Male ejaculation - it can be such a charged topic! Do women like it? How to do it for
most pleasure - yours and hers? Where to shoot - inside of her or pull out and aim somewhere else?
With a condom or without? What's best for you and what will she enjoy the most? Ah, so much
to discuss! So make sure to stick till the end. My name is Helena Nista and I make videos that
help you have the best sex of your life. And today we're discussing male ejaculation. First of all,
different people (both men and women) can have different attitudes towards the phenomenon of
male ejaculation, whether they are the ejaculator or the person on the receiving end of the male
ejaculation. And these attitudes can also change throughout their lives. Typically when
we're young, our lack of experience or our limited experience can lead us to have some strong or even
extreme approach to this topic. From confusion and uncertainty to disgust or even fear, anxiety or
pressure that we put on ourselves, that once the penis is hard the guy absolutely has to release.
Fortunately, with age we tend to relax a lot and adopt a much more open and chilled attitudes
towards this topic specifically and the topic of sexuality in general. So let's unpack male
ejaculation a bit more just to see what are the truths about it and what are the myths that we
need to dispel. A lot of people feel that once the cock becomes hard, the ejaculation is the
only way to go. Some men even ask me if it's bad for their health if they don't release during sex.
Many people seem to see a hard cock as the sort of a loaded gun that absolutely needs to shoot
at some point in the near future. But this whole idea is a myth. Just because he's erect doesn't
mean that he needs to come. When he cuddles you and you can feel his hard-on pressing against
your body, this should never pressure you to have sex with him. A hard cock that doesn't
receive any attention or stimulation, will relax, the blood will slowly flow out of it
and he will simply become flaccid again. No harm, no problem, no issue here. If on the other hand,
you feel aroused and keen when you feel his heart cock pressed against your body,
by all means rip his clothes off and have fun together. So it's of course impossible to speak
for every single lady out there but in general, yes, women do like it when their man ejaculates.
A lot of women see it as a sort of a confirmation that he's still attracted to her and that he has
loving feelings towards her. However, a man is capable of coming with a variety of women, which
is why prostitution is such a popular profession. So this assumption in itself is faulty. Because
regardless of how much your partner loves you, he will sometimes struggle to orgasm for a variety of
reasons that have nothing to do with you, like stress, fatigue, anxiety, etc. And instead of
asking him to drain his balls every time you need him to reassure you of his love for you,
it's better to simply have a conversation with him about it. When you're really, really present
with her and when she's really connected to her body and her sensuality, it's possible that your
ejaculation can trigger her orgasm. This won't happen for me every single time but when it does,
it's really, really delicious. When my partner starts to orgasm and ejaculate, when he's inside
of me, the intensity of the orgasmic energy flowing out of his cock and up through my
body can send me into an orgasmic state as well. And it feels truly wonderful! This is something
really worth developing in yourself, developing that level of presence, embodiment and ability to
tune in with each other. And if that's something that both of you desire, make sure to check out
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partners want to take their lovemaking to a whole new level of closeness, pleasure and intimacy. So
if it's right for you, I put the link in the description below. When it comes to deciding
where to direct your load, this is really a personal preference. If you're trying for a baby,
the obvious answer is to release inside of her. If you're trying to avoid pregnancy, then definitely
do not come inside of her unless you're using a condom or any other method of contraception.
So what about coming on top of her body, the way you see it in porn? To be honest,
if I was a man I would never want to pull out just before orgasm, unless I absolutely had to. I mean,
I do get it that the porn actors do it for the purpose of that money shot. But when you're not
actually in that moment actively making a porn movie, why would you want to pull out of the wet,
warm, cozy, delicious vagina?! If you absolutely desire to do it, then of course you can.
But if you're intending to come on top of her, make sure to discuss this with her first and check
in if she's okay with that. And if you think that she's going to enjoy having you come on her face,
think again! Ladies, the decision to swallow or spit his cum is up to you. If you worry about his
sperm being unhygienic or potentially harmful to your body, there is nothing to worry about.
As long as he has a reasonably good diet, his cum is actually full of nutrients and quite beneficial
for your system. Some even claim that it has mood lifting qualities, like a natural antidepressant.
So if you desire to swallow, feel free to do it and enjoy! However, some women find the taste
of the ejaculate quite off-putting or bitter. So if that's your concern, you can choose to spit.
It's your mouth and your choice, so don't ever let anybody push you to do something that you're
not prepared to do. Using a condom is always an important consideration. The condom protects you
in two ways. It helps you avoid pregnancy and it also creates a barrier against most STD's. There
are of course other methods of contraception and a condom isn't the only one. But it is a necessity
when you are worried about your sexual health. So if you both are in a monogamous relationship
together and you both have been tested, and are free from any sexually transmitted diseases,
and you're not worried about pregnancy, you can skip the condom. However, if you're with
a casual lover or you have more than one lover and you don't want to get her pregnant, make sure
to use the condom. I guess the last point I want to raise is that for many women male ejaculation
can be associated with the men being selfish in bed. After all, in a huge majority of cases the
heterosexual sex ends with him coming, whether she orgasmed or not. This idea that male ejaculation
is a necessary part of sex is so ingrained in us that we almost can't imagine a situation
where she orgasms and then rolls over and falls asleep, leaving him horny and unsatisfied. And yet
the reverse of this situation is very common. So please, for the love of god, don't be selfish in
bed! Make sure to take care of her as well, either before you come or after. Let's start taking the
orgasm gap seriously. Heterosexual women need to start orgasming more often in bed with their
lovers. And gentlemen, there's a lot you can do if you decide to pull your socks up and address
this situation. I hope that you loved this video and that it gave you plenty of food for thought.
If you liked it, please give me a 'Like' and leave me a comment below: what do you most enjoy about
ejaculation as a man or as a woman? Please also check out my hugely popular online course Tantric
Sex For Couples if you feel like your relationship is in the need of better, more amazing, next level
sort of lovemaking. You'll find the link to the course with a very special discount code in the
description below. Thank you so much for being here, for watching and for sharing your comments
and insights below. I love reading everything that you write and I always respond personally!
Please take care, have amazing sex and fantastic orgasms. See you next time!