Hi everyone! Welcome to another episode of Ask TSL. Today, we'll be answering your relationship questions...
- that you've submitted on... - Instagram!
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- (PD) You can start with this. - I'm scared.
Whoa, this is so relatable.
"Damn sian because I went out with a guy after talking throughout CB...
and once he pulled down his mask, I realized he looked nothing like his pictures.
Sorry, but I feel like ghosting him because of it."
- It is like semi-catfishing, you know. - It is catfishing! Why does he look nothing like his pictures?
I feel like it's his fault. Anyone who catfishes is a no-no.
I got catfished before, so I know the feeling.
You should be like, "I'm not really feelin' it because you're doing false advertising."
Unless you're ok with only dating the top half, with his mask on. Then sure. Go forth.
But I don't think you should ghost him, because it's kind of mean. Just let him know.
Just be like, "The guy I developed feelings for...
was the guy in your pictures, but false advertising."
So... Bye bye.
Just cover the face. Bang the base.
Later the base also ugly.
Girls have makeup. If you reverse the whole scenario,
instead of mask it's makeup, it would be quite ****ed up to say,
"She's not pretty." You know?
I always think that if you don't like something about a person, doesn't mean that it's bad.
It just means that it's not for you. There might be a girl out there who likes this ugly man.
Don't yuck on people's yums. In conclusion...
Cover the face and bang the base!
"I can't move on from a guy whom I like but doesn't like me back. Any advice?"
Ow. That hurts.
One sided love...
You should listen to sad songs by Eric Chou and stare out of the window.
♬ 如果雨之後... After the rain~ ♬
I think it really depends - we need to know about your situation. How long have you liked him?
What's the dynamic? Are you guys friends? Is there a chance you guys can get together?
There are too many considerations.
One advice would be to separate yourself from the guy.
Also, if you guys keep having interactions, you'll just little reasons, or signs when there are no signs...
Like he could say or do something completely normal,
and you'd be like, "Oh, does that mean he wants me?"
As long as you're not emotionally invested, there's nothing wrong with having a crush.
Feel the feely things inside.
You should allow yourself to feel. As long as you're not crying.
From a distance. If it hurts too much, then just leave the room, girl.
Finished?
Next.
Oh my God, this is a very relatable question!
"What would you do to get over your ex?"
I've only been in one relationship, and when I went through my first breakup experience,
I asked everyone in the whole wide world. They'd be having a random conversation with me and I'd be like...
"Have you ever broken up? What did you do to get over your ex? I need help..."
I have, like, 10,000 suggestions, but what worked for me was to focus so much on yourself
and your own life that you love yourself way more than your ex.
They'll get jealous of how happy you are without them.
Your ex is jealous?
I tell you, I know what kind of guy he is, and I know how he is reacting to the whole Rainae thing, so...
I showed your Instagram to him before. I showed him and his guy best friend.
I said, "This guy is cute." Then him and his best friend got ****ing angry.
I don't do the revenge thing. More so... living my best life.
I replace my ex with food.
In all honesty, if you need to get a rebound, go for it.
Just let the person that's being the rebound know
that they're a rebound and this is just for fun.
- Time really heals all wounds. - It really does. You will look back...
and be like, "I can't believe I used to be so sad."
"Why am I so hung up on this girl?"
- Memories will fade. - There are many other fishes in the sea.
- I think that you're a salmon. - I love salmon.
- Just nice... - Highly sought after at Genki.
And it's my favorite fish.
Just kidding haha
"What do you do when you like someone, but you're too shy to ask them out?"
One tactic I've always used is...
I wouldn't say, "Let's go out on a date."
Normally I'd say, "You wanna hang out? Today I'm OT-ing. Wanna go for dinner?"
Low key.
Or drag an unwilling friend to Sushiro.
No. I do get this, not because I'm the shy type,
but I've gotten rejections before.
So I'm scared.
- Now it's "Wanna hang out?" "Wnat bubble tea? I buy for you." - That's so nice.
You want? Bubble tea?
I don't know if you're a guy or girl, but if you're a guy,
The chill way works because there's a lot less pressure on it having to be a formal date,
but it can also be really hot if the guy is assertive.
"What are you doing on Tuesday? I wanna take you out."
"Wear something nice. I have something special planned for you."
Or don't wear anything, you know.
[Slurps]
"Any ideas for places to go in SG for date? Everywhere damn boring."
When you say that everywhere is damn boring, it just means that you're going with the wrong person.
If you go with the right person to a damn boring place, like a... field.
You can make something out of it.
You can just pluck the grass out from the field and be like... [deranged screaming]
Or if you're trapped in a lift.
Right?
I love going to take the lift with my date, because I'll always have my fingers crossed that we'll be alone in the lift,
And once the doors close we'll be like...
