recently I've been pushing myself to go
to parties even when I have to go
I know I know wanting to go to a party
alone is like someone who willingly
walks the plank ah I hope you are
prepared to meet your watery grave
watery grave long do you think like I'm
gonna meet my husband down there what no
one is the ocean down there well you're
just gonna die
hi DK low like maybe there's a mer man
and he's like really cute and he gives
me mouth-to-mouth and drags me to a rock
and there's like a really nice long
conversation that's definitely not gonna
happen the only thing you're gonna meet
down there is death I mean certain
painful suffering filled damn you didn't
help it looks cute we're gonna throw
dirt okay I'm just gonna do it I'm just
gonna do it my insane I know usually I
am the kind of person hovering at the
snack table
you know Asian parties always have food
real food like none of this white people
menagerie of mediocrity
great party such a such an array of
things I never got or I'm chillin with
the house pet well it's been seven
minutes so I guess it's pumpkin time
it's pumpkin time goodbye it was made to
me because the anxiety of standing at a
party alone looking at the groups of
people all talking and enjoying
themselves when you don't know a single
soul at the social encounter so you're
just forced to stare at your phone where
you have no messages but you can pretend
that you're too immersed in Twitter to
have time to talk to anyone no
unsubscribe I would rather be at home in
bed but not anymore
this is the crucial moment this right
here is the prime time sports ball
reference where you have to make it or
break it do the thing to be the champion
of the other thing if you are similarly
introverted like myself this will be one
of the hardest things you ever have to
do hi I'm Anna I don't really know
anyone here so I thought I'd introduce
myself how do you guys all know each
other I know it's gross right the idea
of having to put yourself on the line
like that is terrifying but I now follow
one simple and easy rule to have a
fulfilling solo party night and that
rule is drum roll children who genuinely
interested in getting to know someone
anyone just one person so last Friday I
went to three parties alone oh my god I
know and I vowed that at each one I
would learn just one thing about one
person and be actually interested in
hearing what they had to say and you
know what just by asking people
questions about themselves people love
talking about themselves but if you do
it with genuine curiosity you will have
such great conversations dude you don't
know about Ida Lewis let me tell you all
about her she was an American lighthouse
keeper who gained fame in the late 1800s
for all of these heroic rescues dude she
sounds so cool I don't know if my
girlfriend and I were long-distance for
like the yeah and now that we're finally
in the same town I feel like she's self
sabotaging the relationship
oh yeah that's pretty rough why do you
think that is yeah that's why vehicles
allergies are worse every year because
we are only planting male trees there's
no female trees to soak up the pollen
Wow
are you a tree scientist
is there even such a thing I challenge
you to try it go to a party alone
introduce yourself ask questions be
curious let me know how it goes
so like what are we hello JK I don't
really care I'm Anna Akana and thank you
to Squarespace for sponsoring today's
video Squarespace has an all-in-one
platform to build a beautiful online
presence and party to run your business
complete with marketing tools and
analytics to have your website or online
store be the best it can be
raise the roof for all of you who love
to create audio content you can use
audio blocks which allows you to embed
audio on your site and tag the audio for
iTunes when your audio block is placed
in a blog and you can have multiple
contributors receive selective access to
your site's website manager and do not
worry you own all the content that you
put on Squarespace is platform plus they
offer one-click data portability you can
go to Squarespace comm for a free trial
and whenever you're ready to launch go
to Squarespace comm / ana to save 10%
off your first purchase of a website or
domain Squarespace
[Music]