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my name is Bethany welcome to the
podcast hi guys so today I wanted to
talk about oversized clothing and kind
of the secrets of how to make that work
it is something that I just generally am
gravitated towards like I want to wear
very oversized cozy sweaters especially
this time of year but there is a
technique to doing it so that is what I
want to go in today but there is one
thing first that I really want to take
care of business about which is we just
hit 200 thousand here on YouTube and I'm
really excited about that I can't thank
you guys enough for following along to
be honest it hasn't fully hit me yet I
also am like wow you guys are scary but
also I am just very privileged and
honored to be able to have this moment
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contribute more time and resources
energy into it and yeah I'm just excited
to see where this is all going to go
today though for the short term I'm
really excited to be able to talk about
this topic with oversized clothing and
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for me like that
but I am excited to talk about this
topic today of oversized clothing so
let's get started oftentimes whatever is
the most comfortable thing to wear it's
usually the least flattering like I just
wish I could wear pajamas all day or
especially in wintertime I just want to
bundle up under all of my scarves and
hats and and just everything and just
wear chunky sweaters because it's cute
but then I go to take my photo and I'm
like wow do I need to tone this down or
like sort it out and make it work and I
am going to talk a lot about the
structure of things today maybe some
geometry lessons and we're going to kind
of sort this out and make it work for us
with
examples so the first thing that I love
to do is to be able to show some skin
whenever I'm wearing something oversized
so some examples of this if I was to
wear a lovely sweater dress I would want
to get that above the knee and maybe
show a little bit of skin there if I'm
wearing like high boots with it would be
a great example but then on a much
simpler scale something like I'm wearing
right now is a button-down it's an
oxford shirt and for those of you can't
see it it's something that is blue and
I'm wearing it like with three buttons
unbuttoned so about three more or less
and then the sleeves I'm just kind of
rolling down but they're not something
that I'm doing the the j.crew roll of my
sleeves I'm actually just like folding
it down once leaving it unbuttoned and
then that exposes a lot of my jewelry
and gives a better idea of my actual
figure compared to what is more from B
on top so when you're a petite it's
quite hard to be able to find things
that actually fit like this is an oxford
shirt that to most people it would not
be oversized but when you're petite it's
very hard to find anything that isn't
oversized so I want to kind of talk
about how to make that work for those of
you who don't know my new podcast I'm
titling only looking up because I am 5
foot 1 I look up at everybody in
everything and in fact it's very hard
whenever I try to clean my house because
then I'm like oh my gosh like there's a
whole extra house above that I can't
even see and so like I don't even know
what's up in my house right now like I'm
not even gonna talk about it but it is
something that I like I have to go on
ladders and stuff to be able to actually
clean my house and so yeah when it comes
to clothing it's almost impossible like
I I want to wear an oversized shirt I
have to go to certain measures to be
able to make it work so that's what I'm
doing today kind of like a more of an
undone look and it's also important
whenever you wear and a button-down
shirt that's oversized is to kind of
fold down this collar a little bit and
make that kind of shine don't don't
leave it up like this right that would
give it completely like more off
see look that's not what I'm going for
today so the thing that I want to do to
whenever I'm talking about showing skin
is if it's pants I want to show my ankle
by having cropped pants if they're
oversized and that will expose the fact
that my legs are skinnier than they look
when they're in very oversized or baggy
pants and there's different ways that
you can do this so many different ways
come to mind
but that is really just the key it's to
showing skin that you feel comfortable
with showing and you know I think
confidence is a part of that like you
don't have to like if you don't feel
comfortable I'm binding this like that
far like you could do things with your
arms like there's different ways to make
that work for your own like comfort
level another perk to being able to
button down your shirt though is that
it's going to give you more of a v-neck
top which will like I've said before
lengthen your torso if that's something
that you're looking for to do or if you
just want to look taller in general that
is one of my favorite things to do is a
v-neck looks best on any body shape like
