Most of our lives feel like complete chaos nowadays.
We go from one thing to the next and a lot of times we don't even know what it is that
was doing, but I think that the worst part about our lives nowadays is that we don't
really have any rules for life.
Sometimes it can be hard to tell what is right or wrong and rules can really help with that.
Today in this video, I will tell you about Jordan Petersons rules for life and I believe that
if we all follow these rules we will have a much better and sort out life.
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Jordan Peterson is a clinical psychologist and he has a lot of clinical experience in
dealing with people and helping them fix their problems and if you have seen any of his videos
on YouTube or the numerous podcasts that he has done you would know that he is an extremely
intelligent and capable man and his ideas are truly life-changing for those who pay
attention to him so in this video I will give you a brief overview of his twelve rules for
life and I highly recommend you buy his book after watching this video.
lets look at this rules.
Rule 1: Stand Up Straight With Your Shoulders Back
This rule is very straightforward and there have been multiple studies that have shown
that just correcting your posture increases your confidence and self-esteem.
but Jordan Peterson gives us a pretty interesting take on this idea.
He talks about lobsters and how when they win in a fight they stretch out and make themselves
look bigger and a chemical called serotonin.
Also called happiness hormone.
His release in their body when they lose a fight they become smaller and their serotonin
levels go down.
so lobsters pretty much put themselves in a hierarchy and the lobster that wins most
of the fights and has the best posture becomes the top lobster and the lobster with the worst
posture becomes the bottom lobster now of course our society isn't as simple
as lobsters but some of the same brain circuits that govern the lobsters behavior also govern
our behaviors this means that if you stand up straight with your shoulders back you will
feel better and in a way you will feel like the top lobster other people will treat you
in a better way and of course your self-esteem will also increase
Rule 2: Treat Yourself Like Someone You Are Responsible for Helping
İn my opinion if you pay attention to this rule close it contains your life.
Basically what usually happens is that we are very kind to the people we love and we
do whatever it is necessary to keep them happy.
For example, if you love your children you will not let them eat too much junk food or
if you love your husband or wife you might force them to exercise even if they don't
want to just so they keep their heart healthy.
But most of us are not that kind to ourselves have you ever seen how far a guy or a girl
goes to just impress someone that they like.
People move mountains for the people that they love and yet they treat themselves very poorly.
imagine how different your life would look if you treated yourself with the same amount
of love and this doesn't mean only doing things to please yourself this also means doing things
that you know that are good for you.
İf you love someone and they need to lose weight you would stop them from eating a doughnut
well if you love yourself and you're trying to lose weight you should also stop yourself
from eating a doughnut.
Rule 3: Make Friends with People Who Want the Best For You
This is something that is very obvious but most of us get wrong.
The people you surround yourself with will determine how you feel about yourself.
İf you have toxic friends people who don't want the best for you then you’re not going
to go very far.
A good example of bad friends is that when you accomplish something big let's say you
get a promotion at work and you go to your friends to tell them about it.
İnstead of being happy for you they say something like oh it is not like you're making that
much money anyway or they'll say something like well that won't really change your life.
You should surround yourself with people who genuinely want the best for you and this means
that even if you're doing something the wrong they'll correct you and if you're winning
in life and doing something right they'll be happy for you
Rule 4: Compare Yourself to Who You Were Yesterday, Not Who Someone Else is Today
Most of us get caught up in comparing ourselves with other people and as a result of this,
we are never happy.
We think oh that guy got better grades than me or all of this guy is more intelligent
than me or this guy makes more money than me.
you have to realize there has never been a human being on earth exactly the same as you.
Every single human being has had a different life.
So then how can you expect to have the same outcome as them and how can you compare yourself
to them.
The only person you should compare yourself to is the person who you were yesterday.
İf you are always improving and getting even slightly better than you were yesterday then
you are on the right track and by the way if you love learning about ways to improve yourself.
Rule 5: Do Not Let Your Children Do Anything that Makes You Dislike Them
Now this is a rule for parents and since I'm not a parent I won't get much into this.
