hi there I'm drew badger the world's number one english
fluency guide and it is a
pleasure to welcome you to
another advanced listening
practice lesson well one of my
most favorite things to do as an
educator is to remind people of
skills and talents and things
that they forgot that they had
and especially one of those for
you know maybe sometimes i will
talk about the confidence that
people have you might have
confidence in one area of your
life but maybe not confidence in
something else you can learn how
to how to take that confidence
and move it to a different part
of your life most people are
fairly confident about some
things but maybe not everything
this is just a typical thing but
you can learn how to take that
confidence from one part of your
life and move it to another one
so in this video actually I
don't want to talk about
confidence so much this is
actually reminding you of
something it's like confidence
but reminding you that you
already speak at least two
different languages so most
people speak maybe two or three
or even four different languages
but not really in the way that
they think the typical way that
people would think about
languages is do I speak English
or Japanese or Korean or any
other language but what what we
kind of forget actually in
everyday life is that we speak
in a different way maybe around
our parents maybe if you go to
school you speak in a different
way around your teachers you
even use different languages or
the tone of your voice or your
attitude and your behavior or
different and then you speak a
different way around your
friends
friends
friends so typically people and again
I'm saying like typically
because most people assume this
most people have this situation
in their life and it's a great
word typically i recommend you
begin using it if you don't use
it already in general this is
kind of a side note in this
lesson but listen to the way I
speak in the way i use words and
just model that for you being
able to speak in your own
conversation because the way I'm
speaking here i try to speak in
a very specific way that I could
use in everyday conversation
sense i could when I'm just
having conversations with people
this is how I speak or in a more
professional setting I could
speak in the same way so the way
I'm speaking now I'm
intentionally speaking in a
certain way that's really
appropriate for many different
situations but this video
specifically is kind of the
opposite of that
so I want you
you remember that when you're
maybe let's say you're 25 years
old 30 years old and then you go
back and you stay with your
parents for maybe a week or
something on a vacation you tend
to become a bit more childlike
even if you're not being
childish
childish
childish so this just means that you're
not behaving like a child but
you tend to you know you you go
back to that role of your
parents and then you are the
child so instead of maybe you're
far away from them if you're
talking on the phone with your
mother about something or your
father maybe as an adult you're
kind of equal with them but if
you go stay with them for a
while maybe you're like hey dad
could you like you know do the
dishes or mom could you wash my
clothes or you know something
like that the kinds of things
that kind of roles that we have
when we were young
now in addition to that you
might even recognize like I've
had friends so when I was
growing up in Chicago have like
friends lots of different
ethnicities because the area
high park where I grew up
this is an area with lots of
different kinds of people people
from many different cultures and
so I had friends from all over
the world so people that have
parents and maybe come to
America from different countries
and often they would speak on
the phone I had one friend like
she would speak to me normally
excuse me but then she would be
so she was actually from Sri
Lanka and so she would speak
just a normal everyday accent
the way I'm speaking now but as
soon as she would talk to her
mother on the phone she would
have kind of a British accent
now it was like the way her
mother speaks and that was the
way she was raised but it's
interesting to see how people
just switch because it's not
really the language so much as
your you're taking on a
different identity now the
identity that I have maybe as
like a person that's educating
people right now is different
from the identity I have when
I'm you know speaking to my
close friends that I've had ever
since I was a young young boy
so the way I might speak again
with them is different than the
way I might speak with my
parents or even to like some
like if i meet the president of
some country i'm probably going
to be more polite a bit more
formal in my speech and the way
my tone is my expression but I
don't think about it is changing
my language i'm thinking about
it more as like an act
now we do this subconsciously we
don't really think about it when
we're doing this and we approach
people that we know or that we
see them in a different way and
sometimes it's weird it's like
when you see your teacher
especially as a young child like
maybe you remember this like
when you were a young child like
10 years old or younger than
that and you're going to school
and then you go out to a
restaurant and you see your
teacher like added you know
across the across the restaurant
so your teacher is like having a
conversation or doing something
and you're like wow the teacher
is an actual real person that
has a real life outside of
school and it's something you
realize as you get older but
it's it's seeing that person in
a different situation it breaks
that that like spell of how you
see them and it's a it's just a
thing i'd like to remind you
about that you already have this
ability in here and now you just
need to take it and think about
more in the same way that I
talked about the English fluency
habits that the secret to
fluency is not trying to learn a
whole bunch of more information
it's about developing the habits
and being someone that can speak
fluently so how can I look at
someone that's already fluent
and model their behavior so if
I'm trying to learn japanese I'm
not trying to learn from a
teacher I'm trying to learn from
native Japanese speakers
how do they speak and I try to
look at the difference between
where i am and where they are
for each of the seven English
fluency habits and then I
improved from there but all this
the idea of the seven fluency
habits is about identity not
about learning more information
so in the same way that you
would speak differently when
you're with your parents or with
your friends or with people at
school
school
school that's the same thing that
applies to learning English so
don't think about trying to
learn different vocabulary and
focus so much on that think
about the identity of someone
that speaks English learning
about the culture learning about
the ideas and focus more on that
so when you can focus on the
identity that's the kind of
thing that will help you improve
your fluency much more because
you're not thinking about the
individual things you're trying
to create an identity for
yourself and that will pull you
to where you want to go that
will pull you to mastering the
grammar and to becoming more
confident speaker and to using
normal conversational language
just like a native speaker way
so take the skills that you
already have and begin thinking
about the identity that you want
to have as a native English
speaker even if you are not an
actual native english-speaking
yourself so the point is to
become that way at least that's
your model you might not make it
all the way there but you can
get much much closer than you
are right now
absolutely well that's it for
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