v-neck is versatile it's something that
will work on anybody so definitely try
it out and make it work for you and
maybe if you're not wearing an actual
v-neck this is something that you could
do with button-downs another tip that I
have so this is number two is to wear a
belt or cinch your clothing at the waist
and this is something again I talk about
all the time this is something that I
incorporate into any outfit whether it
is oversized or not but it is important
to be able to kind of not drown in
oversized clothing and shirts and
sweaters so whenever you can just take a
belt or maybe your cardigan already
comes with a fabric belt then cinch
there and I know that sometimes people
don't want to draw attention to their
midsection it depends on your body style
I work with a pear-shaped body style and
you know I can only talk so much on
other body styles I'm not an expert in
that I'm only an expert in my own body
but one thing that I know that other
people like to do who don't want to draw
attention there is they will just bring
up the
felt more in between like boobs and
tummy and what that's gonna do is
actually lengthen from where that belt
is all the way down to where your
clothing stops this is something that I
tried the other day too with my dress I
was just wearing a dress that came maybe
mid thigh and what I did is I put about
right in my midsection like right my
smallest point which is always my tip
but when it comes to dresses or
something that you want to lengthen then
moving that belt up a little bit is
something that lengthens your dress or
your your cardigan your sweater whatever
it is if you want that line to be
lengthened if you don't want to draw
attention to your midsection or if this
is just what you want to do to look
taller and less frumpy and oversized
clothing that's what I would say to do
is to bring that that belt or whatever
it is that you're cinching with bring
that up a little bit maybe it's a wrap
shirt like a wrap sweater that would
that would be another example I'll go
into this a little bit later but another
thing that you could do is if you're
wearing a skirt to just make that
high-waisted and that would be a similar
example of how you can take something
like a oversized sweater and just tuck
that in and make it work for your skirt
so in essence you're cinching at the
waist in that point my next tip is
wearing oversized clothing that has
structure to it so let's talk about that
geometry lesson when you're talking
about oversized clothing
imagine you being a you know a line
essentially that's your body now add a
circle to it that is what most oversized
sweaters look like but if you're talking
an oversized blazer you're talking more
of a rectangle or square to adding that
on top of that that line that your body
is and so what that's gonna do
regardless of however you see yourself
and how you're working with your own
body style is an ad structure so that's
why Blazers are so cool right now and
why a lot of people are wearing
oversized Blazers is because it gives
you structure to a look that otherwise
wouldn't be
and I'll go into a little bit more about
how to make Blazers work but in essence
when you're talking oversize you want
squares not circles and so yeah that
would be an awesome way to be able to do
that again even a belt is a little bit
more of a straight line in geometry it's
it's not necessarily something round it
can it can create two circles but
there's ways that you can do that as far
as you know tucking in your shirt and it
depends on the outfit but that would be
my general rule is look for maybe a
shirt that has structure to the
shoulders or has straight lines in its
cut that's one thing that I look for
whenever I get a jacket is something
that has straight lines I want to have a
minimal jacket like I don't want
something with lots of you know
different directions and just weird
pleats and stuff like I want something
that is actually cut minimally and has
that straight square design to it I've
even seen some people wear a belt with
their blazer and what that's going to do
is it'll cinch it the way so you're not
drowning in your blazer and also talking
about geometry that's a little bit more
of like having a an inverted triangle at
the top and that's another very slimming
and slenderizing way to wear an
oversized outfit and so if we're talking
about geometry that's what you want is
lines you want you want direction you
want structure as far as squares also
triangles but you don't want circles so
much okay moving on to my next tip which
is about contrast so let's talk about
contrast there are a couple ways to do
this the first way is if you're thinking
about adding a loose top with loose
pants that would be in most cases a bit
much unless you're tucking in the top
into the pants and and showing skin but
what I'd rather recommend is adding a
loose top or bottom with a tight top or
bottom so you only want to limit
yourself to one piece of oversized
clothing in your outfit you don't want
