So you think that they can do that now in preparation?
You can even do exercises like one thing that I advise guys to do is talk to camera, record
videos of yourself talking to a camera.
You don't have to put them out on YouTube or anything, but just the act of doing it
will get you better when you're in an interpersonal interaction with a girl.
I like that.
That's a really good ti because if you think about it, when you're talking to a camera,
you have to look right into the camera so boom, there you're practicing eye contact
and yes, it's a little bit more difficult to... it's not a person so they're not going
to be talking to you where you can listen and work off of them.
But at the very least, you can work on talking to someone and practicing eye contact by looking.
And it's a little weird.
It's a little uncomfortable.
You've probably never talked into a camera before and you've never done it alone and
that's good so that awkwardness that weirdness, that's something that is somewhat similar
to the awkwardness that you're going to feel when you're talking to a woman.
It's not exactly the same thing but it is going to be a little strange to do that so
might as well try, right?
Yeah, exactly.
And I think just being able to talk for a period of time about a topic is a really useful
thing.
Because guys, as you know, guys will have approach anxiety and the question that people
will usually have is what do I say?
How do I open?
But of course the opener, it's kind of irrelevant.
The opener could be almost anything, the opener can be like hey, I'm Troy, how are you?
That could be the opener.
The big problem that you really got is what do you do next?
What do you say next?
And in my experience, what you need to do is to keep talking for a period of time.
You need to make an observation about her and then talk around that for a little while
just so she becomes comfortable and so that she's got something to hook on to.
But if you find that difficult, and a lot of us do without having had some some training
or some practice, then that can stifle your interactions because you can go up to the
girl and say hey, you're cute and she goes oh yeah thank you.
And then it's a bit awkward and then she just says well have a nice day and she walks off.
To prevent that happening, the more practice you can have with just being able to improvise
a little bit, the better.
And I think you can do that on your own.
You can do that as an exercise.
You can set yourself a little...
I'm going to talk for one minute about this random word or that random word and you can
start to build that muscle.
You just gave me an idea for another video, which maybe I'll do on YouTube is, it'd be
cool to do a video where I have random girls just saying random sentences and then you
can pause the video and you can respond to whatever she says based off of what she says
and then keep practicing that, you know what I mean?
Yeah, absolutely.
Because I do sometimes think, I don't know if you feel this, but I do sometimes think
since I got into this doing this stuff like, particularly YouTube.
I've actually done my podcast for longer than YouTube.
But I've been doing YouTube for a while and certainly my current channel I've had for
over a year now.
And sometimes guys will say, how do I get better at talking to girls?
How do I get better at finding things to say in social situations?
And I sometimes think do you know what, if you did a YouTube channel talking about it,
that would really help.
But of course many guys aren't doing what we're doing so in a funny way they don't have
that advantage.
But then you think around it and you think well the fundamental mechanics of it is just
looking into a camera and talking about something and trying not to fumble too much.
And anybody can do that.
It doesn't matter if you're published or not, you can still do that as an exercise.
Yeah exactly.
And then hopefully prepare yourself for when you go out and do this in the real world.
And that's what we're getting into on this episode and really talking about what it means
to meet women during the day and I've done a few episodes on this before but I'm interested
in talking to you about it.
Because every coach or instructor has a different way of going about it.
I don't think any way is right or wrong.
I think every way is different for everyone and there's so many different ways to skin
a cat here.
I'm really curious with you Troy, what are your steps in terms of going out and being
able to successfully meet women during the day and how does it start?
Because I'm of the belief that this is one of the best ways to meet women and I'm sure
you because you told me you teach a lot and talk a lot of it and it just such a great
way because it's really practical.
It's like you're always going out.
You're always running an errand.
You can walk around.
It's so available.
Obviously not right now.
But when the world gets back to normal and like it was before, it's so available to you.
It's like oh you want to go try and practice conversation or get a date?
Cool, go walk outside.
Hopefully it's not freezing but even in the time zone it is, if you live in a city where
people are walking around, it's pretty busy.
I mean really you have a lot of ... what I'm saying here is you have a lot of opportunity.
So I just wanted to dive in with you and hear what your guide is from A to Z in terms of
where to start and and how to do it and some of the practical tips and how to get better.
You have the floor man.
Tell us how you teach guys and what you do.