Yeah, because for all of the-- you're frozen in the moment.
Like, when this is actually happening to you,
and you're getting this piece of information,
and you're like, OK now what's the next step.
And I'm an over-thinker anyways.
You really need somebody who's going
to be thinking outside the box.
You need somebody who's going to be there to complete
your sentences, who's going to ask all of the right questions,
especially in the moment when you're not doing that.
And so, there are so many people who
have just these random pieces of information.
You're trying to put a puzzle together,
and you don't have all the pieces.
I think the most unfortunate part
for me out of this entire situation is that racism is--
I am a, I am a victim of racism.
That's obvious, right?
It looks different.
And in this small town in Alabama,
it doesn't look much different today than it did in 1987.
That's reality.
I mean, it's sad, but it's very true.
I mean, we try to mask.
We try to cover it.
And when I say we, I'm talking about society.
Like, it's not there, but it's real.
I mean, that's just to me, bringing
all those things to the forefront,
more so than anything else.
I mean, you went down there to identify and try
to get information as to who your father was,
and you unmasked a whole other factor of what potentially
could have happened to him.
Yeah.
So I feel like we have a lot to process at this moment.
I mean, we have all of the information from the Democrat.
Did you-- was it a beneficial factor of going?
It was.
I'm so glad that we went.
Tell me what you need from me, and I'll support you.
So when I continue the search, you're
saying you want to be involved?
You really asked me that question.
Yeah, babe.
Because I know it's different.
Like usually, I'm the one that's like, let's do all the work,
let's do all these things, ask all these questions.
Like, in these moments, it's like you need someone
to think like that for you.
You're still in the research mode, then, for sure,
once you get to the execution mode of saying,
hey, these are people that we're going to talk to, 100%.
I'll be there to support 100%.
But if you're still researching, and you're going through
and you're fact finding, I definitely
won't have to be there.
But it's me.
I know it's you, babe.
That's why I say, I will be there to support you.
If it was somebody else, I'd probably be like, good luck.
Let me know how it goes.
Would it be different if we had a baby?
What do you mean, would it be different if we had a baby?
I would still be like, hey baby, you're my wife.
I support you.
We're good.
You wouldn't want to-- you wouldn't want
me to have closure here?
Baby you know who your husband is inside.
You know who the baby's father is going to be on this side.
So at the end of the day--
I didn't say I was going to have sex with somebody--
How are you?
What was it like?
I don't understand.
Like, it's no issues there.
So if we had a kid, do I want to say
I want to know who the potential grandfather would be?
I know who that is.
I know who the great grandparents would be.
And I love [INAUDIBLE].
So my thing is, that's not a concern.
I, mean it's more so the fact of, are you good?
And that's where the buck stops.
Like, if you're OK, I'm totally 100% fine.
If you need to find more details, guess what?
We're going to continue to turn stones over, so.
You call that.
You make that shot.
At the end of the day, I'm just there to support you.
And if you miss, pass it back to you so you can shoot it here.
I'll say this.
I'm OK.
And I'm always going to be OK.
But there is a situation where I don't
have answers to something.
And I feel like I am owed those answers.
And I feel like it shouldn't be so damn
hard for people to get answers.
No, it shouldn't be.
Especially for individuals to know the answers.
That's my biggest thing.
They can give me enough time, I might
be changing some policies.
Because for sure there should be a genetic test that exists
already in place that people should have
to take if you're going to have a closed adoption
and not have people--
not allow people access to their health records.
That's visionary.
That's a game changer.
Understood.
WOMAN: Yeah, I'm just saying.
Well let's stay the course until.
And I'm really glad that Mel was there to support me.
I really am.
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