to have everything oversized
and at the at the concern that I have
about scaring anyone away from this
podcast I will keep this next point
brief but you don't want to look like a
clown I know clowns really freak people
out but for one moment let's just talk
about this because clowns wear oversized
tops and then they were really bulky
oversized pants and this is to look
weird and funny and interesting and kind
of freaky you don't want to look weird
funny interesting freaky in your outfit
like that is not chic I talked a little
bit about circus chic in my last video
but honestly it's not the way to wear
oversized clothing you don't want to go
with the clown look so what you should
do instead is to kind of work with
contrast so I like to keep oversized
pieces at a minimum you you want to wear
tight pants when you're wearing an
oversized shirt
you could wear even leggings with a
dress and that would be a way to have an
oversized dress but then showing more
like tight fitting pieces that are more
true to your actual form and it's just a
way to wear an oversized piece that is
naturally frumpy but then making it
something that works for for your body
and looking much more chic and put
together another note about contrast is
that you could mix masculine with
feminine I love this juxtaposition it's
so nice and it's something that a lot of
French women do whose names I cannot
pronounce I swear I can't pronounce
anything in French I even took lessons
online for French but I gotta give up i
I just butcher it and so I'm not going
to say like names but all of them say
when they're like looking at their
closet they have a mix of feminine and
masculine pieces though a very feminine
tops they'll wear heels but the the top
like if you're going to wear a jacket in
essence it's going to be something
that's more from a menswear line you
could actually wear your guys shirt if
you wanted to so this
is what I kind of am thinking when it
comes to masculine and feminine I wanted
to look like I went to bed in a
beautiful lace cami and then I needed to
get the paper outside so I put on Zach's
coat real quick and that's a
juxtaposition of how that makes that
look effortless and chic and maybe a
little bit of mystery to your outfit and
much more intentional event otherwise if
I would have gone all feminine with all
the lace head-to-toe or like all
masculine which could be very hard to
pull off like menswear if you wear it
head to toe it really requires a lot of
attention to these other steps like
wearing a belt or showing more skin or
having structure so another way that you
could contrast the masculine and
feminine look when it comes to oversized
clothing is through color scheme so a
more feminine piece might have something
that is a little bit different than the
masculine piece so the masculine piece
might be a blazer with like seventies
earth tones to it and that would be a
way to mix an oversized piece with
something that's more feminine so if you
want to wear a loud color I would have a
lot of struggles trying to incorporate
that into my outfit for a masculine
piece I would try to limit the color to
more of the feminine or tight-fitting
pieces and then kind of try to tone it
down when it a piece is very big on me
or oversized for an example of this I
would say that I would not wear this
shirt that's kind of oversized on me in
a very loud color because that's going
to make the piece look even like bigger
on me so what instead I'm doing is even
though this is blue and I don't wear
like a ton of blue it's more pale and
that's the perfect example but then if I
was going for that look of having a silk
cami I might do either like a pink or if
I was really daring I would do pink
before that and then on top I would wear
something that's like a brown or like a
seventies color that is more understated
and a bit more masculine and that's kind
of how I would play with it but the list
goes on I just would not wear
a giant blazer that's bright yellow and
then something understated and
tight-fitting underneath I think that
that that's gonna draw more attention to
the oversized piece and make me look
just absolutely tiny underneath it to
the point where it it didn't look
intentional this leads me to my next tip
which is that when you're going
oversized it can stunt you visually so
whenever I go to wear a really cute
oversized sweater and I go to take my
photo and I'm wearing flat it never
helps me look taller and if that's
something that you're going for if
you're trying to look a little bit less
from be a little bit more put together
more chic then these tips for looking
great in an oversized outfit really help
and one thing that can definitely help
with this and add to more of a feminine
vibe is by wearing heels and so the ways
that I like to wear heels in the
wintertime is with boots I have other
shoes in my closet right now but I only
wear boots these days because it's cold
and I just want a more winter look when
I'm wearing heavy jackets and stuff so I
like to wear boots that have maybe a bit
