new and stronger negative beliefs, and the whole
cycle starts again, even worse. This is called a “downward spiral.” Positive beliefs,
on the other hand, create an upward spiral. Empowering beliefs create more positive emotions,
better decisions, and better motivation. These, in turn, create better results. Better results
then create even stronger empowering beliefs. The whole cycle repeats again and again, getting
stronger each time. This upward spiral is the key to rapid success with English.