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got an interesting question on my
youtube channel from someone asking
about anchoring yourself it's in one of
my anchoring videos and I was
demonstrating anchoring with someone
else and he asked about anchoring
himself
this is a really good question because
this is something I've struggled with as
well some people I know can anchor
themselves very well they can just put
themselves in the state and then just
touch part of their body and then
they're anchored I've always had
problems with this and there's a few
different ways to get around it
I'll show you one particular one that
helped me a lot and that is where you
use spatial anchors and more
specifically floor anchors so you can
actually stand a spot on the floor and
create an anchor that way and more
specifically you can collapse anchors
this way
so what I'm going to demonstrate here is
how to collapse anchors by yourself so
you don't need to help with anyone else
and doing it on the floor so what you
want to do is you want to find out what
is the state we can call it the crash
state the state that you go into that is
very unreal source file and you want to
pick a very specific context and a time
that usually happens so say it's at work
and maybe have a bought a meeting with
your boss every week and you always feel
on resourceful you always feel like you
don't know what to say or you don't want
to do and you get nervous
that's a really good collapsed state now
there could be many other clap States
say when you go out in public or you go
out at night and you're supposed to be
social and instead you feel very
introverted you don't want to talk you
feel scared to talk to people that can
be another good one another one that you
might have is just dealing with a
particular person who intimidates you
and makes you feel fear and you get
scared and you feel just less resource
when you can't speak up for yourself or
you're not accessing all your resources
it could be any type of performance
speaking in front of people it could be
basket Holly can be pretty much anything
golf you name it anything any place
where you feel like you're not able to
tap into your resources and your skills
fully because of the state that you're
in
so again we're going to call that the
crash state SI and you can pick anywhere
on the floor it does not have doesn't it
doesn't have to be any particular place
it's up to you so I'm gonna pick to my
left and this is the spot on the floor
that i'm going to pick and i'm going to
get a sense of what it is like when I'm
in that crash state so in this spot this
particular spot on the floor
I'm going to think about what it's like
when i'm actually in this situation so
if let's go back to the the meeting with
my boss I meet with my boss and every
time i do that i just don't feel like
I'm performing at my best in fact I kind
of collapse and crash so what is that
like so what do you see when that's
happening what are you here and what do
you feel now you can use this again for
any type of context any type of crash
state so associated into that meaning
you would see what you would actually
see if you were there i would feel what
I'm actually feeling if i were there it
means understanding i feel that the
floor under my feet if I'm sitting then
I feel that the chair underneath me
you might even get as much as like
feeling the temperature in the room
what would you here would you hear your
own voice would you hear your boss's
wife or whoever's voice or voices that
were in the room and what does it feel
like inside like get in touch with that
feeling of what is it like to collapse
and crash where does the feeling there's
a core of that feeling so say it's in
the gut and if it's in the gut then how
much does it weigh is it light or is it
heavy or does not have a weight at all
does it have a temperature is it cool is
it hot is it cold in touch with that as
well
does it have a movement to it all
feelings have a movement to it
no feelings are static even if it's a
slight in small movement and the
movement could be going up it could be
going down it could be turning in a
certain direction so you want to get in
touch with all these things and as
you're doing that you're going to feel
yourself coming
going into that crash state so being a
bit careful you don't want to go too
much into it you want to go into it just
enough to know what that is like and
you're anchoring into the floor once
you've done that then step out of it
into your meta position so this is a
neutral position and break state so I'm
the easy way to break state kind of just
stepping out of it usually can break the
state if not then you can do things like
try to recite the alphabet backwards
trying to say your phone number
backwards you don't actually have to do
that to our actually get it right
tend to break the state would do
something like that to get your mind
focused on something else
so once you're broken the state then you
going to choose where you want to anchor
your resource state and say that is over
here so I'm gonna go here and i'm going
to think about what is it that I want to
have their what is it that I don't have
their that if i had it i would be able
to i wouldn't be in that crash date say
the resource state that i need is a
ferocity I want to be more ferocious i
want to i want to be a kind of like a
warrior state some ferocious resolve so
i would come into this spot and i would
start thinking about a time whenever
whenever actually felt that so maybe it
was one time I was playing a sport or
something and I just felt that I just
felt like it was there the energy was
there is confident everything was going
well so i'm going to associate into that
i'm going to see what I saw hear what I
heard and feel what I felt when I was in
