Have you ever encountered someone who is constantly clinging to someone else?
It's possible they're doing it to prevent feeling lonely or to get consolation.
INFJs, on the other hand, are the polar opposite.
They would rather be alone.
But being alone doesn’t imply that they want to feel or would rather be lonely.
For the INFJ, being alone is extremely gratifying.
Small talk exhausts them, and strangers constantly finding them in strange corners and regaling
them with day-to-day concerns of varying degrees of severity can be exhausting.
When the INFJ gets home and collapses exhausted on the bed, it's the biggest relief of their day.
When there are no other people in the room, the INFJ can finally be alone with their thoughts.
INFJs need a lot of alone time, to the point where they can go for extended periods of time.
The INFJ can be alone for so long that they start to grow more comfortable with this distance.
They isolate themselves without even realizing it, which could make it even more difficult
to connect.
If you know someone who is an INFJ and does this, you may be curious as to why they prefer
being by themselves most of the time.
So here are five reasons why INFJs Need Solitude.
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They need time to recharge
INFJs, being the Introverts they are, not only like being alone, but they also require it.
Because INFJs are primarily introverts, they need "me time" to recharge.
Especially when there are so many demands of their time when they interact with the
outside world.
This is the time when they collect their thoughts, when their creativity pours, when they get
to figure it all out.
This is a precious time for them.
Introverts are also said to be sensitive to dopamine.
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that controls pleasure and excitement in the brain.
Higher levels of dopamine energize extroverts.
As a result, they prefer sensation-seeking and taking risks.
INFJ Introverts, on the other hand, don't need as much stimulation.
In fact, they find them overwhelming rather than delightful, so they seek out plenty of
peace and quiet time to refresh after a long day.
This is why introverts should never feel bad about declining party invitations if they
want to stay in bed and read or watch a movie.
They are just prioritizing their well-being which isn’t a bad thing.
They don’t like superficial interactions
INFJs prioritize quality over quantity in their friendships and relationships when it
comes to time and numbers.
This means that they have fewer friends and fewer partners over the course of their lives.
Aside from those nerve-racking adolescent years when being popular is the only thing
that matters, they aren't overly interested with having a large number of friends.
Managing a large number of friendships can be stressful and overwhelming for them especially
when they have to spend most of their time socializing with each one of them.
Another reason INFJs are sometimes hesitant to develop new connections is because they
simply cannot be bothered with all of the small talk that comes with meeting new people.
They wish they could skip the prelude and get straight to the part where they can express
their deepest passions and emotions, and then linger in comfortable silences for as long
as they like.
Conversations with acquaintances might be painful rather than beneficial.
They enjoy their own company
Every INFJ has a passion.
They like practicing and developing their skills in a variety of hobbies such as painting,
website development, woodworking, and all manner of other activities.
They choose activities in which it is just them and the medium, as opposed to extroverts,
for whom the medium is other people.
This is why they won't become bored while they're alone because they like their own
company and can find ways to entertain themselves without having to rely on others.
They often like reflecting on their everyday experiences, whether through blogging, journaling,
or another creative outlet.
They need to figure out their own feelings
Some INFJs have a hard time sharing their feelings and feel deeply embarrassed by doing
so, even to people close to them.
Because of this, they want to figure things out by themselves which could lead to emotional
independence.
INFJs develop an inner resilience that allows them to know that they can meet, solve, and
be in any situation they face.
It implies that they have developed their own sense of self without relying on others
to make them happy or tell them who they should be.
Although there are drawbacks to bottling up all of their feelings and emotions, the upside
is that they discover themselves, and correcting unhelpful attitudes and habits allows them
to find the strength they need to establish their own unique sense of inner peace.
It allows them to regard themselves as distinct from others and declare independence from
situations that may have previously influenced their moods, behaviors, and self-perceptions.
They don’t like drama
INFJs dislike various types of drama yet may find themselves dragged into it unintentionally.
Arguments, tension, and drama are poison to the INFJ.
When they are fighting with a loved one or when there is constant, underlying stress
in a relationship, they may feel physically ill.
They don’t like being involved in gossip.
People frequently come to their INFJ friends with all of their life and relationship issues,
hoping that they would be able to help them.
This need to care for others is what draws the INFJ into the drama of other people's lives.
They do, however, have a hidden flair for drama and can appear over-the-top when it
comes to certain things.
This is due to the fact that INFJs are intense people with strong emotions.
These feelings can cause them to appear dramatic about certain topics, but this is simply due
to the fact that they are passionate people.
This is not to say that you should never argue with an INFJ.
If you approach them with respect and calmness, they will not be offended by the discussion
that unfolds.
While it is necessary for the INFJ to spend time alone, it is also beneficial for them
to gain a deeper understanding of themselves.
When they understand why they need this time to recharge, they will be better able to discover
ways to stay connected with others while also getting this much-needed alone time.
They will not feel as if they are doing something wrong by requiring this time, and they will
be able to explain to others that this is simply something they need.
The more they learn about themselves, the better off they will be.
The INFJ's desire for alone time does not imply that they want to be alone all of the time;
it simply means that they must learn to create this balance in order to connect
with others and make them understand.