Hey guys,
welcome back to my channel
I'm so glad you're here.
Today we're going to talk about
the top three lies women tell you
when they're not interested
specifically in you.
And while these three lies
have been heard by many men
in fact, probably most men including the Chads
they can sometimes even happen
after you've already started dating.
In this video, we're going to look at
why a woman's biology
makes her lie
when she's not interested in you.
What the top three lies women tell you are
and how you can find out the truth
without instantly turning her off
or triggering her.
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I help men decode modern women
so you can find, attract, and keep your keeper.
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definitely need to learn and appreciate
a lot more about men
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Welcome to just the tip.
Okay, so I know women say things
that are not the truth
when it comes to dating and relationships.
And you may be shocked to find out
it's not intentional
unless she's actually emotionally damaged.
Now, that's probably not the kind of woman you want.
Correct, right.
And you've probably heard
a lot of dating coaches
and pickup artists to tell you
women don't know what they want.
Well, that's absolutely true.
Women don't know what they want
but key point,
women's biology
tells them what they definitely don't want.
First, let's look at
the two biggest reasons
women lie when not interested.
One, you're a good guy.
When a good guy like you
who seems to have all the traits
she thinks she wants
but her biology is saying
and not this guy,
then she may automatically
and even unconsciously resort to fibbing.
Now, she knows she's fibbing
but it just automatically happens
to save your feelings.
Because if she's a decent person
she doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
Only emotionally damaged women
get their kicks by hurting men.
Is that the kind of woman you're looking for? No.
This brings us to the other big reason
women lie when not interested in you.
Tip, other guys
aren't always such good men.
Women especially the more attractive women
get approached a lot more
by guys who are overly aggressive
and often narcissistic
or even psychopathic,
guys who don't take rejection graciously.
What's a woman's primary need?
Right, to feel safe.
Some men have made her feel
unsafe to be honest.
Even some nice guys
who actually build up the courage
to finally approach a woman
when they hear the truth of
I'm not attracted to you
don't always take it so well
because ego gets involved in pride.
Be honest have you ever heard those words?
Well, as much as the truth can be useful
it also hurts and men have feelings too.
So, when you can understand the truth
behind the reason why
women lie when not interested
then one of two things happens.
Key point, you realize
that either she's not the right one for you
or you're the wrong one for her
because of biology.
No matter what the world is trying to tell you
men and women are different.
For good women the keepers
it's not as much about the body God gave you,
but how well you take care of your body
and how you present yourself to the world.
And either way,
the sooner you find out how she really feels
the better you are
because then you won't be wasting time
on a time waster,
which finally brings us to
the top three lies women tell
when not interested in a man.
Number two and number three apply
or can apply even if you're already dating.
The first of the top three lies
women tell men when not interested
in you specifically
and many of you have heard this one.
I have a boyfriend
or I'm seeing someone.
Truth, she doesn't have a boyfriend.
Okay, so maybe she does have a boyfriend
but if she's in the club at closing
then things aren't so hot at home
and she's probably not worth it anyway.
Keepers don't go fishing
when they got king Salmon at home.
In fact, keepers don't go fishing
even if they got what they think is a guppy at home.
Keepers don't cheat
they make a clean sweep.
But if she is single
and she tells you she's seeing someone
then it's more likely
she's just not that into you.
Again, stick with me because I'm going to tell you
how to find out the truth
and what to do about it.
But first, we're going to look at the next
of the three lies
women tell men when not interested.
Lie number two,
I'm not ready for a relationship right now.
Truth, she's not interested in a relationship
with you right now
or potentially ever.
This is a classic excuse women use
when they're not interested in you.
And yes, sometimes
she might not be ready
for a relationship right now
because of various reasons.
Heavy class schedule,
work, family, health issues,
death in the family.
There was a time in my life when
almost all of these things were happening at the same time
and I absolutely did not have
the mental emotional or physical capacity
to entertain dating never mind even a relationship.
So, don't be too discouraged
because sometimes it isn't going to be about you
and you're better off to think that anyway.
But also, sometimes
when she says she's not ready for a relationship
she's fibbing.
Now, I know many of you
have heard these next five words
from women who are not interested
even if you've already started dating.
Three, I just want to be friends
or I just see you as a friend.
Truth, you don't make her wet, ouch!
I know.
This is another classic example
of a fib women will tell
when not interested in you.
