the more times you can actually get in front of and interact with women who are equally invested
and make equal amounts of effort to you you're going to have more rewarding dating experiences
so i know how annoying it is when you see a woman that you're attracted to
online but she has written absolutely nothing in her online dating profile i'm dating coach
and TED speaker Hayley Quinn and in this short video i'm going to tell you three strategies or
ideas about how you can creatively message women online who don't have an online dating profile
and of course just for the women out there if you happen to have stumbled across this video
it's really good to write a profile not only because it shows effort towards the dating process
but also then it's a really good indicator for you which guys have actually read
your profile when you receive their messages okay so our first strategy is all about prompting her
to invest in the conversation with you and to tell you something about herself
the first part of this is you want to do something to acknowledge the fact that she hasn't written
a profile so you can make a little comment like that's a very mysterious profile there
showing that you've noticed the lack of profile is actually good because obviously it's preferential
for a woman to have written a profile so you want to show that your self-esteem is really
in the right place by drawing attention to that in a way that's playful and that isn't critical
you then want to follow this up with a question to her that prompts her to share some information
with you so a fun way of saying this is you could say so what's one thing i'd have never guessed
about you from your profile so by phrasing the question this way it sets up a fun and
playful challenge where she has to come up with something creative or interesting that she's doing
to share with you this also positions you as the kind of guy who has standards now that is
so important in the world of dating of course you should be thinking i really like her pictures but
if she doesn't actually send me a really good message here i'd probably lose interest in her
so by asking her to share something that's interesting something you would never have guessed
about her that sets up a little challenge for her to complete and of course if she does share that
information with you that's a really good sign if of course she writes back i don't know or can't
think of anything right now you would probably want to end the conversation there if she does
send you that piece of information it's a really good sign for your continuing of the conversation
just a quick note on this before i move on to my next strategy it's really important that you get
the phrasing right if you say tell me something about yourself it can sound a little bit like a
psychotherapist so you want to make sure that when you ask questions like this that it is
definitely playful and that she couldn't interpret it in another way so the second strategy is kind
of a more risky and interesting and daring version of the first strategy so we have a saying in the
world of dating coaches and that is sometimes some risk equals some reward so sometimes by
saying something's a little bit more playful for the people it does connect with who get that
sense of humor it's gonna really vibe and create a strong spark at the start of your interactions so
again in this instance you might want to start off by acknowledging the fact that she hasn't written
anything in her profile by saying that phrase again mysterious profile there then um you can say
dot dot dot does this mean i get to make things up about you question mark so this is quite teasing
it's saying like do i have free license to make up stuff about you now when you say to someone
the word you it really hooks them in and makes them feel prompted to respond it's like almost
like you're a reporter and you're writing a story about them and you're asking them for comment like
are they going to actually say no absolutely not i don't i deny that or are they going to say yeah
let's see what you have either way it could set up for a really playful exchange and the thing
with online dating messages is as i'm sure you've experienced they can get a little bit boring from
time to time so if you can set yourself up to have a more playful and creative exchange
where perhaps you're suddenly imagining all these like weird hobbies that she has or things that she
does immediately the conversation is going to be radically different from the other guys that she's
speaking to which should only help you to stand out more and for her to feel that attraction to
you okay so the third strategy is to comment on something from her pictures now often pictures
will tell a lot about somebody's life and this is kind of a solid messaging strategy for you to use
on a first message and it's particularly helpful if she hasn't written a profile now you do want to
be careful though that you don't then default to boring questions so say you notice there's
a picture of her and she's clearly on holiday in a destination that you think you might recognize
instead of going for the boring old so i see you like travel then instead we want to phrase that
in a more playful way so you could say i'm i don't know if i'd play this for the million dollar
question but if i had to guess i think you're on that picture of you as a you're on holiday in xyz
you could also if you want make a playful guess about where she's on holiday so instead of saying
where was that picture taken you could say um i could be totally wrong here but i bet you're the
kind of person that packs a massive suitcase or i bet you're the kind of person that travels super
light so by making an assumption which is a guess about how she would interact and how she would
lead her life again it's quite a strong prompt for her to want to comment on that she's going to want
to confirm or deny whether what you've guessed is right or wrong it also shows some creativity
and sort of sets you up to have that playful teasing banter going back and forth so if you've
liked some of the messaging strategies we've spoken about so far i'd really love it if you
checked out some of my other videos on messaging i think it's such an important communication tool so
if that's something you're interested in please hit subscribe check out the other videos
on my channel and if you want to get even more information head to haleyquinn.com/unite the link
is below this video so i've also wanted to add in a quick bonus strategy and this is a controversial
one but something that i think is really important especially for any guys out there that are
watching and that is sometimes you can simply choose to filter women out who haven't written
a profile so instead of thinking wow i'm really attracted to her pictures god she hasn't written
anything what can i say to impress her instead of going down that rabbit hole you can instead think
actually i really need to connect with women who are as invested in this whole process of dating
and as ready to meet me as i am to meet them so because of that even if her pictures are really
nice if she hasn't written a profile or she's written one but doesn't have any personality
or if i'm messaging her and she just replies lol then you know what i'm actually going to leave it
and that you'll be surprised is actually an amazing strategy in itself because
the more times you can actually get in front of and interact with women who are equally invested
and make equal amounts of effort to you you're going to have more rewarding dating experiences