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I'm Riaz Meghji, founder of the Every Conversation Counts platform and a
broadcaster with 17 years of experience interviewing thought leaders athletes
celebrities and experts that can tell you there are five key commonalities
that really stand out that will help you have better conversations the first
approach I always take with everyone I meet especially when you're meeting
someone for the first time find a way to make people feel famous how do you do
that well we all know curiosity is a huge driver in any of our interactions
but it's curiosity that really creates relationships so using social media and
technology to take a look at what they've been posting get in tune with
their ideas their thoughts their interests so you can get specific and
know what their top three headlines are going into your meetup or conversation
once you start to use those you'll be able to establish a great tone right out
of the gate now if you're wondering well what if I don't have access to that
information well I think one of the universal techniques is understanding
what makes people happier now the late psychiatrists at gordon livingston did a
lot of work in this area and he broke down people's happiness
into three ideas that people that are happier have something to do they have
someone to love and have something to look forward to so if you don't have
access to that research tap into those three ideas in your conversation and
watch that person in front of you start to light up the second key tip is really
focusing on the secret to being likable and that secret is simple be an
incredible active listener how do you do that say less ask more and then get out
of the way of their response you know research shows 40% of what people talk
about is based on their own personal experiences
and relationships and this research done by the psychology department at Harvard
found that talking about yourself triggers the same pleasure
as food in fact some people would forego money just to talk about themselves so
use that as your competitive advantage and just sit back and listen ask great
questions and let's silence do the talking if you can do that people will
begin to feel heard and understood and this will build trust and help
strengthen your relationships for the third key tip if you want to leave a
lasting impression just do this remember one thing remember one thing that they
tell you whether you're at a networking event or a social dinner sometimes you
could get into a great conversation and someone's given you so much rich detail
it could be hard to remember but do yourself a favor after that interaction
pull out your phone bring up your notes and write down a couple really important
personal notes they gave you because if you know you're gonna follow up with
them a week from now a month from now impressively even a year from now and
you can reference that one thing you will definitely get a positive response
okay you may be wondering then when is it my turn to talk in the conversation
I'm the one asking all the questions well when it comes time to reciprocate
you want to hook them with your headline whether it's a story great book you've
read or maybe a life-changing experience you've just gone through whatever it is
remember this brevity is your listeners best friend whatever you're gonna tell
them try and do it in 60 seconds or less I would see this with interview subjects
all the time the great communicators would hook you in tell you something
amazing and then throw a question back to you within 60 seconds to make sure
this is a dialogue not a monologue and what's the best way to measure your
storytelling ability watch your audience see how engaged they are watch their
eyes or they're looking at their phone or they shifting their feet your
audience will tell you if they're hooked but I'll tell you this if you can do it
in 60 seconds or less you will keep them engaged the entire
time by the way I hope you're finding these tips useful do me a favor in the
comments below let me know Oh what's work for you to help you have
powerful conversations and great ideas for relationship builders would love to
see some ideas come through from you okay finally this last one is all about
how you build trust in your conversations and relationships a few
years back I had the chance to connect with thought leader Darren Hardy who was
behind the creation of success calm now a successful mentor to many CEOs around
the world and I remember asking him because he's interviewed some of the
Great's what is the secret to having people open up in conversations and he
gave me two words go first and as I go first and he said think
about it if you want someone to give you something raw authentic and vulnerable
teach them that it's a safe space to do it and go first with something
extraordinary that's happened in your life that's raw and real it'll invite
them to do the exact same thing so if you can be as human as possible in these
conversations and share your truth watch what begins to happens and how things
start to change of how your conversations look and feel hopefully
you found some of these tips helpful for more ideas on how you can build and
create deeper connections in your life I've written the free download guide the
5 secrets to making every conversation count and you can get that at the link
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