Hello I m Darren Magee and today s topic is looking at Tyrannical Sadism, a sub type
of sadistic personality. Now if you like this video, if you find it interesting or helpful,
please consider subscribing to my channel. But just as a reminder, this video is not a substitute
for support from a mental health professional, nor is it a tool to be used to diagnose someone.
Sadism can be characterised by the desire to hurt others, whether that's verbally or physically,
specifically for self gratification, for pleasure and to assert dominance. People with sadistic
traits generally have this desire to dominate and control others through inflicting pain and
humiliating them. There are four subtypes of sadistic personality. There s spineless sadism,
explosive sadism, enforcing sadism and the topic for today's video Tyrannical Sadism. Although
sadism is no longer considered a personality disorder, it is recognised that it co occurs with
other personality disorders such as narcissistic personality and psychopathy. The difference there
being with narcissism, we see the see the sadism as being both about pleasure and dominance. With
psychopathy, we see it more about dominance. It seen more as a tool to be used, like a means to an
end. And sadistic behaviour can manifest itself in three ways. There is verbal which can include
threats, aggressive, harsh language, cruel and demeaning humour not just to embarrass but to
humiliate on devastate. There's physical which can include acts of violence, destruction of property,
hiding property, theft, sabotage of property or equipment. Then there s vicarious. Now that s
gaining pleasure from watching others in pain, in others at risk, being attacked, and so on.
So some of the common characteristics of the Tyrannical Sadist is first of all to domineer.
They domineer relationships in families, at work, in the community. They may come across like
the tough Sergeant Major type. But this isn't about discipline. They, they are in charge of
everything and become, very aggressive and violent if challenged. They become angry when
they're not in control, not just of a situation, but sometimes control of other people as well.
They are relentless bullies who relish menacing and brutalising others,
forcing others to cower and submit to them. They run households, workplaces, social gatherings like
tyrants, hence the term Tyrannical Sadism. At work they may be the boss who demands a project be
started at quarter to five, demanding that it is completed by 9:00 AM the next day. They may demand
projects are completed perfectly without the correct materials, without the correct equipment.
They tend to belittle staff, especially those they consider actually quite good at what they do. In
relationships with others they may spend all the money on frivolous things, maybe gambling, drink,
trinkets, whatever, but punish the partner because there isn't enough money to pay the rent, pay the
mortgage or feed the kids. One way or another, the tyrannical sadist wants others to fear them.
They seem to enjoy terrifying others. They, there can be a lot of antagonistic behaviour,
veiled threats of consequences, constantly demeaning and sabotaging, constant criticism,
starting arguments, deliberate humiliating humour just for their own pleasure to assert dominance,
or, more often than not, both. To the tyrannical sadist their victim will never be good enough.
They deserve the treatment they get. If the victim errs in any way, they can never be
punished hard enough. They can be merciless and unforgiving, pay no attention to apologies and
are unmoved by pleas. Sometimes they even derive pleasure from the pleas. It actually encourages
them to continue. When dominating and humiliating their victims, now whether that's verbal or
physical, there are times you can almost see a look of pleasure and excitement on their face.
It's like they can't hold it in knowing their victim for whatever reason, can't or
won't retaliate. Another common behaviour would be making unreasonable demands, setting unrealistic
standards, unrealistic, unreasonable expectations, or tasks aimed at setting someone up to fail. And
there is Hell to pay when their victim fails. The victims are often set up to fail so that they can
be punished. But they can even punish their victims when the victim succeeds at whatever
it was they demanded. They punish them anyway because they didn't get to punish them for what
they wanted to in the first place. They can be accusatory, claim their partner is cheating or,
bully them over the most innocuous thing just to watch their victims plead their innocence. Then
they punish them anyway. And seeing their victims with any kind of autonomy or social support
can bring up outrage in them. Some may threaten those that they perceive as being
any kind of help or support to the victims. Warn them off or they perhaps paint a picture
of the victim being the crazy one. They often try any means at all to try and block any kind
of support their victims may have. Some even go as far as physically assaulting others,
physically assaulting their victims, physically assaulting those their victims care about,
destroy their victims property in front of them, to teach them a lesson. The Tyrannical Sadist
will also either withhold or limit resources to their victims to keep them in a state of strain,
to dominate and control them. They enjoy watching them struggle, and in a long term relationship
with someone like that sometimes the victim fears asking for anything. This struggle feels easier,
it feels safer. Now if anybody watching this is in a relationship with someone like that. I would
encourage you to think about reaching out, tell someone. There is help and support in many areas,
domestic abuse organisations, many have confidential help lines. There s law
enforcement agencies. Tell your doctor, your GP even, reach out to someone. Try to get the help
and support that you need. And I'll put the links to some organisations that might be able to help
in the descriptions of this video. But that is a brief outline of the Tyrannical Sadist. As always,
there's things I haven't mentioned, please feel free to use the comment box below. There are
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