Unless she's going through a personal hail storm
like I was and even sometimes then you don't
or you no longer turn her on.
It's not always the end of the world
to be friends with a woman
unless you can't shake
your romantic or sexual interest in her.
And I've talked about that in other videos
about the friend zone.
But if that's the case
and you're pretending to be her friend
while really orbiting hoping for something else
well you're actually fibbing to yourself
as much as to her.
This is a good example
of how scary and complicated
truth-telling can be.
Because if you tell her
the truth about your feelings
she may not want to even be your friend,
but the truth will set you free my friend,
your truth and hers.
So, let's look at how to find the truth
in these three lies.
Let's unravel the lies.
First, and foremost
you want to trust your gut and your instinct
and look for more non-verbal cues.
Here's how to decode
and unravel the lies you've been told.
Lie number one,
I have a boyfriend or I'm seeing someone.
If she says she's seeing someone
there are two ways to find out the truth.
Number one, be bold
and come right out and ask her
do you really have a boyfriend
or am I just coming across as way too creepy?
Now, if you say that playfully
it's going to come across a lot better.
That bears repeating
you have to say this in a confident
yet playful way
or you will come across as creepy or needy.
Any other way to find out if she's telling the truth
is number two, ask her about how they met
and what attracted her to him?
If she doesn't really have a boyfriend
or is just simply not interested in you
for whatever reason
she will probably try to come up with a story
or find a reason to excuse herself.
And if she does come up with a story
no matter how lame it might seem
well, just trust that it's a true story
and she's a no-go.
Now, remember you're not trying to catch her in a fib
so you can berate her or make her feel bad.
That will never encourage her
to like you more.
Just like you wouldn't want
someone doing that to you.
But if you talk to her about her relationship
then you'll learn one of two things.
One, what someone like her
is actually attracted to
or she'll enjoy talking with you
won't feel pressured
and she may actually reveal number two,
she doesn't actually have a boyfriend.
Which is a sign
she's put you in the safe zone,
not the friend zone at least not yet.
Key point, if a woman
is looking for a long-term relationship
even if she is physically attracted to you
even if initially she is physically attracted to you
it takes more than that
to make her feel safe potentially
pursuing a relationship with you.
Because her biology has other factors
that need to be in alignment
for her to feel safe.
Let's decode lie number two,
I'm not ready for a relationship right now.
Ask her open-ended questions about her life
and her future plans
to gauge where she's really at
in terms of commitment,
not to you but to a relationship in general.
If she plans to finish school
and then travel abroad for a year
or she's got a lot of stuff on her plate right now,
then she might not be ready for a relationship.
But if she's already settled
in a community and in her life,
then it might be more that she's just not
interested in a relationship with you.
Better to know sooner than later
so you can move on.
Key point, no matter how great you are
or how good your game is
you can't get them all,
no man can.
Now, what about the lie
I just want to be friends.
Whether she feels this way right now
or potentially forever after
this one you're going to actually have
to treat at face value.
Even if I'm in a relationship Anna?
Yes, unless you're already a couple
and she's going through a traumatic experience
then just be supportive but give her space
and focus on improving your own life.
Again, if you're not in a relationship
you could be bold and straight up ask her
do you think that you would ever
consider being in a relationship with me?
It's more about how you say it, your mindset,
your frame, than the actual words
that determine if you're simping
or if you're just asking
for what you want in a bold masculine way.
And if she respects that boldness
then it may help you gain some clarity
about how she truly feels
and find out if there actually is
a potential future in her mind.
But key point,
women respect directness and boldness
as long as you're not being needy or begging.
But even if she wants to be honest with you
she may not know why.
And even if you're not desperate
her feelings may never change.
Key point, never, never
wait for a woman to change
her feelings about you.
That's needy behavior
and that's an instant major turn off
whether you've just met her
or you're already dating.
Needy equals dependent
equals mother mode
equals non-arousal mode
equals friend zone.
Instead of focusing on her
focus on self-improvement.
You never know when a new opportunity
for a romantic relationship will present itself.
And by using these suggestions to find out
the top three lies
women tell men when not interested in you,
you'll actually be able to build
stronger connections with women.
And if you want to know how to flirt like a pro
then watch my video six amazing ways
to flirt with any woman
and one thing not to do
or definitely not to overdo
especially if you're the funny guy.