All Jordan talks about in this rule is the fact that you should know how to parent your
children in an effective way and make sure that you don't let them do anything that makes younot like them.
İf you don't like the fact that your child starts screaming.
İf he doesn't have his iPad talk to him about it teach him how to be disciplined now I cannot
give you parenting advice but all Jordan PETERSON says is that you should not let this slide.
Because if there is something that makes you not like them then you can be very sure that
the same things are going to be the things that are going to bother other people and
that can cause a lot of problems for your children.
Rule 6: Set Your House in Perfect Order Before You Criticize the World
I can't ignore the fact that the whole society really needs this rule right now :)
e all find something to blame for all the problems of our lives.
This is not more than just an excuse to put pressure on ourselves.
He has been complaining that the world around him has been unfair to him, that the world
is full of evil People and that he is a bad place.
But think about it this way what gives you the right to criticize the world for ruining
your life if you haven't done everything you can to fix your life if you haven't put in
the effort to make your life better then how can you expect the world to fix everything
for you.
if you don't like your life right now ask yourself what is it that you can do on your
own that can make your life better stop thinking you're better than everyone else in this world
and actually try to make a difference in your own life at least try to do it for a week
a month before you say something bad about the world
Rule 7: Pursue What is Meaningful (Not What is Expedient)
This is something that most of us are guilty of.
We usually try to do the easy thing the thing that will give us the quickest results..
We try to take the work that makes us the most money that gets us the most amount of
Fame etc. but our brains are wired for meaning.
Like Viktor Frankl says in the book ‘man search for meaning our brains our meaning-making. 0:07:18.410,0:07:20.290machines’. machines’.
All the money in the world isn't going to help you if your life is meaningless so always
strive to do things which are meaningful think more long-term instead of just looking for
short-term gratification.
Rule 8: Tell the Truth, or at least Don’t Lie
A society works best when everyone is honest with each other.
İf you are in a relationship and you and your partner don't tell the truth to each
other then that relationship is basically meaningless.
Trust is very important in the human society.
When I go out of my house I trust that everyone out there won't try to kill me and that's
how I'm able to feel safe and continue to be a productive member of society.
İt is all of our duties, to tell the truth as much as possible and sometimes when the
situation is more complicated than that at least try not to lie
Rule 9: Assume that the Person You Are Listening to Might Know Something You Don’t
Now is more important than what you do know most of us to walk around thinking that we
know everything we need to..
But this is a surefire way to stop learning.
The amount of knowledge that exists in this world there is no way that you can know everything
So whenever you're talking to someone assume that that person knows something you don't.
This way you can have a real conversation with that person and actually learn something
from them instead of always trying to defend your ideas
Rule 10: Be Precise in Your Speech.
The more precise you can make your speech the more focus your thoughts are going to be.
İf you're not precise in the way you talk or communicate with people or you're not able
to make a point then you're not going to be successful in society the people who can make
the best arguments and can present the best stories win.
So you definitely need to learn how to be precise in your speech
Rule 11: Do Not Bother Children when they are Skateboarding
A lot of people try to stop children when they are playing especially when they think
that the game that they're playing is dangerous well, of course, you should stop children
from doing something that is actually dangerous.
But sometimes children try to do things that push their limits.
İt just might be that they're curious about it when they all
try to jump to see who jumps the highest.
They're all pushing themselves competing with each other becoming better and spirit of pushing
ourselves doing something that might be slightly dangerous is there amongst all of us don't
try to stop that and other people learn to embrace it that is where people learn to become extraordinary .
Rule 12: Pet a Cat When You Encounter One on the Street
Now this rule is about enjoying the beauty of life.
Sometimes there can be terrible tragedies in life and the suffering can get too much
to bear in those moments. You have to find beauty in the little things about life.
İf a dog wags its tail at you play with him give him something to eat look at the happiness
in the little animals face and learn to be happy yourself, if you're going through rough
times, shorten the time frame don't think about surviving an entire year thinking about
making it through the next month or the next week or day or even the next hour.
When you break it down into time frames that you can manage you can get through things
that you could never have imagined.
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