But like I said, any boring place can... not be boring, if you're with the right person.
Um, beach is super low (on the list) for me, because I'm conscious about my body.
I'd say beach, though. Because there are so many things... So many things...
- Are you going to say 'so many things to see'? - Yeah, so many things to see, so many things to do!
- What are the things you're seeing? - Actually, I just go there for AJ Hackett (bungee jump) and Wavehouse.
See what?
I've got a very standard first date formula.
I'll always avoid the cinema, because if it's a first date, I want to talk and get to know the person more.
I'll always factor in some activity like the arcade,
so that we can let loose and have fun.
Also, if you say, "I want a soft toy from the claw machine!"
Then the guy can be like, "Oh! I'll win it for you!"
"Babe, I win for you, you know!"
"Oh my God! I love it! I'll hug it at night."
Yeah!
Every time I hug it at night I'll think of you...
Take a photo of myself and be like, "Thank you! I'm cuddling it!"
Sigh. Now you all know all my secrets.
"What dating apps do y'all recommend?"
Let!
Me!
Tell!
You!
I'll say first. The typical one is Tinder.
For guys, it's not exactly for dating or serious stuff.
- It's just for hookups. - It's for hookups.
Coffee Meets Bagel is a little more serious.
It's very serious.
I still don't get this CMB app. Must collect 'beans'. I don't know how to play this game.
Even though Tinder is famous for being the 'not serious' kind of thing,
it's actually where I got the most meaningful matches.
CMB is supposed to be serious and for you to find your lifelong partner, but
for me it's very boring. I guess it's because I only like f***boys.
- There's one called Bumble, which is really good. - A bee? Is it a bee?
Oh, that's Honestbee. Sorry.
I'm gonna kill you!
♬ Oh...you touch my tra la la Mmm...my ding ding dong ♬
- Why you whack me there?! - Sorry.
- So on Bumble - - No!
Don't touch me there. This is! My No-No Square.
On Bumble, only the girl can initiate conversation. So if you don't say hi, the guy can't even message you.
There is also a friendship function on Bumble which I think is cute.
There's Grindr...
There's OKCupid.
- Gaigai... - And Paktor...
- No, but which would you recommend? - I recommend Tinder.
Simple because it's a numbers game, and it's a higher ratio of people who are interested in meeting up.
I hate the whole texting buddy thing. Oh my God. Go get a penpal.
Generally, I don't do the app thing, because I like the human connection right from the start.
"Is it ok to have physical touch on the first date?"
- If there's consent, obviously. - Consent is everything.
There's no rule; you don't have to listen to any rules or Google...
"How many dates do I need to wait before the first kiss?" "How many dates before blah blah blah..."
Everyone has their own comfort zone. If both you and your partner are aligned,
just go for it. You don't have to be like, "We need to know each other for X amount of weeks". It's ridiculous.
For me, if I'm on a date and I don't want to hold a guy's hand,
instead of putting my hands by my side while walking, I'll hold something... For me, if I'm on a date and I don't want to hold a guy's hand,
instead of putting my hands by my side while walking, I'll hold something...
so that he doesn't even get the access.
But if I want to hold a guy's hand but he's not picking up on the hint it's very frustrating, because I'm literally like,
His hand is here, and I'm like...
"How do I know if my crush is interested in me?"
I feel like there's also no textbook answer.
Everyone has their own different ways of showcasing that
they like you. Some people are super closed off,
and you'll never be able to guess but deep inside, their feelings are very strong.
For some people,
they may be exhibiting a lot of signs that you or other people pick up on,
but they're not that interested. It's just how they behave.
So it boils down to the individual.
And if all fails, I think that you should just ask them, because...
if it's a crush, it could lead to something more,
so what are you waiting for? Either you start dating,
or you know that they're not interested and you can move on instead of wasting time.
I feel like if he didn't reciprocate the feelings in the first place, it should be alright.
As long as that friend knows not to overstep again.
But if both of them are constantly wondering what it'd have been like if they dated, it's a bit iffy.
In general, relationships are all down to one thing, which is trust.
No matter if there are guys, girls, or whoever in their lives,
the moment you distrust your partner, that's when you need to question your relationship.
If somebody were to come onto my girlfriend,
I'll be okay...
- I will be okay. That means... - Can you not say that?!
Can you rephrase?
Come on my girlfriend - come -
It's correct what! 'Come onto'.
Isn't it?
So you want to make your relationship like an impenetrable fortress,
which nobody can penetrate.
Hehe
I think that other than trust, commitment is very important. Love is passionate and fleeting.
You can't always depend on the feelings to be strong, especially on rainy days or when you guys have a fight.
As long as there's a commitment on both ends that you guys are gonna make it work
throughout the tough times, then it's a strong foundation.
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Bye!
No! Don't touch me there. This is! My no no square.