- You guys have like a secret word
for every type of person based on their emotion,
based on their hair,
that is what I learned today.
(upbeat music)
Hey I'm Jeff, and I identify as a gay man.
- Hi, my name's Tom,
I identify as a gay man.
- Hi, I am Sam, I identify as gay,
and gender queer.
And today I am going to be guessing
some lesbian slang.
- I'd say I know more about
lesbian culture and slang than
a heterosexual male.
I don't think that's a very high bar.
- Portably not the ins and outs
that I probably should know
as a member of the LGBT community.
- Knowing lesbians doesn't necessarily
mean you know the slang,
because that's not your life.
I'm not sure, I literally am not sure.
- "Les" do it.
Sorry, I had to, it's right there.
(upbeat music)
- Gal Pal to me means a girlfriend,
like a friend who is a girl.
- You know like in "Friends" when she's like Gal Pal,
Rachel Green, like I've heard of that.
But I don't, Gal Pal?
- I think if a lesbian was talking about a friend
I would assume they would just say friend.
So Gal Pal I would assume is maybe like hook-up buddy,
friend with benefits type.
- I don't know if it's any more complex than that.
I'm just gonna go with what I think it is,
which is just a female friend.
(popping)
So it's a phrase that's been used by the media
to maybe soften the appearance of
queer female relationships,
which has now been reclaimed as a joke,
just so as to not offend the readers (laughs)
- Cara Delevingne as well, she's always like,
"Pictured with friend".
- I would have fun with that term too
if it was a secret code word that the media uses,
and then you adopt it as your own,
as an ironic joke.
(popping)
So the phrase is, "Do you listen to Girl in Red?".
There's some sneakiness in this.
- That's got to be some sort of cultural thing,
like an album or a film or something.
- There's an attribute associated with this thing,
so if you listen to Girl in Red,
you are a particular way.
- That's what it is,
it's code for meeting a girl in a bar
and being like "Do you listen to Girl in Red?".
(popping)
- [Jeff] Oh got it,
so yeah, I guess the gay version of that would be
"Are you a friend of Judy?".
- It's like if you ask a straight person
they're just like, "Huh".
But if you ask the right person they're like,
"Yeah, I do".
- [Jeff] L.H.B.
I've no idea.
I'm going to go with lesbian head (bleep).
(laughs)
It's like the head (bleep) in charge,
but of lesbians.
- I'm being honest here, I've got no idea.
Lesbian handbag?
(screeching) (laughs)
I don't know.
Lesbian handbag is a handbag that a lesbian carries,
it's the same as any other handbag,
it just becomes a L.H.B when a queer woman picks it up.
- Does it stand for long haired (bleep)?
Oh okay.
Oh my god, I was one letter out.
- That's ridiculous, you guys have a phrase for that.
Because I assume butch woman mostly have short hair,
how dare she breaks her trope norms and has long hair,
you have to call her out on what she is.
(popping)
I mean to be honest
I feel like I'm a pillow princess sometimes.
I'm like, "Go make me breakfast",
"Cuddle me", "Hold me until I sleep" (laughs).
- Do you know what, I have a random guess
that's probably not right, but I want to say it.
Is it a woman who likes big breasts?
(screeching)
(laughs)
Pillow, soft, big, I don't know (laughs).
- I think a pillow princess is someone
who likes to receive head,
but then not necessarily
reciprocate it as much. (clapping)
I believe that is what this term means.
(popping)
That's where the pillow, like a princess
because you don't have to lift a finger
type thing literally.
- Just bringing the tone down, gays.
(popping)
- [Jeff] B.D.E.
A big (bleep) energy,
I think this is everyone's term, not just a lesbian term.
- Oh no, wait, no, but if it's girls
is it like big dildo energy?
(popping)
- [Jeff] I got cocking on that one,
oh my god, are you guys allowed to say that word?
- Is that not offensive, what's the deal then?
- Nice.
(popping)
- [Sam] The strap, there's an obvious conclusion here.
- Your mind goes immediately to a physical object.
- I have to assume that this is the strap, the strap-on.
- But that seems too obvious.
Maybe the strap is like she's the one,
like she's the strap.
Maybe you're like, "She's the strap for me".
(laughs)
(popping)
That makes way more sense than the one.
- The strap, I like it, it's a confident sounding word.
(popping)
- [Sam] I guess it's not science technology,
engineering and maths.
- In "Clueless" the guy says to Cher,
"Nice stems",
as in nice legs.
So the closest I can guess is leg.
