We have analyzed many times the body language of people whose story...
well, let's say doesn't match what they project with their body language.
So I thought that, for a change, we could take a look at the body language of a real
victim.
In this case, Sarah Ransome, who was one of the many women abused by Jeffrey Epstein and
Ghislaine Maxwell.
Welcome back, my Body Language Buddies!
my name is Jesús Enrique Rosas, I'm the Body Language Guy, and it would be great if you
join us by just liking this video, subscribing and hitting that bell!
Let's get down to it!
Before we get started, I'm proud to announce that once again, my complete Body Language
and Persuasion Masterclass is open to the public, AND with a huge discount.
In this program you will learn the techniques I have developed over the years for my analysis,
not only to read people, but also to be mindful of your own nonverbal expression.
The course is 100% percent online and seats are limited.
The regular investment is 1200 dollars, but if you use the link in the description of
this video, you will be able to enroll and have access to all my material for just 199.
So, act now and join me in unlocking the secrets of human behavior.
Let's start with her first words of her recollections about finally going up and being able to look
Ghislaine in the eye:
- It's something that I've worked very, very, very hard for for the last six years, so...
that, I think my statement, was about four, five minutes.
Was...
Now, you might have noticed that there is a lot happening at the same time.
We couldn't even let her finish her answer and we already had so many signals.
Take for example, how random were her eye movements throughout just 15 seconds.
They went to the right, to her left, also up and down too.
At the same time, she doesn't stumble when talking.
It's important to notice that she doesn't rush her answer and is mindful of the words
chosen.
Her answer sounds deliberate, and it's something that we're gonna explore in a minute.
It's undeniable that the eyes and the mouth are always gonna be points of interest when
we are looking at a face.
In the next clip, notice a gesture that she does with her mouth:
- I was hoping that, uhm... as a human being, she would have felt something.
She would have at least acknowledged, or looked, or... but there was none of that.
And...
I told you to pay attention to her mouth on purpose so you could be aware of this very
particular lip pressing.
It's not a simple pressing, the one that looks like the lips just disappear.
But in Sarah's case is more like playing with her mouth every few sentences.
And you notice that she does it every five or six seconds.
It looks a lot like part of her body language baseline, or her usual nonverbal expression.
But there was another clue on that clip that we missed.
You're gonna watch the same clip again, but this time you'll be focusing on Sarah's eyebrows.
To make things easier for you, I'm gonna cover her mouth so you can better read her brow
area:
- I was hoping that, uhm... as a human being, she would have felt something.
She would have at least acknowledged, or looked, or... but there was none of that.
And...
This is the reason why you should take your time with this kind of analysis, because most
probably you did not spot the four eyebrow raises when focusing on her mouth.
We raise our eyebrows when we want to connect with the other person.
That's why we can also use it as a greeting.
Sarah is showing those eyebrow raises in an effort of connecting with the interviewer
and putting Ghislaine as non human.
Someone with no empathy or emotions whatsoever.
Of course, you might be wondering why Sarah raises her eyebrows four times in less than
ten seconds and it suddenly stops.
And that's why we have to take into account her words, too.
What was she saying at which moment.
Even with just fifteen seconds, you realize that her body language changes simultaneously
with the topic of her words.
Because at first she's talking directly about Ghislaine, and then she uses general terms.
And this kind of synchronization is what you're looking for:
- I was hoping that, uhm... as a human being, she would have felt something.
She would have at least acknowledged, or looked, or... but there was none of that.
And...
What's so fascinating is that, in this case, we are just looking at her eyebrows and listening
to her words.
This can get complicated, especially if we add voice tone, for example.
But it's a very good place to start.
It's much easier when you watch the following clip and immediately notice that her final
facial expression is a direct reaction of what she's about to say:
- The memory I'll take away from today, that I will never forget, for the rest of my life,
was... hearing Ghislaine walk into court with the chains.
Yeah, she's delighted when she recalls the sound of Ghislaine walking into the courtroom
with the sound of the chains.
She found pleasure in that, and to some extent, she lets herself show it at this moment.
And I say to some extent, because you noticed that hesitation.
That first genuine smile, then maybe she recalled why Ghislaine was chained in the first place,
and what it meant for her own life, and then, what we could call a bittersweet smile.
But this complex emotional display is important for a good reason.
When you're telling the truth, body language can be messy.
Especially, in situations like this, when the truth affects you directly.
And even without any pressure, just recalling past events, it can spark reactions on the
face.
The hard part is making sense of those displays.
And in this last example, when Sarah recalls the sound of Ghislaine's chains entering the
courtroom, it's not a black or white emotion.
It's not that she jumps from sadness to anger, or joy, in seconds.
Because that's not how emotions work.
That is one of the reasons so many people picked up Amber Heard's histrionic behavior
in her testimony, because she jumped from absolute emotions in seconds, from sadness
to anger and back again.
That doesn't match her saying that she still loves Johnny.
In Sarah's case, those bittersweet smiles signal a much more complex emotion that she
doesn't know to process.
But it's great that, for a split second, she lets herself express that feeling.
Now, let's review everything that we have learned so far and try to apply it while watching
the following clip.
No marks or clues this time.
- I've spent the last seventeen years trying to... get some form of justice, trying to...
put together a life, for myself.
And I haven't been able to do that.
Most probably you were trying to listen to her words and at the same time paying attention
to her eyes.
Again, it's the most expressive area of the face and we are naturally drawn to them.
And probably, you noticed another pattern of words versus facial expressions.
When Sarah says that she has tried to put together a life for herself, she looks down
and to one side.
A signal that she feels ashamed of not being able to do that.
There's frustration too, because you saw that slight display of anger with her eyebrows.
But hands down the most powerful statement from Sarah's interview was this one.
- I think the most difficult thing that I've found, more than anything, no matter what
Ghislaine has done to me...
I don't wish her harm.
Because I'm not like her.
I don't want Ghislaine to be...
I don't want Ghislaine to be hurt.
It's not that hard to spot that her body language follows her words.
She authentically has let Ghislaine go.
She doesn't have any power over her anymore, even after all that happened years ago.
There's only one signal, that is pulling her head back.
Ok, Maxwell does not control or affect her in any way, but at the same time, this is
not a place she wants to be.
It goes hand in hand with the fact that she's not been able to build a real life for herself.
Maybe, after the verdict of 20 years in jail, she can find the peace she deserves.
If you want to refine your observation skills, all you have to do is download my 100+ body
language tips, right in the description of this video.
My name is Jesús Enrique Rosas and it will always be a pleasure, my body language buddies!
Much Love, and Bliss.