of a feminine touch to them sometimes
like my studs on boots are a perfect
example where they just are they they
may have just beautiful laces they go
all the way the top they are tight on my
feet so they don't look like too bulky
or anything and then they've got just
really cool details on them as well with
gold and stuff so really fun pair of
sazon boots I can link you guys to but
then on the other hand sometimes I even
wear my Doc Martens and that can be a
challenge in its own like they have a
heel to them because they're just
massive and I'm obviously like two
inches taller when I wear my Doc Martens
but then I have to wear something very
much of a contrast or something that
shows off my body my actual body size
when I wear that like for example when I
wear my Doc Martens I'm gonna wear
something that is a long black dress and
I'm not gonna add too much of like a
bulky layer on
off of that that's kind of going off in
a different direction my point is that
you want to add literal height with
heels when you are going over size with
your outfit one thing too about having
heels in the summertime is I don't wear
stilettos ever I like to have some sort
of like structure to my heel something
that gives me more stability where I'm
not walking around like a newly born
calf because I just want to be able to
have less pressure on my feet and I just
like the look of this and another way
that you can add height to an oversized
look I've talked a lot about having
something oversized on top but another
way that you can add oversized an
oversized look to the bottoms is by
having a tiger fitting shirt with
oversized pants that in my preference
are high-rise and then making your pants
not cropped but actually reaching the
floor and hiding your shoes they
shouldn't grace the floor to the point
where the pants are buckling at the
bottom and making you look shorter but
by just skimming the ground it can make
you look like you're wearing stilts and
that's what a lot of people going back
to the circus do when they want someone
to look really tall and slim they're
wearing stilts half the time and they
just hide the shoes and that gives a
really solid beautiful line from where
your pants start at the waist all the
way down to the ground and you can do
that with an oversized look like I've
been experimenting with flares lately
and so that's what I'm doing with that I
don't let them buckle like they would on
a scooby-doo character but I do like to
have just that solid line that goes from
top to bottom and then on the top with
that I would wear something that's
tight-fitting so that if you go to back
to the Scooby Doo reference Shaggy would
probably wear a giant like seventies
shirt with these boot cut or flare
whatever bell bottom jeans and that
would just look ridiculous like if you
are actually wearing that today so those
are my tips for looking really great as
far
as like your your Footwear is concerns
just be sure to add height whenever
you're doing that and then that kind of
brings me to my final point which I've
mentioned here and there and you guys
should know it by now but wearing
high-waisted pants is something that
would really help you if you want to
have something oversized on top even if
you wore oversized pants this could be
something that benefits you because it
goes back to adding that line that
height to your overall look for your
pants that's gonna make you look taller
that's gonna make you not look like
you're drowning in fabric and overall it
would be really nice to be able to tuck
in your top and just wet that if it's an
oversized shirt and then just letting
that kind of drape and billow and then
just kind of highlighting the fact that
the shirt is ironically bigger than what
you actually are and so those are ways
that I think about my clothes and how I
just kind of make an oversized look work
for me it's a lot there's a lot of tips
but in essence I'm trying to show a
little bit of skin I'm wearing a belt
I'm cinching at my waist any time I wear
oversized clothing it's gonna have
structure to it so I'm thinking in terms
of squares and triangles not like
circles and it's really important to be
able to think about just the geometry
and structure there as well as contrast
so either masculine and feminine or you
could do the loose plus tight never more
than one piece of loose clothing on an
outfit that's oversized and then also
just wearing heels and my golden rule of
wearing high-waisted and this goes to
skirts - don't forget about skirts where
if you want to like tuck in your top
into something that's a high-waisted
beautiful skirt it can give you such a
chic like mysterious vibe that is so
pretty and PS if you have a short torso
and you don't want to stunt your torso
at all then there's a couple of things
you can do which is get a mid rise pant
or else get something like this where
you are opening up that v-neck and that
would be so important to be able to
lengthen your torso and I will leave you
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