These two couples are here as a last resort.
Over the next week,
I'll identify the issues affecting their marriages
and put them through a series of relationship challenges,
forcing them to confront those issues head on.
What is your agenda for this vacation?
This is kind of like redoing our marriage almost,
and getting to know each other.
We're always with the kids and talking to them.
We never have time to talk to each other.
Well I'm here, so you figure out something.
How about you figure out something?
On your mark, get set, go.
Dang.
Yeah.
The problem is they think they're in paradise,
and they're not working on anything.
It's time for us to get to work.
That was a fair and square game.
No it wasn't.
Yes, it was.
It was same time, same shot, whoever makes it first.
Relax, Krista.
I was trying to relax and get a foot massage.
Hello. Hi.
Hello, how you doing?
Hi. How's it going?
I'm John.
John, nice to meet you. I'm Krista.
Nice to meet you, Krista.
Hi. Hi.
How are you? I'm good, and you?
Great.
I'd love to talk to you guys. Can we go sit down over there?
Yeah.
So how long ago did you meet?
We met six years ago.
Yeah. It'll be six years.
At the time, I was a Harlem Globetrotter.
A Harlem Globetrotter?
Mm-hmm (affirmative).
And what have you been doing since?
Basically like social media content,
promotions, hosting gigs.
How do you feel about ...
That? It's just a little bit frustrating
'cause living with an influencer , entertainer or whatever.
I mean, she's constantly on her phone.
It's always work before me.
I don't feel like she believes in what I'm doing.
I just want to know that I'm first.
You're a very important part of my life,
but you're just like it's easy
what you've been working hard for
for the last 16 years of my life or me.
You'd make me freakin' choose.
Okay, Krista.
Do you think I'm wrong or ...
I do think you're wrong,
but you're just going to continue,
and you're just going to always think that you're right,
so there's no point of arguing.
You think she's selfish?
I think she's very selfish.
She doesn't give me attention.
She doesn't put her family first, it's always herself.
How does that make you feel?
Like (bleep). Like it sucks.
Do you know that makes her feel like (bleep)?
You're okay with her feeling like (bleep)?
No, so sometimes I get off at seven-
When you pick up your phone
knowing that she doesn't want you to,
knowing that at that moment she's feeling insignificant
or otherwise upset by it and you choose to do it anyway,
either you're ignorant to the way she feels
or you don't give a (bleep).
Which is it?
Um, excuse you, sir.
Like who do you think you are talking to me like this?
Life is a balance.
Mm-hmm (affirmative).
When does she get some pleasure out of it?
Where is the balance?
If she gave you more of that balance,
you'd be more giving with the time
she wanted to try to work on social media, wouldn't you?
Yes.
But you really need to think
about the sensitivity to her feelings
and how you're going to manage that.
Okay, I can see that, yeah.
I had to like just calm down.
"All right, Krista, you're here for a reason.
Like intake what he's telling you
because he kind of knows what he's talking about."
And I'm not saying you're innocent,
because we got a lot more talking to do.
Oh, I know I'm not innocent.
'Cause it takes two.
I'm not a marriage counselor.
Okay.
I am really fricking good at this.
Oh, okay.
And I've helped people for a lot of years.
I am really honest, really direct,
and I'd love to help you.
Okay. That sounds good.
If you'd like me to. Yeah.
No, please, we need it.
So I've planned some activities for you.
There is a purpose to what we're going to do here
these next few days,
and it's ways to break down barriers between you guys,
break down resentment between you guys,
open up new communication between you guys
'cause we have some hard work to do. Do you agree?
Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah.
To make this right.
Got to get you thinking? Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Okay. We got a lot more to do.
I'll see you guys later, okay?
All right.
I myself have had to learn
how to balance work and relationships in life,
so I know how difficult it can be.
Hopefully I can help Krista and Alexis find that balance.
Now it's time to observe Marcus and Tiffany,
a couple struggling with resentments of their own.
We don't enjoy each other's company at all.
Well I don't like your friends,
so that's part of the reason
why I don't like going out with you.
I don't like them. Y'all go out, y'all get drunk.
You are just an angry person, Marcus.
You are always angry.
I'm angry because I've been loving on somebody
who I feel like they loving on me.
It's always me, me, me, look at me.
I don't this, me, me, me.
I actually do want to get along.
Marcus.
Yes. I'm John.
Hi, John. Hi, Tiffany.
Hi, nice to meet you.
I'm John, nice to meet you.
I've seen John on Bar Rescue.
This is a tough cookie right here,
so it's about to go down.
I've been listening to the two of you
going at it here,
and I really want to help you. How long ago did you meet?
About 12 and a half years ago now.
What happened?
You know, the kids and the family thing
is really a priority. The marriage is no longer there.
We've made it work this far,
but I feel like we've make it work for the kids
and not for us.
What frustrates me
is that there's been a difference in my wife
and the way she treats me. She no longer sees me.
I'm just a guy that works his ass off
and then when it's time for a party,
I'm the guy who's got the pocket.
Does she go out a lot?
Quite a bit.
What happens when she goes out?
It's binge drinking.
That's acting like a child.
Yeah, I mean, I know that.
I drink to get away from problems.
We're constantly fighting and he's working all the time,
so obviously that frustrates me.
Marcus kind of holds his business higher
than spending time with me.
No, I just kind of feel
like sometimes my heart ain't there.
My wife does not adore me at this point in my life
and it's frustrating because I adore this woman.
It breaks your heart.
It pisses me off after it breaks my heart.
Right.
So you're past the broken heart. Now you're in the resentment.
Yup. I'm insignificant. That's the most upsetting thing.
I've never been in a relationship of any kind
that somebody who I care about, that knows I care about them,
treats me like I'm not really special.