Have you ever broken off things with your partner
only to find out that they wanted to get back together
with you all along?
Maybe this is good news
and you wanted to repair things with your ex
and get back together too.
If you had known they felt the same way,
you could have talked through your problems earlier
and stayed together.
Or, maybe you didn't want to get back together.
If you had noticed the hints they were dropping
about their lingering feelings for you,
you could have made it clear to them
that things wouldn't be able to work out again.
Whichever the case may be,
here's seven proven signs your ex wants you back.
One, you receive drunk calls and/or texts from them.
You're resting cozy in your bed,
settle down after a long and busy day,
when suddenly your phone lights up.
You reach out to find a new text from your ex.
Turns out their 3:00 am text
may be more than just a drunk stupor.
Their drunk text show they're thinking of you,
and being under the influence
just gives them more courage
to express what they're really feeling.
According to a 2011 study,
the most common reason people make drunken phone calls
is to confess their feelings,
especially those of love.
Your ex's true feelings in those drunken calls
could be true and their drinking
gave them the liquid courage to tell you,
confident enough to confess
their unconditional love for you
through a slurred speech and hiccup at 3:00 am.
Two, they mirror you and show open body language.
Oftentimes when you mimic another's behavior and gestures,
it means you like them.
This mimicry of others is called the chameleon effect,
and this can be a more subconscious way
to show someone that you favor them.
People like people like themselves.
If your ex is still showing very open body language,
holding eye contact and mimicking your behaviors as well,
it could be a sign they subconsciously
still have feelings for you.
Three, they often bring up fondly shared memories.
Let's say you meet up with your ex
or run into them at a bar,
what do you two find yourself talking about?
If your ex continuously brings up fondly shared memories,
it could be a hint
that they not only miss those moments spent with you,
but in turn, they miss you as well.
By highlighting the good times you spent together,
they are trying to get you to remember
what made your relationship work
and what was great about the both of you.
Perhaps it's a way for them to try and win you back.
Four, they maintain a friendship after your breakup.
Yes, some couples can still be friends after a breakup,
but if you find yourself talking to them
more than your other friends,
maybe you're more than friends,
or at least heading there.
Your ex may be trying to reconnect with you
as a friend first, before trying to get back together.
If you work as friends and were once attached to each other,
what's to stop you from getting together in the future.
Five, they ask others about you.
If you hear from your family and friends,
that your ex has been asking about you,
there may be a good reason.
Odds are your ex is trying to find out
your relationship status
or more likely they're trying to gauge
if you still miss them or not.
If your friends and family
tell them that you do miss them,
don't be surprised if they come knocking on your door
in hopes of a reconciliation.
Six, liking and commenting more on your social media.
Did you and your ex decide to be friends after a breakup?
Perhaps you still comment
and like each other's posts on social media.
If you find your ex is commenting more than they did
when you were together,
it may mean they're throwing some hints at you.
If they're complimenting your social media posts,
it may mean they want to be more than just friends.
Seven, they're taking action to change
and they let you know.
Is your ex suddenly taking action after your breakup?
They're making some noticeable changes in their life
that draw you in and going out of their way
to let you know they've changed.
They post on social media about their personal growth
or text you as just a friend
that they've improved on their bad habits
that once drove a wedge in your relationship.
If they're changing
and they want you to know first and foremost,
it may be a sign they're doing it for you.
So, have you noticed any of these signs in your ex?
Or, perhaps you've noticed some of these signs in yourself?
Let us know in the comments below.
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