that that memory of having ferocity and
being ferocious and strong and powerful
and I'm gonna get in touch with what
those feelings like you're in my body
maybe that feeling this higher up in my
chest and I can feel the it's warm and
it's pulsating outward and so I want to
really get in touch with that and so
what I'm doing is I'm doing that is I'm
anchoring that that state to the floor
here so after I do that I'm going to
step out and again break state I now I
can see in this from this meta position
I can see the state that I don't want
the crash date that's right here and i
can see the state that i want the power
powerful state and that's right here
what I can do then as I can step in here
and just test the anchor when I step
into it you out immediately feel that
crash date if I don't then it's not
appropriately anchored so i need to do
more work here
I need to get back into that state know
what that feels like see what I see here
what I hear in that situation and feel
what I feel and make sure this is
anchored step outbreaks state step back
and see if it if it's anchored if when I
step into the spot i feel that state
again then I know it's anchored to the
floor here if I don't that I need to
keep working with it and so break state
make sure you keep your your spatial
anchors clean you want to keep your
state's clean and then I'm gonna step in
here i want to test do i feel that
coming back up if I don't again I need
more work to do so that would be going
back into the situation and maybe I need
to bring in other times where I felt
that real that ferocity and bring in
other situations and give this more
context so you just want to work with us
to where you get this really strong
anchor to that when you step out your
break state you're in your meta state
you can step into either one of these
anchors on the floor and as soon as you
step into it that comes back up now
here's the really cool part is kind of
like a mapping across but this would be
actually collapsing anchor so what I'm
going to do is I'm going to step into
this and I'm going to feel that surging
power that ferocity coming up through my
through my body and then I'm going to
take it with me and step over to the
crash state and let this overpower the
crash state and you want to make sure
that you've established a very strong
state with this power state because if
you haven't then the crash they could
overwhelm the power state so but most of
the time positive overpowers negative in
most cases not always so make sure this
is a very strong state and then crush
the state right here and then step out
cometa break state do it again step into
your power state feel that surge of
power coming up through you and that
ferocity and then take it over here step
into that crash date and boom make sure
that's done make sure you crush this
this crash state and that you can feel
this power surging and then when you're
here and make sure you're seeing
everything you would see in that city
situation you know if it's your boss
you're seeing your boss if you're
playing sports or your golfing you're
seeing those things you're feeling those
things you're hearing whatever you would
hear in that situation and I would do
this about seven to ten times the
amazing thing that did for me is this is
something I learned in my practitioner
training and afterward I had a friend
and a few other friends women mainly one
friend who was in the same in st.
business that I'm man kept saying that
nothing seemed to keep me down that no
matter how many times I got knocked down
I seem to be extremely resilient and I
would pop right back up and seconds and
he said never seen anything like that in
anyone else and I attributed to this
exercise that I've done because I the
first time I did it first time I
practiced it I did it specifically for
the business that i was in my insurance
business because i kept collapsing the
amazing thing about this technique is it
brings you out of a crash state without
you having to think about it without you
having to struggle or fight your way
through it
what happens a lot of times as we get
into a crash state and we know we have
these NLP techniques we know even if we
might have mindfulness techniques and we
know that we're supposed to use them
write them but it's so hard because
you're in that crashed in your kind of
like okay I need to roll my eyes around
our need to to think positive thoughts
and maybe I need to do some affirmations
good luck with that because when you're
in that crash state it is really hard
like you're in a hole when you're trying
to dig your way out but your weekend you
don't have much energy the amazing thing
about this technique is I i use the
metaphor of a life preserver that's
activated by the depth of the water that
you're in so I saw one time on TV they
have these life preservers were there
they're small and they're not they're
not deployed and if you get thrown
overboard so you get knocked unconscious
you get thrown overboard there's a
little mechanism inside of it once you
hit a certain depth in the water it
automatically explodes and opened up
their life vest so that if you're
knocked unconscious and you're you're
sticking in the water this thing blows
up and
will basically bring you back to the
surface even if you're knocked
unconscious
that's the way that I think of this
technique if I go into a crash date it i
don't have the resources to pull myself
out of it but this thing
no it's triggered by when you go to that
cross-state phone it brings in your
power state and just lifts you right
back up and you come right back up and
you're ready to go and that is what
resilience is you get knocked down you
drop back off that's what you want to do
with this technique and it will work for
you give it a try
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