- Like a sis straight woman is a stem,
because she's a straight fem.
That's my best guess, I don't know.
(popping)
- [Jeff] Interesting, stem,
I've never even heard the term stud in a lesbian phrase.
- A porte-manteau of sort.
(popping)
- [Jeff] U-haul, well okay so there's obviously
the stereotype that lesbians go on two dates
and then get a U-haul and move in together.
So I have to think this has something to do with that.
(popping)
I know so many straight couples
who have moved in together right away.
And I've known so many gay guys
that as soon as they're in a relationship
they hang out all the time,
they ditch their friends,
and they like basically move in together,
even if they don't officially move in together.
So I've actually never understood this
stereotype for lesbians.
(popping)
- [Sam] Wow, I like this one.
Cottagecore lesbian.
- Okay, so cottaging in gay male world
is like soliciting anonymous sex in a public space.
- Maybe it's a lesbian that likes to have sex outside,
or in public.
Is that a thing?
She's cottagecore, that sounds wrong,
but that is gonna be my guess.
- Is it someone who's really into
oldy cottagey twee
patterns and stuff like that?
Is it a style, yeah, that's my guess.
(popping)
Yeah, okay, so I got it.
Cottagecore, I like that.
- You just want to run off and live that rural good life
with your gal pal, that's sick.
(popping)
Switch, oh, maybe it's
the equivalent of verse.
- I would have to guess this is verse.
So a girl who tops and bottoms,
or is dominant and sub.
- [Sam] Oh my god, yes, yes.
Wow that was I think maybe the first one I got right, wow.
(popping)
- I think this is a young baby gay,
like a girl that just came out,
brand new to the community.
- Maybe newly out and fresh on the queer scene.
- Fresh off the boat lesbian.
(popping)
Yeah, I think that's quite a common one.
(popping)
- [Jeff] Celesbian.
I'm going to go with a famous lesbian.
- Tracy Chapman, Cara Delevingne.
- Celebrity lesbian.
(popping)
- [Jeff] Hey, no idea who guys had a phrase for that.
(popping)
- [Tom] Urge to merge (laughs).
Things that rhyme sometimes,
there's something about the urge sound
which I'm not sure I enjoy.
- I don't drive, but merging into traffic
I think means to come off a slip road into the main traffic.
That was a straightest thing I've ever said.
So is it something to do with that.
- The urge to merge, do you wanna date,
do you wanna hook-up,
like shall we merge tonight, are you horny?
I'm gonna go with are you horny.
Do you have the urge to merge, are you horny?
(popping)
A huge benefit of queer relationships
is sharing each other's clothes.
So if you sleepover but didn't bring a change of clothes,
you can borrow their shirt.
So, yeah, I like that a lot.
- That's really interesting,
I would never dress like my boyfriend, sorry.
(popping)
- [Tom] Tenderqueer, oh that's cute.
I'm a tenderqueer.
Maybe I'm not, I don't know.
Maybe I should get the definition
before I start branding myself as these things.
- Are they tender about their queerness?
Like they're still in the, no.
Like they're embarrassed that they're gay.
Or maybe, yes, someone that's not quite
comfortable with their queerness is my guess.
(popping)
As if you have a term to judge someone
for having emotions and wanting to talk about them.
How dare you feel emotions,
you (bleep) tenderqueer.
That's supposed to be beautiful,
we're supposed to love that and embrace that.
(popping)
- Stone butch, she's a stone butch,
she's got no time for anything feminine in her life.
She is a stone butch.
- Is it being used as a quantifier,
like if you're stone butch you're the butchest you can be?
Just stone cold butch, so butch, just the butchest butch.
I don't know (laughs).
(popping)
- [Jeff] Oh my god, I literally couldn't be more opposite.
- I think like Lea DeLaria in "Orange is the New Black".
She was very butch, and she used to hook-up
with a lot of the prison inmates,
but she only ever gave, which is interesting.
She's the stone butch.
- Being part of the LGBT community
it's interesting how little awareness there is around,
I would say lesbians in general,
lesbian community, lesbian phrases, lesbian sex.
It's definitely a part of the community
that I don't really know much about,
and that obviously showed today.
- This just gives a lot of credence
to what I said at the start of the video,
is that there's a whole world of lesbian culture
that even as a gay man I've got no idea about.
This is fascinating to me.
- It's so cool to know that there is an entire community
and therefore set of idioms and phrases
and all the rest of it.
It's actually another language
that I just know nothing about.
And I really should, so thank you for enlightening me.